Children ‘Screaming’ in Stores

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I did not take mty children out when they were sick especially an ear ache. If my child was acting ugly while we were out usually a look would suffice. Otherwise I would just leave the store. Its hard to believe a parent would slap a sick child or any child for that matter.
 

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terry123 said:
I did not take mty children out when they were sick especially an ear ache. If my child was acting ugly while we were out usually a look would suffice. Otherwise I would just leave the store. Its hard to believe a parent would slap a sick child or any child for that matter.
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THIS ^^^^^^ I consider a normal, loving, parental response.
Everything about it is logical but loving. This is the type of response I was expecting from a parent who has had to deal with children

Thank you Terry!
 
Robusta said:
Oh, I hate it too. When my oldest was about three, she had problem ears so she was whiney a lot. I remember we were in Wal Greens one time and the little snot was holding her ear crying, no more like screaming. People were starting to look so I slapped that brat right across the kisser. Ya shoulda seen the look on her face! bUT HOT DAMN It sure shut her the hell up and also taught her to behave in public!
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If this is true, it's horrifying. Striking a sick child for crying out in pain and bragging about it??
 

Shalimar said:
I do also, this is egregious. It is child abuse. No accountability, no remorse. Calling the sick child names.The person who needs to have their behaviour addressed is the parent not the child. Add to that, the complete lack of empathy for the child’s

ear infection, I am disgusted. Anyone who has ever had an ear infection is all too aware of how painful they are. I presume this occurred decades ago, now, someone in the store would contact Social Services and the process would begin. If I saw such a thing, I am mandated under the law to report it.
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I agree Shalimar. If this were to have happened in this decade , someone would have contacted social services immediately.
 
Hasn't it occurred to anyone that Robusta was taking the mickey because of all the moaning about children screaming in supermarkets and blaming bad parenting.

I have an autistic great grandaughter who has had several melt downs in supermarkets where she will lay on the floor shouting and screaming and it has absolutely nothing to do with bad parenting it is something that can't be helped....just a shame people are not more understanding but like to blame poor parenting all the time without knowing the true circumstances.

So what would you suggest to her mother....... not to take her out.:rolleyes:
 
Robusta made a cruel statement with NO hint that he was taking the mickey, so until Robusta comes on and explains that he was 'taking the mickey', then scorn will be heaped upon him for what he DID say.

I agree entirely with what you say about autistic children and the parents cannot be blamed for their behavour, but not every screaming kid in a supermarket is autistic.
 
Ferocious said:
Robusta made a cruel statement with NO hint that he was taking the mickey, so until Robusta comes on and explains that he was 'taking the mickey', then scorn will be heaped upon him for what he DID say.

I agree entirely with what you say about autistic children and the parents cannot be blamed for their behavour, but not every screaming kid in a supermarket is autistic.
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Agree completely. The minority of screaming out of control children in a public place have medical issues, most of them are just allowed by their parents to learn there are no consequences for their actions these days.

I have to say I read Robustas' post believing he was making a sick joke..verrrrrrry, verrrry bad taste ... I can't believe for a second he would admit on a forum he hit a sick toddler ... so I'll reserve judgement for the moment...

That said, my father would hit me in public, so I know it happens
 
Ferocious said:
Robusta made a cruel statement with NO hint that he was taking the mickey, so until Robusta comes on and explains that he was 'taking the mickey', then scorn will be heaped upon him for what he DID say.

I agree entirely with what you say about autistic children and the parents cannot be blamed for their behavour, but not every screaming kid in a supermarket is autistic.
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I prefer to reserve judgement before condemning any one.

I am not saying every screaming child in a supermarket is autistic, what I am saying until people know the circumstances they should not blame poor parenting skills.

I knew nothing about autism until my great grandaughter was diagnosed and then I did research on it and because of that I would be much more tolerant of a screaming child and not condemn the parents just because I don't know the circumstances.
 
There was one screaming on the bus the other day.

I put my earphones on and turned the radio on.

