Dating after 55

jujube said:
It took a long time to meet Mr. Right, but in the meantime I went out with his cousins: Mr. Boring, Mr. Mean, Mr. Egotistic, Mr. Cheap, Mr. Destitute, Mr. One-foot-in-the-grave, Mr. I'll-never-trust-another-woman-again, Mr. I-can't-get-over-my-late-wife, and Mr. I'm-actually-still-married-but-my-wife-doesn't-understand-me.

My first date was almost my last date. The 10 minutes or so we were on a "date" ended up with me dumping a glass of iced tea in his lap. It wasn't an accident, either. I was just about ready to give up at that point and get a cat or something. As the old widow said, "Why would I want another husband? I have a chimney that smokes, a dog that snores and a cat that stays out all night."
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Don't forget the handsome young fellas that still live at home!!!

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Trade said:
Did you really buy that load of bullshit he was feeding you? I've seen dudes tell some pretty far out stories trying to get laid, but that one takes the cake. "I've got a lot of dough baby and it can all be yours when I check out in six years"
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Excuse me? No. Are you talking about his name being on the monument at Cape Canaveral as one of the founders of the space program and an engineer? I looked that up on the internet and his name is on there. Is it his name? According to his and my financial adviser, his name is correct. According to his riches, he said he's using the legal option to pay his daughter up to 14k per year out of his investment. I happen to know that you can't use that option for your children unless you have over 5million so I know he has at least that much.
 
Lara said:
I've dated a little. Last time was a few months ago and interesting. We were set up by our financial planner...bless her heart. He was fit, attractive enough, and filthy rich (I'm not, but comfortable and happy), he talked non-stop about money, everything he said was connected in some way to money. He wore a big gold ring and drove my dream car (convertible Lexus).

His name is on a monument at Cape Canaveral as a founding member of the space program and was an engineer. I was impressed by his accomplishments but totally turned off by all of his money talk and and focus on himself....and his desire to die by assisted means in exactly 6 years. I was able to wiggle my way into his one-sided "conversation" long enough to mention that he was healthy and fit and had a lot to live for still but he stood very firm and I made no impact on his decision. The conversation quickly shifted back to him him him. We had nothing in common as far as I could tell.

He even told me that he meets with his buddies once a week at Costco for a hotdog...$1.50. Everything was punctuated with a price, even a hot dog. I know, some are saying I was an idiot not to hang in there for 6 years and walk away rich (my sister did), and don't think that it didn't cross my mind...but the thought was very fleeting..INSTANT even. It's just 100% against my moral fiber to use or manipulate someone for monetary gain.

I wouldn't want to give 6 years of my life to a stranger I had no interest in for anything. I know that if I dated him then maybe there was a chance I could have brought out the best in him over time but that inner voice was strongly saying...walk away. So I did. No regrets. 6 years of the remaining portion of my life is significant. I want it to be happy and with a good purpose. A simple life sounds good to me.
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WOW!! A marriage proposal on a first date. That's pretty impressive.
 

Lara said:
I was impressed by his accomplishments but totally turned off by all of his money talk and and focus on himself....and his desire to die by assisted means in exactly 6 years. I was able to wiggle my way into his one-sided "conversation" long enough to mention that he was healthy and fit and had a lot to live for still but he stood very firm and I made no impact on his decision. The conversation quickly shifted back to him him him. We had nothing in common as far as I could tell.

He even told me that he meets with his buddies once a week at Costco for a hotdog...$1.50. Everything was punctuated with a price, even a hot dog. I know, some are saying I was an idiot not to hang in there for 6 years and walk away rich (my sister did), and don't think that it didn't cross my mind...but the thought was very fleeting..INSTANT even. It's just 100% against my moral fiber to use or manipulate someone for monetary gain.

I wouldn't want to give 6 years of my life to a stranger I had no interest in for anything. I know that if I dated him then maybe there was a chance I could have brought out the best in him over time but that inner voice was strongly saying...walk away. So I did. No regrets. 6 years of the remaining portion of my life is significant. I want it to be happy and with a good purpose. A simple life sounds good to me.
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You're a smart lady to walk away, I couldn't take somebody who was super focused on money and himself, and the fact that he wanted to commit suicide in exactly six years is pretty "strange" to say the least! :hair: If anything ever happened to my husband, I doubt I'd be interested in dating or any kind of relationship, except maybe a friendly one only, to have dinner once in awhile or take in a movie....nothing romantic. I agree with you, 'simple is good'.
 
I wouldn't even bother trying to get to know someone if something happened to mama......what would be the use ?

