Diets, Decaf & Other Dubious Deeds
- Thread starter MarciKS
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i made a decision today that i'm not gonna let someone try to make me feel bad for having a good time and being my usual silly self. i have enough stress in my life and i don't think i need to allow someone to add to it. if anyone here has a problem with me or my avatars you are more than welcome to use your ignore button. i will not be the least bit offended. because i plan to carry on and have a good time with or without you. the choice is yours. and i am done with this subject.
I've been doing a lot of reading lately on narcissism. I had a boss that was a narcissist. It was a whole beauty and the BEAST thing with his personality. And the more he grew to like me as a friend and the closer we worked together the worse it got. From what I'm reading this is important because that means he actually learned to feel something for me and that made him mad.
He made me pay for every single experience he had with me. It was odd because I had worked for him on 2 other occasions and yes he was a PITA but this time it was different. We'd become closer friends over the course of 16 yrs. I was his source. They feed off certain types of people and relationships to make themselves feel better and more important.
As things progressed I got to see sides of him that frightened me as well as making me literally feel a sorrow for him like no other. I think it's possible his mother may have abused him and at the time he had to take care of her at the end. I think he resented that. But the way he spoke of her made me wonder if he didn't get the love children need for certain aspects of their lives to come together properly as they grow up and go into the world.
As things moved along his personality was becoming more volatile every day. He became extremely verbally and emotionally abusive. And very controlling. As things kept moving along it got to the point where I had to defend myself for everything. Exactly what he wanted. Keeping me off balance and upset. One day...I quit talking to him.
He tried to charm his way back into my good graces and went to painstaking efforts to be nice to me before he went on a cruise with his daughter. Made me email him every day while he was gone. He got back and went at me with a verbal vengeance. Of course upper management had left for a week so going to them wasn't an option. The last day I worked for him became the last day I spoke to him.
I'm glad I got away from him. He had me so messed up that people were starting to worry about my well being. I was afraid if I stayed that final week to wait for the bosses to return that it would be too late. That he might do something to hurt me while he was in an angry rage. It took me a whole year and a half to get over what he did to me in a matter of 5 months.
Narcissists are dangerous people. They are not someone you would want in your life no matter how charming they are. But I could not for the life of me not feel sorry for the fact that he didn't receive the love he needed as a child and that part of his brain was basically broken. It's heartbreaking to think about someone living their whole life this way and being incapable of having a healthy relationship....EVER.
He made me pay for every single experience he had with me. It was odd because I had worked for him on 2 other occasions and yes he was a PITA but this time it was different. We'd become closer friends over the course of 16 yrs. I was his source. They feed off certain types of people and relationships to make themselves feel better and more important.
As things progressed I got to see sides of him that frightened me as well as making me literally feel a sorrow for him like no other. I think it's possible his mother may have abused him and at the time he had to take care of her at the end. I think he resented that. But the way he spoke of her made me wonder if he didn't get the love children need for certain aspects of their lives to come together properly as they grow up and go into the world.
As things moved along his personality was becoming more volatile every day. He became extremely verbally and emotionally abusive. And very controlling. As things kept moving along it got to the point where I had to defend myself for everything. Exactly what he wanted. Keeping me off balance and upset. One day...I quit talking to him.
He tried to charm his way back into my good graces and went to painstaking efforts to be nice to me before he went on a cruise with his daughter. Made me email him every day while he was gone. He got back and went at me with a verbal vengeance. Of course upper management had left for a week so going to them wasn't an option. The last day I worked for him became the last day I spoke to him.
I'm glad I got away from him. He had me so messed up that people were starting to worry about my well being. I was afraid if I stayed that final week to wait for the bosses to return that it would be too late. That he might do something to hurt me while he was in an angry rage. It took me a whole year and a half to get over what he did to me in a matter of 5 months.
Narcissists are dangerous people. They are not someone you would want in your life no matter how charming they are. But I could not for the life of me not feel sorry for the fact that he didn't receive the love he needed as a child and that part of his brain was basically broken. It's heartbreaking to think about someone living their whole life this way and being incapable of having a healthy relationship....EVER.