Darcy or the other fella, Heathcliffe or safe guy?

grahamg

grahamg

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In romance would you say the dashing soldier, (from "Women in love" was it?), or handsome but difficult Darcy attracts you like Miss Elizabeth Bennett (in Jane Austins novel, "Pride and prejudice"), or a safer, albeit more boring option the right choice for you?

Wuthering Heights had its high drama love affair didn't it, and Clark Gable won in the end didn't he, (apologies if all my literary or film references are a bit askew)?

You get the idea for the thread, do you go for a dependable partner, or one who you know is always going to be a bit of a challenge? :unsure: .
 

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Lots of challenges in my younger days; they were much more interesting and fun. :) At this season of life, if I were interested (and I'm not) in finding a partner, I'd go for dependable.
 

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grahamg said:
In romance would you say the dashing soldier, (from "Women in love" was it?), or handsome but difficult Darcy attracts you like Miss Elizabeth Bennett (in Jane Austins novel, "Pride and prejudice"), or a safer, albeit more boring option the right choice for you?

Wuthering Heights had its high drama love affair didn't it, and Clark Gable won in the end didn't he, (apologies if all my literary or film references are a bit askew)?

You get the idea for the thread, do you go for a dependable partner, or one who you know is always going to be a bit of a challenge? :unsure: .
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Clark Gable wasn't in Wuthering Heights. He was Rhett Butler, Fletcher Christian and others as I remember.

I wouldn't like either a dashing rake or a dull stick in the mud. Something in between please. :giggle:
 
chic said:
Clark Gable wasn't in Wuthering Heights. He was Rhett Butler, Fletcher Christian and others as I remember.
I wouldn't like either a dashing rake or a dull stick in the mud. Something in between please. :giggle:
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Oh yeah, Rhett Butler, (with Vivien Leigh playing the female lead - maybe I shouldn't risk anymore film, or literary references. šŸ¤¬ ?).

So a bit racy then, but not James Bond or something similar, (how about someone you've known since first grade, "that kind of safe too much"?).

I'd not be chasing the equivalent of Vivien Leigh, but "just out of reach" types appeal I admit, without enough thought for the future on my part perhaps. :unsure: .
 
Those rakes don't seem to be attracting much support on the thread, so those handsome devils are not as lucky as you'd have thought, given nature seemed to give them such advantages! :rolleyes: .

"The world has changed so much in my lifetime",(that sounds so much like my father speaking. ), however it has changed in regard to marriage, or interpersonal relationships, as much as anything I'd say.

Do you know when I went to secondary school our religious studies teacher brought in a man who spoke us about "not taking advantage of young girls, and the effect it might have on their morals or future if we did"! Nowadays I'd guess those boys the same age are being taught to have as many intimate relationships as they like, and certainly not to criticise anyone who does. :unsure: .
 
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Now I can't get images of Poldark out of my head. :devilish:
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Poldark was a heart throb for a good many I think, (the original series in the UK was shown in the 1970s I think?). :unsure:.

Demelza was the wife or partner, but he married beneath him perhaps, (a serious matter in those days of horse drawn carriages and sailing ships etc.). :oops:.
 
DaveA said:
I think that the "dashing soldier" types might make up a greater number of the "ex's" in this world.
Could be wrong but the "dashing" part may wear thin with the ladies, after a bit of time passes?
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A cousin of mine had a choice between a dashing airman, and a very dependable, very intelligent, but hardly dashing and not very handsome guy. She chose the dependable one, and its proved a wise decision in the sense he's been dedicated to her, and as her health failed aged fifty, he gave up his job as a highly capable music teacher, to be her carer.
However, my dear mum, when her niece was weighing up her options, admitted she'd have been tempted by the dashing boyfriend, though we all came to like and appreciate the solid guy too. :) .
 
grahamg said:
A cousin of mine had a choice between a dashing airman, and a very dependable, very intelligent, but hardly dashing and not very handsome guy. She chose the dependable one, and its proved a wise decision in the sense he's been dedicated to her, and as her health failed aged fifty, he gave up his job as a highly capable music teacher, to be her carer.
However, my dear mum, when her nice was weighing up her options, admitted she'd have been tempted by the dashing boyfriend, though we all came to like and appreciate the solid guy too. :) .
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It's like the foundation of a structure or building, you can build it big and strong, and while it's hidden, it will always be there... forever dependable and trusty, or you can build a foundation to look good, and in the end the foundation that was built to look good won't last.
 
The hero in Wuthering Heights 1939 movie was played by Sir Lawrence Olivier. Merle Oberon was his romantic lead.

I prefer Darcy - Olivier was wonderful but that version of P&P sucked; so I'll have to go with the more authentic BBC/A&E version from 1995, starring Colin Firth. Even the haircuts were historically accurate in that TV mini-series.

Personally I'm not a fan of gothic novels and avoid the Bronte sisters like the plague. I'm a Georgian/Regency fan - give me Georgette Heyer, Jo Beverley, or Mary Balogh any day.
 
grahamg said:
Poldark was a heart throb for a good many I think, (the original series in the UK was shown in the 1970s I think?). :unsure:.

Demelza was the wife or partner, but he married beneath him perhaps, (a serious matter in those days of horse drawn carriages and sailing ships etc.). :oops:.
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The original Demelza was very appealing too. I thought the second version would not be able to match the first but both have good entertainment value.
 

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