Because of the pitch it didn't drown it out completely. It's quite common. Actually the mothers ignore them because if you try to stop them, they become worse.
 
Keesha said:
And I’m fairly certain he wasn’t. I’ve read plenty of his posts.
He gave details about his reasoning for losing it on his screaming ‘injured’ child and even expressed his delight in seeing her hurt expression.
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Keesha, you can kiss my lily white ass. You "know" me from a few posts on a forum board?

Anyone who thinks that myself or anyone would come out in public bragging about child abuse does not rank especially high in the intelligence department. I have three children five grandchildren and 3 great grandchildren. Never have I used any method of corporal punishment on them. I find sitting them is a chair and long boring lecture will suffice.

I guess that some people want the world to be so evil, that instead of thinking a bit,they take every character typed as gospel.

I made this SATIRICAL POST because every poster without exception accused the parents of an upset Kid of bad or neglectful parenting. Not a one of you considered that the kid may be sick, that the parent needed food in the house had worked a ten hour day,gotten the older kids off the school bus, or any of a million human travails that parent may be experiencing!

Oh no as long as your private quiet little shopping spree is not compromised by another human,all is fine.

Nice empathy folks!
 
nobody hits a sick child they try to comfort them cause they are hurting---usually a child screaming in a store is either tired or hungry--pay back is a bi$$$
 
Curious, just what would you all do it you were the mother of that child? Am sure that she just as upset as the shoppers were. Perhaps even more so, frustrated not being able to quiet the child, knowing how annoyed others were, as well aware they are condemning her. Yet needing to buy groceries. Can totally empathize, for one of my boys was a screamer.
 
No I’d rather not kiss your ass Robusta.


Ok let’s break down what you said sentence by sentence.
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Quote: Oh I hate it too. ( simple enough, many do )


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When my oldest was three, she had problem ears, so she was whiney a lot.
( yes I clearly understood that she was sick which I mentioned )


True or just kidding?
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I remember we were in Walgreens one time and the ‘little snot’ was holding her ear crying , no more like screaming?

( you have a specific location )

True or just kidding?
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People were starting to look so I slapped that ‘brat’ right across the kisser.


True or just kidding?
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You shoulda seen the look on her face!


True or just kidding?
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BUT HOT DAMN It sure shut her the hell up and also taught her to behave in public. Unquote.


True or just kidding?


So every single sentence was a joke that I and everyone else should know?


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Now you say :


Quote: Not one of you considered that the child may be sick , that the parent needed food in the house and that the parent had worked ten hours that day, gotten the older kids off the school bus or any of a million other travails that the parent might be experiencing . :Unquote.


“””””””””””””””””””””””””””””


Ok so while you were merely joking about the entire other paragraph you felt the need to justify what exactly with this next paragraph?

Of course you don’t have to answer any of these questions but to my mind this is how it looked to me (and others.)


And to be perfectly honest Robusta, I rarely, if ever say boo about anybody’s parenting skills.
One, because I have no children of my own and would feel exceptionally arrogant offering any advice whatsoever.

Two , because I didn’t have good role models myself , so have never felt a right to speak out about it ; however , if I do ever feel like there is abuse going on , I will always speak out about it. I’d rather look like a caring fool than one who turns a blind eye and doesn’t give a chit.
 
Keesha I was not joking! I was attempting to point out that people see something that they don't like (screaming children) and then heap all kinds of shade on the parents. They make no attempt what so ever to put themselves in another persons shoes.

You were so eager,so rabid,so viscious in your attack on me! Do you really think that there exists anyone so callous ansd twisted to do something like that to a child and then brag about it?

I know that I am brash,plain spoken, and can be crude, but please tell me what I have ever posted that causes you to think that of me?
 
I work in a field where I regularly see the effects of rage on children, beaten, broken, often murdered. I have seen perps brag about it on Facebook. One man shook his child so hard she died from the injuries. They were in Walmart. Also, several posters

have posted of experiencing abusive childhoods. While I am greatly relieved that in this case the abuse did not occcur, I think the post was in poor taste. Speaking of empathy, there was none given to those survivors of childhood abuse. Reading this thread is an incitement to being triggered.
 
