Cremation or burial ? What is your choice ?

As a young man in my twenties, I worked for about a year for a body removal service here in Toronto. We were the ones who went to the place of death and transported the deceased to the funeral home. So you could say I was the fly on the wall, observing the traditional funeral practices . The actual cost of caskets provided to the funeral home is about 80 percent less than the price charged to the family. The prices charged for "services " are also grossly inflated above what it actually costs the " home " to provide them. The phrase "funerals are for the living, not the dead " was commonly expressed by the staff at the funeral homes. In many cases the funeral directors used high pressure tactics on the surviving family members " to give Dad a REALLY NICE FUNERAL " that pushed them to go into debt to pay for it. In some cases, the casket that the family bought and paid for was switched for a much cheaper one, and the original was resold to another grieving family. ' The funeral industry fights hard against any legislation that would institute legal oversight on their business ethics. JimB.
 
I would prefer to be fertilizer for a tree, but I'm not sure that is an easy option here. Barring that, all my paperwork says cremation. I did tell my daughter to just abandon my ashes. I cremated my brother and my son and they reside inside ceramic cherubs on my fireplace mantel. But, then they become a "burden of responsibility" to others when I die. Now, I personally don't want to add to my daughter's burdens. Not everyone wants to decorate with cherubs.
 
Cremation for me. I have a strong distaste for the idea of embalming with poisonous chemicals and then the body placed in the Earth.

There is a Green Burial cemetery in my area of SC. It is a really nice option.
 
After watching this movie: (spoiler alert; it doesn't end well)

Also, becoming aware of this girl's alleged plight:
Rufina Cambacérès was born into a wealthy family, heirs to a large cattle fortune, and her father Eugenio Cambacérès, was a well known writer and politician. Rufina suffered an early tragedy when her father died of tuberculosis when she was only four years old.

In 1902, Rufina was nineteen and had grown into a beautiful young woman, and something of a Buenos Aires socialite. While getting ready to attend a show, Rufina suddenly and without warning collapsed onto the floor. (Many modern versions of this story include a bit about this being caused by a scandalous revelation, something about her boyfriend sleeping with his own mother, but this is almost certainly a fabrication added on later to spice up the story.) Doctors were called in, and supposedly all three doctors pronounced the young Rufina dead of a heart attack. Rufina was put in a coffin and sealed in her mausoleum, and a funeral was held.

A few days after the funeral, a cemetery worker found that the coffin had moved within the crypt and the lid was broken in places. Fearing grave robbery, he opened it to find something even worse—scratch marks covering the inside of the coffin, and Rufina dead, hands and face bruised from having tried to break her way out of the coffin.

The explanation doctors were said to have given later is that Rufina had suffered a attack of “catalepsy” (the classic buried-alive diagnosis, and the one used in Edgar Allan Poe’s “The Premature Burial”) and later awakened in her coffin, only to die of exhaustion and shock.

I think I'll go with cremation, just to be on the safe side.
 
Mama jokingly said a few years back that because of my lack of friends that if I go first she'd have to find a place that rents pallbearers.

I stewed on it a second or two and figured that by golly she was right so I told her to just cremate me......don't need pallbearers to carry a Mason jar full of ashes. :)
 
IKE said:
Mama jokingly said a few years back that because of my lack of friends that if I go first she'd have to find a place that rents pallbearers.

I stewed on it a second or two and figured that by golly she was right so I told her to just cremate me......don't need pallbearers to carry a Mason jar full of ashes. :)
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I know that you were making a joke but.......When I was a young guy in my early 20's I worked for about a year for a body removal service here in Toronto. We were the guys who went to the place of death and transported the deceased to the funeral home. We also got calls to be silent mourners at Jewish funerals of WW2 camp survivors, who had no living relatives. We would be paid $25 to stand at the graveside, by the local Jewish temple. Not pall bearers, but we were paid to be there. JimB.
 
Cremation……..from a young kid , I’ve always said , that I don’t want to be buried and eaten by the worms 😳😳
 
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I haven't decided yet. I am leaning towards cremation...

My wife of 52+ years wants to be buried with her Mom and Dad in a family plot. I refuse to be their with them in any form. I could be buried with my parents and sister, but I hated my sister and never understood why my parents tolerated her. So that does not work for me either. What we do really is not about us, it is about our remaining family. In my case that is our three adult kids...

My wife has made her choice, and I really don't feel right about asking my kids what they think, or I would have to share all the 'dirty laundry' above. They don't need that! So, probably I will be cremated and ask my kids to spread my ashes in a high mountain lake, where I grew up...
 
wow I am surprised most are for cremation..I am too but I thought more would be for traditional funerals. My only hesitation was grandchildren would not have a place to visit if ashes are scattered. Still, I will choose cremation, and not sure what will be done with my ashes..and frankly, I do not care. It is up to my kids to determine what they want..
 
I will be cremated as I have no siblings or children. So it would just be my wife and she plans on getting cremated as well . She is almost 10 years younger than I am so I imagine she will go after I will.
 
It's cremation for me for sure and it's all paid for. Worms are not going to feast on me. Actually, I have a little box from Amazon where my ashes are going to go. When you really think about it, after I'm gone, I wouldn't care, will I? I wouldn't be having any of those very expensive Mafia funerals that Hollywood seems to love.
 

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there is a new way....called....Terramation. they make compost of you and use it to grow new trees, and other veg.
id like that way. one has to learn if ones area can do that method id guess.

i fear the county will dump my ashes in the homeless pit. no one else will notice im gone or do anything.
that freaks me out.

where my horses are buried next to one another, i then sprinkled the ashes of allll the dogs cats over the years
around the horses so they are all together. i put some of my hair in the brush around the horse graves too.
i am not able to have my ashes put there however.
 

Cremation or burial ? What is your choice ?​


Burn me

Toss my ashes into the Salmon river
It'll be the Chinook's turn to dine

As far as a twist to things, a few old posters I created come to mind

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Cremation. As was my husband. I have not decided what to do with our dust...probably sprinkled at a few favorite places. Some will go to the military veterans cemetery in Gettysburg...a couple Rick and I were very close to are buried there. I am hoping someone will take someof our combined ashes there and sprinkle them around the graves, The wife of the couple introed us.
 
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