Do You Like and Respect the Opposite Sex?

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I don't do any man bashing, I can like and respect men very well. I don't stereotype, and disrespect the good ones by painting with a broad brush. My husband is an intelligent, strong man, also compassionate to other people and animals. He doesn't have any 'issues' where he has to prove his manhood to anyone, like I see a few men do.

Some people are just jerks, and it relates to both genders, IMO. But for the most part, I'm okay with men. The couple of instances over the years where one behaved in a sexist way toward me, I did what I needed to in order to resolve the problem, sometimes just a few words put them in check, and afterwards they respected me for it. I never was a real 'woman's libber', but I have always worked jobs that had equal pay for equal work, and that's what I expect. There have been many men who treated me as a friend and their equal, easy to talk to, no strings attached.

How about you? Do you stereotype the opposite sex? Do you like and respect them? Any issues with the other gender?
 

I like and admire masculinity but not machismo.
I am firmly in the feminist camp though.
Too many women are still suppressed because of their gender.

Currently in Oz there is a lot of attention on domestic violence and the statistics are appalling.
Although some men suffer partner violence, women fare much worse and this year an average of 2 women per week have been killed by current or ex-partners.

My issue with the opposite sex is that there is a prevailing disrespect for women and girls that needs to be dealt with by men and boys.
It starts early. Yesterday at play group two little boys excluded a little girl from playing with a construction set because "it is just for boys".
So she moved away without complaint.
 
I am completely against physical or mental abusive behavior toward women. The boys who said that to the girl, I don't take issue with. I played cowboys and indians, cops and robbers, etc. with my brother when I was young. If boys were outside playing Dodge Ball or Johnny on the Pony, I left them alone. Although it's nice to include both sexes in children's games, I don't see any real harm with it. If the girls were playing jump rope when I was a child, they may not have liked a boy to join in. If boys were playing Skelzies, etc. the girls would leave them to play with each other.
 
In general I like woman more than I like men. While I'm outwardly respectful to everybody, how I feel about them inwardly is a judgement I make about each individual and gender doesn't enter into that decision.
 
Josiah09 said:
While I'm outwardly respectful to everybody, how I feel about them inwardly is a judgement I make about each individual and gender doesn't enter into that decision.
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I agree Josiah, gender does not decide, it's the individual.
 
QuickSilver said:
I like and respect members of the opposite sex if they have earned it.
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I agree and I would add that most of them do earn it and realize respect is a two-way street. But Dame Warrigal is also correct about the need to take seriously the problem of violence against women and girls. I'm not sure what the solution is but I believe it starts with little boys observing the abuse of their mothers by their fathers. This then becomes acceptable behavior.
 
At the risk of sounding cliché...

I try to let the content of a person's character dictate how I feel about them rather than their gender. I do my best to start everyone I meet off on a level playing field and I do my best not to prejudge anyone. I've met some extremely interesting, intelligent people of both genders that look like they just strolled into a homeless shelter, and I've met some well dressed, perfectly manicured jerks that I wouldn't trust as far as I could throw them.

I genuinely respect women; however I do often treat them differently than I do men. I always try to open doors for them, I have given up my seat in a crowded restaurant for a lady, and when I'm at the grocery store I treat the lady at the register differently than I do the guy behind the meat counter. The lady at the register wouldn't care for my "guy behind the meat counter" greeting of "Mornin' putz!", and the guy behind the meat counter might be tempted to slug me if I said "Good morning my dear, you look especially stunning this morning".

I never, ever thought that women were inferior or incapable. However I was brought up to add an additional measure of respect for members of the fairer gender, and I simply enjoy making them feel a little bit special, which they are.
 
I do like and respect men, of course. Sometimes adversity brings out their most endearing qualities, I find.
 
I like most men. I can't stand braggarts or those who don't respect women. I grew up with brothers and my children are mostly male so I am used to guys. When I was a young girl my 2 younger brothers and I played out in the sand (Oregon coast) by an old junk car sitting in our yard for hours on end. I think it's funny cause I can remember I was always "Eugene" their dad and they called me "Daddy" and I was really mean and bossy to them. I don't know where that came from. I remember I always got to be the driver of the car. :) That's about all I remember but I know we sure had a lot of fun and entertained ourselves. We didn't get a TV till I was 13 so I think it was probably good for us we had to use our imagination.
 
DoItMyself said:
At the risk of sounding cliché...

I try to let the content of a person's character dictate how I feel about them rather than their gender. I do my best to start everyone I meet off on a level playing field and I do my best not to prejudge anyone. I've met some extremely interesting, intelligent people of both genders that look like they just strolled into a homeless shelter, and I've met some well dressed, perfectly manicured jerks that I wouldn't trust as far as I could throw them.

I genuinely respect women; however I do often treat them differently than I do men. I always try to open doors for them, I have given up my seat in a crowded restaurant for a lady, and when I'm at the grocery store I treat the lady at the register differently than I do the guy behind the meat counter. The lady at the register wouldn't care for my "guy behind the meat counter" greeting of "Mornin' putz!", and the guy behind the meat counter might be tempted to slug me if I said "Good morning my dear, you look especially stunning this morning".

I never, ever thought that women were inferior or incapable. However I was brought up to add an additional measure of respect for members of the fairer gender, and I simply enjoy making them feel a little bit special, which they are.
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I for one have always appreciated a gentleman.. I like having the door held open, and I enjoy a man who will step aside and let me exit a room or an elevator first.. I am touched when a man stands until I am seated.. AND I always say Thank You.. because I do appreciate being treated like a lady.. That said, there is a difference in being chivilrous and being condescending.. Men and women are different in some respects and vive la difference.. but basic human rights, respect, and opportunity should be given to both sexes.. One sex should not abuse the other.. and little boys and little girls should have a level playing field.
 
I like and respect people who have earned that respect and I expect to be judged equally, not because of my gender but because of who I am as a person, not by what I say but what I do. Gender doesn't define me or anyone else.


But I do think that the males are often caught between a hard place and a rock with what women want from a male or expect from a male.
 
QuickSilver said:
I for one have always appreciated a gentleman.. I like having the door held open, and I enjoy a man who will step aside and let me exit a room or an elevator first.. I am touched when a man stands until I am seated.. AND I always say Thank You.. because I do appreciate being treated like a lady.. That said, there is a difference in being chivilrous and being condescending.. Men and women are different in some respects and vive la difference.. but basic human rights, respect, and opportunity should be given to both sexes.. One sex should not abuse the other.. and little boys and little girls should have a level playing field.
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I totally feel the same. Chivalry makes the difference between being a man and being a woman mutually enjoyable.
 
Yes, I respect men, unless they give me reason to do otherwise. Everyone in my family had boys, and they're all turned out to be great fun and very decent guys. I usually get along with men pretty well. There have been exceptions, for example, men who are sexist or domineering control freaks, but for the most part, I like them and they like me too.
 

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