Dating in the Modern Age Yah/Nah?

VaughanJB

VaughanJB

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So, I was thinking about my own youth and the dating scene, and then comparing it with todays. Talk about a stark difference!

For a start the only way to meet people was by going out somewhere. Dating businesses ran, but they were for richer folk. Today? A partner is one swipe to the right away.

Then I think about how much info people can get about others today. I don't know if anyone ever meets for a date as a stranger any more. People look on Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat etc. They can know an awful lot about each other (or seem to, because Social Media is useless at providing context). I don't have a social media presence, and that's probably seen as more of a problem than having one.

Then, when dating someone, you can speak endlessly. No more, "well, good night, I'll call you tomorrow". Nope, DM's mean the conversations just go on and on. Worse, they're shared, and privacy is gone.

Finally there's the control. Since it's easy to track where someone is via their Smartphone, it's got to be difficult. Frankly, it all sounds like a nightmare scenario. Can you imagine? I'm not even saying I'd of been immune to it. If I could find out where my girlfriend was, would I have done it? Yeah, probably. Yikes!

Modern dating gets a NAY from me. Honestly, I'd of been useless at it, and I wasn't that good the old way! But I don't envy people today, that's for sure.
 

hollydolly said:
All being discussed here.. it's a minefield.. I would personally hate any of my private correspondence to be shared by anyone..

Anyone joined a dating site what are your experiences?
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Well, there's no way to stop people sharing things these days. But being aware of that must feel..... very strange. Can you imagine the pressure if you're dating someone popular?!? Argh!

My buddy met his now wife on POF, so I know it does work.
 
A coincidence just occurred. This morning an old girlfriend popped into my head. I began to search for her online. I found her. It has been over 30 years since we were together. Then I found her on LinkedIn!!! I could contact her if I wanted to. I decided I didn't want to open "that" can of worms. :LOL:
 
Perhaps I am living in the past with regard to dating, but I feel that dating sites are missing an important element of getting to know someone. I think the best way of doing that is in person. Most people are remarkably unaware of body-language signals and their impact, despite the fact that we now know that most of the messages in any face-to-face conversation are revealed through body signals. We are never in a state where we are not transmitting information, through smiles, gestures, posture, and kind behavior.

At the most basic level, body language is an external signal of a person’s inner emotional state. Body language is the story our bodies tell about how we think and feel. So much of that is conveyed in person, and is mostly picked up by our subconscious. Nevertheless, we are aware of it, assuming we are paying attention.

Personally, I think you could tell more about a person within 30 minutes of sharing a coffee, than you could in a month of PM's that could be 90% groomed responses. JMO.
 
bobcat said:
Perhaps I am living in the past with regard to dating, but I feel that dating sites are missing an important element of getting to know someone. I think the best way of doing that is in person. Most people are remarkably unaware of body-language signals and their impact, despite the fact that we now know that most of the messages in any face-to-face conversation are revealed through body signals. We are never in a state where we are not transmitting information, through smiles, gestures, posture, and kind behavior.

At the most basic level, body language is an external signal of a person’s inner emotional state. Body language is the story our bodies tell about how we think and feel. So much of that is conveyed in person, and is mostly picked up by our subconscious. Nevertheless, we are aware of it, assuming we are paying attention.

Personally, I think you could tell more about a person within 30 minutes of sharing a coffee, than you could in a month of PM's that could be 90% groomed responses. JMO.
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That is why I have always believed in the old fashion dating. It takes time and it takes effort. I think most people on social media are full of themselves and would make crummy dates.
 
Paco Dennis said:
A coincidence just occurred. This morning an old girlfriend popped into my head. I began to search for her online. I found her. It has been over 30 years since we were together. Then I found her on LinkedIn!!! I could contact her if I wanted to. I decided I didn't want to open "that" can of worms. :LOL:
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I did that after 30 plus year only to help her if I could she died of cancer xmas of 2019 got another one much much stronger ties....she was a smoker and drinker......nope, not touching that ...noway. if she was deceased she would be haunting me...so she probably is making someone else miserable......play misty for me....all in all I am fortunate to have known them and to have escaped somewhat intact.
 
Well I rarely date in the classic sense and would rather casually hang out publicly with mixed gender groups of others involved in similar activities. Have refused to ever be involved in Internet dating or dating services. Don't understand how they work now or in the past. Never any gym memberships either that at least years ago was more about manipulated meat markets. But then all that rose up after I was middle aged.
 

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