Any legal service you can contact?
No, because he has not really done anything. See, I had him tested, it showed he has a lot of rage in general not rage directed at me. In other words, it was nothing personnel about me, I am just there. Kind of like a person who hates his neighbor and kills the neighbors dog.
The psychologist who tested him recommended he get therapy, he won’t. That therapists recommended I get therapy to learn ways to cope with him, my husband, but I’ve already had that therapy, in a way, in learning to deal with mentally ill foster kids. The psychologist also said I need to be very careful of him and I am.
The problem is you can’t reason with crazy. Most of the time he’s fine, but I noticed in the last couple years he is changing. And in the last six months, some stuff has happened which I won’t talk about, but he’s got a bit stranger. I am going back to his doctor and ask for more testing, different, testing. My husband has agreed to more testing as even he realizes something is going on.
All those years ago he got blown off that tank in Viet Nam. All these years, the veterans administration has denied all these brain injury claims to veterans who are clearly a bit off. I still think in addition to PTSD and the increasing rage issues there has got to be some kind of brain damage. Plus 3/4 years ago he had an MRI (before the testing) which showed he not only had a small bullet fragment in his forehead from a childhood accident, but his brain was shrinking.
There has got to be some medical issue with his brain. But, in order for me to track down the problem and find an approximate solution, I have to be alive.
. So I had to do what I didn’t want to do when last night he tried to deny what he said to me.
I told him I had written down what he said and told people. Sadly, I also told him, if he kept it up I’d be forced to see if there were any charges I could bring against him. I was pretty clear on this. I do NOT want to do that -it would impact both our lives and wouldn’t help in the long run.
But him saying that “he cared less for me than the dog he had rehomed”, that’s a darn big red flag, and I pointed out to him you go to jail if you hurt a dog, you go to prison if you hurt me. He seemed in a more reasonable mood last night and listened. I have no ideal what triggered all this except he was not happy about seeing the doctor again and learning he still had pneumonia.
I think there is no current danger to me. I only need to get through the next two weeks, which is what I told him, and I will then leave if he wants or stay. But I have a plan either way.
I need to see a therapist to get all this on record and, if necessary, be able to commit him, again if necessary to a hospital not a jail. Or, hopefully, medication cause he needs medication. I don’t think jail or a hospital will be necessary but just in case. I think the pneumonia and less oxygen is playing a part too in this. Anyway, I plan on seeing a therapist and getting advice.