AprilSun
Senior Member
I did today. Since Jan., I haven't spoken to my sister and it has been so peaceful without her. In Jan., her husband died suddenly. I regretted that so much because I have also lost a husband.
A few days after this, my brother and I went to her house to show our support. While we were there we were discussing our other sister's assisted living home.
There was a lady that used to work at this place and she had either gotten fired or quit, right now I can't remember which. I asked why did she leave and this sister stated, "Maybe she had trouble making things stick just like everyone else that's called AprilSun". I was there to show and give my support and she has to say something like this. I would have thought that she didn't know what she was saying considering her spouse had just passed away but more times than not, she has been either making fun of my memory problem, which is due to a disability, or arguing with me about something I have just said and she thinks it isn't correct.
For example, just a few months before he died, I had had my hair cut similar but different to a style I used to wear. When she sees it, she tells me, "You used to wear your hair like that before". I told her "No, I didn't. It was similar but not the same". She comes back with "No, it is the same". I told her again, "No it wasn't" and she came back again with "Yes you did". I asked her "And whose hair is it and who sees it every day?" She comes back with, "But your memory isn't any good." I told her, "Well, ask my hairdresser if you don't believe me" and she comes back with "Well her memory isn't much better than yours".
This is just one example but there are many more where she is either making fun of or arguing tell me I don't know what I'm talking about because my memory is bad. Because of all of this, I just quit calling her or having anything to do with her.
She calls me today. I thought about not answering the phone but I was afraid something could be wrong with our brother or sister so I broke down and answered and now I wish I hadn't.
She starts the conversation with, "Are you mad at me?" and I replied with, "No, I'm not mad". She says, "Well you haven't called me in months". I responded with, "And you don't think there is a difference between being mad and being hurt". She came back with a reply like she didn't know and then, "What have I done". I told her what had happened in Jan. and there were several others issues I started trying to discuss with her.
As soon as I told her about the AprilSun remark, she comes back with "I didn't say that!" I told her, "Yes you did and I'm not making it up!" Now that made me mad. She asked me to repeat it and comes back with "I was in shock and didn't know what I was saying". She says, "Well, we'll talk later because I'm not going to argue with you!"
If that had been the only time, then yes, I would have thought that she didn't know what she was saying and wouldn't have been upset about it but she has a history of doing this! Today was a prime example of what I'm talking about. If she's not making fun of my memory, she's arguing, telling me I don't know what I'm talking about.
She never believes anything I tell her. She thinks I don't remember anything correctly! That's why I'm fed up with her and have decided if that is what I'm going to have to put up with, I don't want anything else to do with her! The January incident is just "the straw that broke the camel's back".
A few days after this, my brother and I went to her house to show our support. While we were there we were discussing our other sister's assisted living home.
There was a lady that used to work at this place and she had either gotten fired or quit, right now I can't remember which. I asked why did she leave and this sister stated, "Maybe she had trouble making things stick just like everyone else that's called AprilSun". I was there to show and give my support and she has to say something like this. I would have thought that she didn't know what she was saying considering her spouse had just passed away but more times than not, she has been either making fun of my memory problem, which is due to a disability, or arguing with me about something I have just said and she thinks it isn't correct.
For example, just a few months before he died, I had had my hair cut similar but different to a style I used to wear. When she sees it, she tells me, "You used to wear your hair like that before". I told her "No, I didn't. It was similar but not the same". She comes back with "No, it is the same". I told her again, "No it wasn't" and she came back again with "Yes you did". I asked her "And whose hair is it and who sees it every day?" She comes back with, "But your memory isn't any good." I told her, "Well, ask my hairdresser if you don't believe me" and she comes back with "Well her memory isn't much better than yours".
This is just one example but there are many more where she is either making fun of or arguing tell me I don't know what I'm talking about because my memory is bad. Because of all of this, I just quit calling her or having anything to do with her.
She calls me today. I thought about not answering the phone but I was afraid something could be wrong with our brother or sister so I broke down and answered and now I wish I hadn't.
She starts the conversation with, "Are you mad at me?" and I replied with, "No, I'm not mad". She says, "Well you haven't called me in months". I responded with, "And you don't think there is a difference between being mad and being hurt". She came back with a reply like she didn't know and then, "What have I done". I told her what had happened in Jan. and there were several others issues I started trying to discuss with her.
As soon as I told her about the AprilSun remark, she comes back with "I didn't say that!" I told her, "Yes you did and I'm not making it up!" Now that made me mad. She asked me to repeat it and comes back with "I was in shock and didn't know what I was saying". She says, "Well, we'll talk later because I'm not going to argue with you!"
If that had been the only time, then yes, I would have thought that she didn't know what she was saying and wouldn't have been upset about it but she has a history of doing this! Today was a prime example of what I'm talking about. If she's not making fun of my memory, she's arguing, telling me I don't know what I'm talking about.
She never believes anything I tell her. She thinks I don't remember anything correctly! That's why I'm fed up with her and have decided if that is what I'm going to have to put up with, I don't want anything else to do with her! The January incident is just "the straw that broke the camel's back".
I don't think she'll be calling again but, I didn't think she would call this time and she did. So, I have my answering machine on at all times now so I'm monitoring my calls. This way, if there is an emergency and she should call, she can leave a message or call one of my children and let them call me. Thank you for your understanding!!!!
