Do you often lose your temper, (what annoys you?)?

grahamg

grahamg

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We all lose our tempers from time to time dont we, we wouldn't be human if we didn't.

However, having said that I used to have an uncle Percy who I never saw lose his temper, even when my aunt tried to upset his applecart, and he was known for being very placid, maybe because he'd suffered serious ill health as a young man, (or maybe because he was an intellectual with an engineering background/career, and needed to be analytical about everything in his job?).

Uncle Percy types aside, most of us do occasionally lose our cool, maybe when being treated like a child "by some idiot", (oops I'm doing it again!).

What rattles your cage, or are you another "saint"?
 

Angry outbursts can damage your health. https://www.everydayhealth.com/news/ways-anger-ruining-your-health/ My sister was a nurse during her working life, in one of her medical books I read much the same as the warnings on that website, and that was back in the 1960's.
A loss of temper gets you nowhere, it's best to ignore anything that causes it. You only have to scroll through any of the forums that allow political debate to see why politics stirs the blood and causes tempers to rise.
It's often been said, "you can't argue in an empty room," although I have come across some who could give it a good go. Leaving the cause of a rising temper alone is, for me, the way that I have always dealt with it.
 
Me?

I never lose my temper, well, maybe just a bit with that goofy begger that steps out infront of buses and crosses the kids over the road going to school.

Then there's that twerp in the post office, who always says to me,"Oh, you've come to the post office, you must want some stamps then."
I'm tempted to say, "No, you knobhead, I want some lamb chops a bottle of milk and a bottle of bleach."

And, I have to mention, Mrs Bentley down the road. She's always polishing her windows and singing in a very shrieky voice that makes even the sparrows cringe.

So there you have it, I am totally tolerant to my fellow humans and no-one ever gets on my nerves.

Opening my window:
"Oi, you horrible shower, go and kick your ball up your own end of the street, go on, begger off." I don't know!! Kids. :)
 
If an opposing comment on some issue, unimportant issue or otherwise, is said to me in a way that is rude/angrily said/as though I don't know what I'm talking about, I have an immediate hot temper spike BUT I keep hold of it, and explain the reason for my opposing opinion, until the whole back and forth disagreements start to bore the heck out of me and I find a way to change the subject. Arguing in anger, or physically fighting over non-serious issues I've found make me feel silly afterwards,--even when I think I'm right. :D
 
When I was younger I was a bit of a hothead but not to the extreme. Once we had a relatively new neighbor across the street who got married. His wife moved in and decided she would park her car in my spot instead of in front of their house which had a smallish tree. She may have been trying to avoid tree sap falling on the car. I made a fuss and probably a loud one... I don't remember. I parked right up to her bumper and went inside still fuming. Not much later, the husband came across the street, and since my father was on the porch, they talked about the situation. I could hear through the open window, and instead of loud shouting, they spoke calmly and resolved the issue. From then on, the wife parked on her side.

That has stuck with me for the rest of my life and has become my "modus operande.

Addendum:
They became divorced later and she moved out, and oh how the single ladies in the neighborhood tried to console him.
 
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I used to be a calm saint all the time; it was what I did for a living and tried to help others to do, but since the pandemic I'm ready for the asylum I'm so nuts. So I primal scream and swear, usually with a friend, and it helps. But I wish I was normal again because for the past year I have been anything but and I DO know how bad it is for a person's health to be this way.
 
Very good responses, and I think using our sample as representative, there are as few saints here as I'd assumed.

My paternal grandfather, and his family were all known for very quick tempers, my dads temper was almost of hot, (though never violent either), so I couldn't really escape altogether could I, (is my excuse).

As my dad used to say, "You cant breed tame mice from wild ones"! :) 🐁
 
chic said:
I used to be a calm saint all the time; it was what I did for a living and tried to help others to do, but since the pandemic I'm ready for the asylum I'm so nuts. So I primal scream and swear, usually with a friend, and it helps. But I wish I was normal again because for the past year I have been anything but and I DO know how bad it is for a person's health to be this way.
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Would punching a a punching bag help? ..............
 
No, I hardly ever lose my temper.
Three things i can think of now really anger me.
1. When someone attacks or hurts my friends or someone I love.
2. When someone accuses me of lying or of theft; demeans my character..
3. Before i "streamed" TV, trying to talk to Direct TV on the phone used to make me scream!
 
shedevil7953 said:
When I'm on the phone with ANY customer service rep and they ignore what I'm saying because they keep talking 'over me' when I try to speak. Annoys the hell outta me and I usually have to yell to get their attention. LISTEN TO ME and not what YOU are constantly saying. Too much of a hurry today's generation!
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Customer reps are taught to 'stick to a script' and they aren't taught ANYTHING beyond that. Bet it pays very little. Often, the rep you are speaking with is IN another country and skill in English is the script, period.
 
Do I loose my temper? Not often ! When I do, I’m not good at playing poker face.

Years ago when my husband and I first started living together, an acquaintance of mine asked us to look after his dog which had 7 puppies that were 6 weeks old.
He was going away for 2 weeks and his friend was going to take care of them for the first week.

Well for anyone who has ever owned a dog,….they need feeding, water and their feces cleaned up after them. The first guy either didn’t show up at all, or didn’t show up for many days. My husband wouldn’t let me go into the house and it took him hours to look after them. He never told me the entire story.

When the owner of the dogs came home, the person who left these dogs to suffer was there and I almost ripped his face off. At the time I swam everyday and worked out with weights . I could have done some serious damage but I could of ended up in jail to.
 
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