Do you have a gay family member?

[Marie5656]

My niece is gay. She was in a committed relationship once with someone who was obviously using her for her family money. So, disapproval came not because they were both women, but because we felt she was being taken advantage of. She finally saw the light and booted the girl.

 

[Wilberforce]

You know it is a bit like color or religion, I just have never been able to figure out why the heck it makes any difference to anything anymore than blue or brown eyes or light or dark heir. Why should it?

 

[Robinp]

I agree. I have a gay son and just love him so much. He is a wonderful man and I would not change him in any way. If you are in my life and cannot respect and tolerate him, then we cannot be in each other's life.

 

[aeron]

If we found we had a homosexual family member we would rapidly loose a family member.

 

[Shalimar]

If we found we had a homosexual family member we would rapidly loose a family member.

But why?

 

[Pappy]

Not that I'm aware of, but I'm sure somewhere along the line, someone is, or has been.

 

[aeron]

But why?

Maybe because I'm a bigot where homosexuality is concerned or maybe it's because I believe that because a thing has become socially acceptable does not mean it is right.

But for whatever reason it's a thing that goes to the bone.

I really don't want to go any further down this track because for me to do so would probably cause pain to those who have different opinions.

 

[Wilberforce]

aeron, while I appreciate your honesty I have to say I am sad for you .I find any kind intolerance or bigotry usually makes the person having it uneasy and not having peace in your life is sad. My son is a very forgiving kind man , loves children, pets and the elderly, everything that most folks feel is the right way to be. He has never been involved with the law, never caused any trouble and is very much liked by everyone who meets him. With all the virtues he has why on earth would he be condemned for something he was born with. I respect you and if you were right I would agree with you..sincerely Jeannine

 

[Shalimar]

Maybe because I'm a bigot where homosexuality is concerned or maybe it's because I believe that because a thing has become socially acceptable does not mean it is right.

But for whatever reason it's a thing that goes to the bone.

I really don't want to go any further down this track because for me to do so would probably cause pain to those who have different opinions.

Thank you for your candour.

 

[Bobbi]

Homosexuality is not a choice

How do you feel about him/her? Have you and the other family members accepted his/her sexuality? Would you change this person if you could? I'd like to know your experience because I have a brother who is gay. I wouldn't change one thing about him. He's my best friend and I love him.

My son is gay. He is 53 years ago and told me when he was 18. The doctor I worked for explained how chromosomes, hormones, etc effect our sex when we are born. He is a Christian and understands why so many Christians adopt the "love the sinner but hate the sin" concept. He believes that the bible speaks of medical problems and this is medical and, in most cases, people are born this way! He is a wonderful person and when he told me he could not control how he felt, I believed him

 

[OneEyedDiva]

Yes I do....a cousin. He estranged himself from the family and I wish he hadn't done that. He was a sweet person but he started drugging and though he maintained a good job for awhile, he was at times irresponsible. Last I heard he had moved to N.Y.C. I love him and miss him.

 

[DaveA]

Yes, we have a grandson who is gay. He has 4 brothers and a sister who are not, and it's never been an issue with them, his parents, or our whole extended family which include a bunch of his cousins. It is what it is and I sympathize with folks like him as there are still so many, either religious fanatics or people still living in the "dark ages", that think that somehow this is a condition of choice. That religious education or some form of re-hab will wash it away?

Many people in my generation (born in the early 30's) are totally intolerant, but they are also, sadly, intolerant of many things, including ethnicity, race, etc. It was a different time and some people, instead of broadening their views, are still stuck in it.