PenelopePlum
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I recently asked my son in law for some help moving a small amount of items from my storage to my garage. Nothing too huge or heavy, just bins and bags mostly. (He has a pickup.) This is the first time I’ve ever asked him for help with anything. I placed no timeframe on the request, told him we could do it anytime it was convenient for him if he was willing.
Next thing I know my daughter was making it clear to me that they both felt I was “manipulating” him. So the long and short of it is, the answer is no. I don’t ask my daughter for any help anymore. Haven’t tried for years. She resents anytime I’ve ever asked, so I’ve only tried rarely when I’m in a real jam like I am now. She’s the kind of person who blows up if you don’t do every little thing her way. Very unpleasant.
I’ve always been a very independent person, preferring to take care of myself. So it’s not like I have a history of trying to take advantage of people. In the current instance I’ve tried to find someone I can hire to do the job but haven’t been able to.
I’m nearly 70 years old now and no longer able to do as much as I once was. I’m starting to feel like I’ll never be able to count on my family for anything no matter how old or infirm I get.. It’s depressing to think about. You give everything you have to your kids for decades, and yet it’s too much trouble to do you a small favor now and then.
I keep waiting for my daughter to mature enough to take on a more adult role, but she’s in her mid-40’s now and we’re still not there. I think I raised her better than this, it wasn’t the example I set for her growing up. I don’t know why she’s like this. I wonder, is it her generation or what? Anybody else having this issue?
Next thing I know my daughter was making it clear to me that they both felt I was “manipulating” him. So the long and short of it is, the answer is no. I don’t ask my daughter for any help anymore. Haven’t tried for years. She resents anytime I’ve ever asked, so I’ve only tried rarely when I’m in a real jam like I am now. She’s the kind of person who blows up if you don’t do every little thing her way. Very unpleasant.
I’ve always been a very independent person, preferring to take care of myself. So it’s not like I have a history of trying to take advantage of people. In the current instance I’ve tried to find someone I can hire to do the job but haven’t been able to.
I’m nearly 70 years old now and no longer able to do as much as I once was. I’m starting to feel like I’ll never be able to count on my family for anything no matter how old or infirm I get.. It’s depressing to think about. You give everything you have to your kids for decades, and yet it’s too much trouble to do you a small favor now and then.
I keep waiting for my daughter to mature enough to take on a more adult role, but she’s in her mid-40’s now and we’re still not there. I think I raised her better than this, it wasn’t the example I set for her growing up. I don’t know why she’s like this. I wonder, is it her generation or what? Anybody else having this issue?