I ain't got enough damn dough to attract a young gal looking for a sugar daddy and I

no longer have the vigor and stamina of a young man in the bedroom to attract a wealthy cougar.

Oh well, I'd probably be better off just settling for a lazy ol' dog anyway. :D
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Lara said:
I've dated a little. Last time was a few months ago and interesting. We were set up by our financial planner...bless her heart. He was fit, attractive enough, and filthy rich (I'm not, but comfortable and happy), he talked non-stop about money, everything he said was connected in some way to money. He wore a big gold ring and drove my dream car (convertible Lexus).

His name is on a monument at Cape Canaveral as a founding member of the space program and was an engineer. I was impressed by his accomplishments but totally turned off by all of his money talk and and focus on himself....and his desire to die by assisted means in exactly 6 years. I was able to wiggle my way into his one-sided "conversation" long enough to mention that he was healthy and fit and had a lot to live for still but he stood very firm and I made no impact on his decision. The conversation quickly shifted back to him him him. We had nothing in common as far as I could tell.

He even told me that he meets with his buddies once a week at Costco for a hotdog...$1.50. Everything was punctuated with a price, even a hot dog. I know, some are saying I was an idiot not to hang in there for 6 years and walk away rich (my sister did), and don't think that it didn't cross my mind...but the thought was very fleeting..INSTANT even. It's just 100% against my moral fiber to use or manipulate someone for monetary gain.

I wouldn't want to give 6 years of my life to a stranger I had no interest in for anything. I know that if I dated him then maybe there was a chance I could have brought out the best in him over time but that inner voice was strongly saying...walk away. So I did. No regrets. 6 years of the remaining portion of my life is significant. I want it to be happy and with a good purpose. A simple life sounds good to me.
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It's obvious that guy knows he's a dinkus or he wouldn't feel like he had to dangle his wallet in front of you.

Ever wonder if his end of life plan would have included taking you with him? :p
 
Marie5656 said:
If I were still single, not sure I would not consider dating. Too set in my ways. I think if I become alone, I would not date again. Just develop a social network of friends.
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Agreed.

After I became single in the mid '90s I remember reading an article, mentioned being comfortable with your own company, rather than being dependent on 'having someone'....in your life. I thought that was a good strategy
 
I had been alone for a long time, was content to be so. Then along came an Italian American Taoist monk/MA master named Sifuphil who pursued me relentlessly. I never bargained for love. He captured my heart.
 
I'm not looking for some lost lover, who will complete my soul. I'm looking for somebody to bitch about things with- a friend. I'm disabled. I don't get out much. We have great senior programs- good, hearty lunches, games and of course bingo. But they are from 9-1 PM. That's way to early for me. And I don't know how I'm going to feel tomorrow. But since these are government programs, if I don't show up, they have to throw my meal away. And that's GOVERNMENT WASTE-can't have that. They get all spastic about that. So I don't go.
I chose to live in the boonies. Didn't think that through.
 
I don't have the interest or inclination to start dating again, I enjoy my own company, have a wonderful daughter and a good network of friends, if fate decides to send a special man my way thats ok but I certainly wouldn't be going out of my way to find one
 
Lara said:
Excuse me? No. Are you talking about his name being on the monument at Cape Canaveral as one of the founders of the space program and an engineer? I looked that up on the internet and his name is on there. Is it his name? According to his and my financial adviser, his name is correct. According to his riches, he said he's using the legal option to pay his daughter up to 14k per year out of his investment. I happen to know that you can't use that option for your children unless you have over 5million so I know he has at least that much.
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Forget it. I'm just jealous because he got a date with you.
 
SeaBreeze said:
You're a smart lady to walk away, I couldn't take somebody who was super focused on money and himself, and the fact that he wanted to commit suicide in exactly six years is pretty "strange" to say the least!...I agree with you, 'simple is good'.
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Cap'nSacto said:
It's obvious that guy knows he's a dinkus or he wouldn't feel like he had to dangle his wallet in front of you. Ever wonder if his end of life plan would have included taking you with him?
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Thank you all for the interesting responses...even from Trade and helenbaque:D

Seabreeze, thank you for your support and clarifying things:) and ty CeeCee and Shalimar too.
Cap'n, I never thought of that...eek :hide:

Ron, I agree with you and Shalimar. You're a lucky man.
 
I wouldn't know anything about that. (our 50th is a few months away - I'm trying to decide how to celebrate it - maybe a trip somewhere for a couple of nights)

God forbid, but if I became a widower, I would wander around like a lost puppy, not knowing what to do or where to go.
 
Wife and I have been together 58 years, it would be daunting to try to train a new one.
 

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