Do You Make Friends Easily?

I make friends easily being that I am a friendly person.... however, I have about 2 TRUE friends. Things that we share with each other will go to our graves. But I have several friends that I call or they call me. I am very reluctant whom I allow in my circle... therefore, I am pretty satisfied with the friends I have made over the years. Once you have me as a friend, I am a friend as long as you allow me to be.
 

win231 said:
I don't make friends easily; I'm rather picky about people.
I have two married couples I've known for 35 years that I'm close to; that's about it. I'd much rather have a few real friends than a bunch of "Fair-Weather" friends."
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I agree, Win! To me a real friend is someone that I can tell anything to and they won't talk behind my the back, will keep my secrets, and will tell me the raw truth rather than what I want to hear (not yes people).
 
right from school always had friends - I have now 2 close girlfriends that live in another part of the country as I moved house 3yrs ago -we keep in touch - yes it is important to have a friend some people say I dont need a friend but I believe we all need one at least
in our lives ...
 
Many of the friends I had have passed on-they were much older than me at the time. I have some acquaintances where I live and it's nice to chat with them time to time. I have a friend who I talk to on the phone sometimes.

It isn't as easy for me to make friends as it used to be when I was much younger. I don't get out much except to walk doggy and go to the doctor or Vet.

I, too, would like to have a few more friends.
 
I think friendship is a wonderful gift that many of us enjoy to a major degree or a lesser one.
I have two really close friends: one I met in 2002 and the friend moved to another county for health and family reasons. We keep in touch via phone and cards but its more of an affinity we have; that elusive element (cant think of a more suitable word) that comes from the unknown and can firm strong bonds with other people who cross eachothers paths in Life's rich tapestry.

The other close friend I had for a few years passed away unexpectedly two years ago and I miss her very much for her loyalty and integrity and kinship.
The bad choices I made years ago taught me how to protect myself of future mistakes but that doesn't assure me of choosing unwisely who I befriend in the future but im comfy these days

I do enjoy Threads like this one that touch on indepth subjects and relating to people and how human beings interact with eachother...fascinating and thought provoking.
 
Yes, there are some people with hidden agendas and to be a victim of one or two can scar us for a long time or for life and ive been there, got the tee shirt seen the video as the expression goes here.
I am a basically trusting person and can take people at face value and thus be fooled. I detest confidence tricksters and I dont just mean with money.
 
Most of my friendships have been dependent upon physical proximity, initially at school and later at work. When they move to a different location, usually the relationship is over. I'm a second or third-tier friend to some people; they'll talk to me if one of their preferred besties isn't around...
 
oldman said:
I don’t let anyone get too close. I keep a tight boundary fence around me. I like privacy and I like to be the one who does the contacting, not the other way around. This is one of the reasons why my wife calls me a snob. I really do not have any close friends. I consider a “close friend” as someone that I would share anything going on in my life with. Not so. I enjoy my privacy, but I already said that.

However, I am a friendly type of guy and I do enjoy talking with people and learning new things.
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Sounds a lot like me. Hmmmm, could be a military thing, as we quickly learned in war not to get too close to anyone in your squad. That said, outside of the wife, I no longer have above ground any of my few close ( I mean really close) friends. :(
 
i have one friend left--she has been to my house but i have never been to hers-i have known her for 35 years-we talk on the phone -she will call me and i stop what i am doing and answer the phone-but if she is watching a certain program on t v she wont answer her phone
 
I have two close friends, couples, people I trust. Recently, however, we joined a bridge group, and have met some people who are becoming our good friends. There are people there that I don't particularly enjoy, people I enjoy but don't think we'll ever be close with, and people I hope to get to know better. Pretty much like anywhere in life. I don't think you're ever too old to make new friends.
 
Thinking on since reading this Thread Ive thought about people in general and how some are what I call people-collectors: people male and female who need to have others around them all the time and no one special and dont like being alone for long and just needy

To me theres a difference between a people-person and a people-collector: the people-person likes people in general to be out and about and be friendly to all but have friends they are close to and loyal to one or two and be content. I am this kind of person, but im not needy despite being a Widow living solo for five years.

People-collectors, and I know a few, have lots of friends and associates in their social arena but not close to anyone in particular and just surround themselves through maybe loneliness or just superficial: a part of their basic physche which to my mind is insincere. One pal I have is like this and I dont feel special, just one of their circle of people to keep close when no one eIse is about. I like to feel special to my friends and not just one of many, also be I treat my friends special for their qualities. So, on conclusion, people-persons and people-collectors are different
 
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twinkles said:
i have one friend left--she has been to my house but i have never been to hers-i have known her for 35 years-we talk on the phone -she will call me and i stop what i am doing and answer the phone-but if she is watching a certain program on t v she wont answer her phone
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wow !! You've never been to your friend of 35 years, home?... is that your choice or hers?
 
It always was easy for me to make friends,because I was gullible. I always thought people were good and sincere. I've learned a lot since I have gotten older. We moved almost 2 yrs ago and I wave hello to neighbors,but I don't really want to get personally involved with them. I still have some close friends from long ago. My longest friendship is with a girl I became friends with when we were in 1st grade.
 
People person.
1sister/ friend from the 70’s. She lives in my home state. Is a friend with my sister and her family. When her husband was living they hung out with my parents when I moved out of state. We get together when I go to my home state, or she visits me. We all just spent a week at the beach in Sept.

2 friends that lived next door on each side of me when I moved to GA in 86. We all 3 couples are good friends have had so much fun! We all had boats and that was our summer thing! Still get together.

1 friend since we both were 10. Keep in touch FB see her at times when I visit home state.
Here in NC have a few girl friends. Many acquaintances from a club I joined and from the bowling league we joined, the college football get togethers. 2 of these are with my husband.
I talk to a lot of people. Bartender/Real Estate was my past.

I do enjoy my alone time. Not afraid to go out to lunch or movies by myself.
Enjoy my neighbors and visiting with them.
 
In my line of work? I used to meet new people everyday, but very seldom a new friend.

Now that I am retired, I try to be more outgoing and give people the benefit of the doubt. Overall, I believe that most people are good. There is that 2% that just doesn’t want to play by the rules. When people ask me what I did for a living before retirement, I just tell them that I worked for the state. Most of them let it go at that.
 
I've experienced some disappointing friendships that I simply had to walk away from. My closest friend, who I would trust with my life, is the furthest away, physically. We met online, 20 years ago. I stayed with her and her husband the first time I visited Australia, and we've always gotten along so well. We share the same principles, and they were so supportive of me when I was being treated poorly just before I returned to Toronto. They are the epitome of true friendship. Whatever has passed between us, stays just between us.
 

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