Robusta said:
I know that I am brash,plain spoken, and can be crude, but please tell me what I have ever posted that causes you to think that of me?
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I know I shouldn't speak for another person, but I feel compelled to offer this:

I believe Keesha took you at your word as did the rest. It wasn't easy to see the sarcasm.

Keesha later said-

" however , if I do ever feel like there is abuse going on , I will always speak out about it. I’d rather look like a caring fool than one who turns a blind eye and doesn’t give a chit."

I think that's an admirable quality.
 
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When I see a young child screaming in a public place I generally smile at the parent and gently say, "Been there, done that, feel your pain."

In my experience, a parent who lets a child scream it out does so because he/she has previously tried all other means of hushing that child. Rare indeed are the parents who want to disturb other shoppers or make spectacles of themselves.
 
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Robusta, I'm glad, and relieved, to hear that you were just being sarcastic. I also took you at your word. Maybe your sarcasm skills need to be polished a little; if you are too subtle about the fact that you are
"just kidding," people might not realize that.

The signs at airport security say, "We take jokes seriously." While that is not who we are here, sometimes an attempt at humor might be taken seriously also.

To get back to the subject, I generally sympathize with the embarrassed, and pretty much helpless, parent. Except, as someone has pointed out, if the parent is too engrossed in her phone conversation to give the kid some
desparately needed attention. I've been in stores where a young child is saying, "Ma? Ma?" over and over again, obviously needing Mommy's attention, and the mother is totally oblivious, chatting away on the phone. Unfortunately, being a parent doesn't require an intelligence test. It should.
 
ndynt said:
Curious, just what would you all do it you were the mother of that child? Am sure that she just as upset as the shoppers were. Perhaps even more so, frustrated not being able to quiet the child, knowing how annoyed others were, as well aware they are condemning her. Yet needing to buy groceries. Can totally empathize, for one of my boys was a screamer.
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It never happened to me, but bear in mind I only have one child. So to answer your question Nona, I would take the child out of the store and go home.
 
StarSong said:
When I see a young child screaming in a public place I generally smile at the parent and gently say, "Been there, done that, feel your pain."

In my experience, a parent who lets a child scream it out does so because he/she has previously tried all other means of hushing that child. Rare indeed are the parents who want to disturb other shoppers or make spectacles of themselves.
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I agree.
 
Sunny said:
Robusta, I'm glad, and relieved, to hear that you were just being sarcastic. I also took you at your word. Maybe your sarcasm skills need to be polished a little; if you are too subtle about the fact that you are
"just kidding," people might not realize that.

The signs at airport security say, "We take jokes seriously." While that is not who we are here, sometimes an attempt at humor might be taken seriously also.

To get back to the subject, I generally sympathize with the embarrassed, and pretty much helpless, parent. Except, as someone has pointed out, if the parent is too engrossed in her phone conversation to give the kid some
desparately needed attention. I've been in stores where a young child is saying, "Ma? Ma?" over and over again, obviously needing Mommy's attention, and the mother is totally oblivious, chatting away on the phone. Unfortunately, being a parent doesn't require an intelligence test. It should.
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100% agree... and the other one that gets my back up is parents crossing the road, pushing a pram with one hand, toddler or more kids walking by the side of the pram, and the mother (and sadly it's usually the mother)..staring at her phone, completely oblivious to the safety of the children or the fact that they're in mortal danger.
 
Robusta said:


I made this SATIRICAL POST because every poster without exception accused the parents of an upset Kid of bad or neglectful parenting...
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Not that I give a flying frack, but you are mistaken. Yesterday, I said this...

C'est Moi said:
If it's bratty screaming, it does get on my nerves. I usually feel sorry for the mom, though. Being a good parent is hard work.
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So you can climb off your high horse. Your ugly post did not sound like a "joke." I raised 5 children, so I know how exhausting parenting can be.
 

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