Do you think life is fair?

hollydolly said:
I was 18 when my mum died.. that wasn't fair.. My siblings were all younger.. That wasn't fair!

My mum was 39 when she died.. That wasn't fair!

When I left school and went to work 40 hours a week , my father took every penny of my wages .. that wasn't Fair!

My father was a a dangerous violent man who beat us almost daily.. that wasn't fair.

My father beat me up the day I came out of hospital with my 4 day old baby ..that wasn't fair..

My first husband didn't pay maintenance for my daughter when he went off with another woman,.. that wasn't fair..

I had to raise my daughter alone on one wage.. that wasn't fair..

My daughter had to take part-time jobs while still at school to help me pay her way through Music college.. That wasn't Fair!

Loads of things are not fair in this world... Some people get through with hardly a scratch.. and some of us get open wounds. It's the way it is.... :(
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Thru all that and now a genuine pleasure to read your opinions & view the photos you bring here for all to enjoy. Unfair life could have made you bitter but that is not what I get from your posts on other topics.
 

Life is not fair because
Nathan said:
Life is not a board game, there are no rules that specifies what's "fair" or unfair. Most people of course would feel that life is much more fair if their lives were filled with more favorable events, and visa versa.
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and
fuzzybuddy said:
Fairness is about how humans act towards one another. But fairness, doesn't exist in the natural world. If you're a gazelle and you outrun a lion, you may think that's "fair", but if you're a lion, trying to feed her cubs, it isn't" fair'. But nature isn't fair, or not. It just 'is'.
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But one of the most intelligent men i ever met and a cyberfriend of at least a decade and a half would say, and i totally agree: "Just because life isn't fair doesn't mean we can't do our best to be fair to each other."
 
I think we want life to be all rainbows and unicorns, and much of it is, yet the painful events are the most impacting so that's what we remember.

Example. Your family has a dog for 15 years, thousands of loving moments with that dog, and I mean literally thousands. Yet when the dog passes we mourn and that becomes the dominate memory, the pain of loss. We cry "life isn't fair", yet what we should be is thankful for 15 years of unconditional love. How lucky are we to experience that?


My point is overall I think most of us have good lives year to year but we let some bad days ruin it.
 
I totally believe life is fair(y)...or will be 'in the long run'
Of course this means I believe in life after life and if I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that was not true, then maybe I would rethink my position. :unsure:
It makes sense to me that we each have challenges to overcome but why and from where is still a mystery. I also believe we are not given more than we can handle at this time and therefore some have tougher burdens than others...
 
I lost a good friend yesterday and it didn't seem fair at all. She had been such a giving person and suffered in the last few months. We have set up contributions in her name to the local food bank so she can keep on giving. We think she would have approved.
 
Alizerine said:
I lost a good friend yesterday and it didn't seem fair at all. She had been such a giving person and suffered in the last few months. We have set up contributions in her name to the local food bank so she can keep on giving. We think she would have approved.
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Yesterday, we received the news that a darling friend, a lady in her mid forties, has been diagnosed with bowel cancer. So aggressive is it that an operation is not an option, only chemo will delay the inevitable. It breaks my heart!
This beautiful lady is something of a surrogate daughter, she made me so proud when we attended her wedding, now, I feel the pain of her husband, her parents and the darling lady that she is and whom my wife and I, not only love dearly, but also cherish the reciprocated love that the lady gives, in return. It really does, break my heart.
 
C50 said:
I think we want life to be all rainbows and unicorns, and much of it is, yet the painful events are the most impacting so that's what we remember.

Example. Your family has a dog for 15 years, thousands of loving moments with that dog, and I mean literally thousands. Yet when the dog passes we mourn and that becomes the dominate memory, the pain of loss. We cry "life isn't fair", yet what we should be is thankful for 15 years of unconditional love. How lucky are we to experience that?


My point is overall I think most of us have good lives year to year but we let some bad days ruin it.
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So true...and we all know our mental attitude can make or break our emotions. We all have some good and are wise to learn to be grateful and appreciate those moments.
 
C50 said:
Your family has a dog for 15 years, thousands of loving moments with that dog, and I mean literally thousands. Yet when the dog passes we mourn and that becomes the dominate memory, the pain of loss. We cry "life isn't fair",
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Maybe the problem is that death isn't fair. But I think I could make the argument is that nothing is more fair than death. It is the great equalizer, and treats everyone the same. It's true that some "deaths" are more painful than others, but I used the quotes, because unequal pain is more a function of life.

Having said all that, I wish all of us the best.
 
Serenity4321 said:
Maybe, but don't some of your dreams seem real?? Mine do...and of course, in the dream we do not always know we are dreaming...
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I posted this: I tell you, I can visualize it all. This couldn't be a dream. How real it all seems.
after @Farrah Nuff posted "I imagine things too. Sometimes it feels like just my imagination, running away with me."
because it's the following lyrics to "It Was Just My Imagination" by The Temptations.

I don't have dreams anymore (sleep-dreams, that is). In my whole life I've only dreamed 5 times, and 2 of those dreams were exactly the same.

Anyway, my answer to "Is life fair?" stands: No, it isn't. And I have nothing to add except maybe that you just have to learn to deal with it.

Oh! I just had a thought....you've got a lot of people who don't know how to deal with it because their parents didn't know they were supposed to teach them how. And then there are parents who literally destroy their kids' ability to cope with even life's simplest challenges, and other parents who throw more challenges at their kids than life ever would, and from a very early age, too.

So, yeah; life isn't fair.
 
Jean-Paul said:
Life is not a tea party, nothing is fair, you make your own future! USE YOUR OWN FREE WILL!

Jon
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To the above I would add that all life faces challenges. It is called natural selection and is the mechanism that has allowed the evolution of lifeforms that are better suited for the environment that they find themselves in. Humans are no different. From birth to death we face many and various challenges ranging from crossing a busy road and dealing with sickness or addictions all the way up to floods, bushfires and earthquakes. These unfair challenges test our mettle as individuals and as a species.

As Jean-Paul has referred to, we have free will but all that we can do is adapt as best we can. Injustice and poverty we can do something about, but there is a lot that happens that is not within our capacity to eliminate entirely.
 
Murrmurr said:
Seriously, though, what does competition have to do with fairness and justice? Competition is one of life's necessities. You can't get very far without it.

Unfair competition is another topic.
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Really, competition creates winners and losers. Some losers feel the competition was not fair! Have you not heard that? Justice is a word that is abstract. What is justice to one person, or one group of people can be just the opposite to others. Like most words we use in this discussion, the concepts are abstract...easy for us to banter back and forth. But, really cannot be tied down to make a point! So I move on...
 
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