Do you want to die in a hospice or at home?

When my grandma died, her youngest son then in his 40's held her hand I guess. Anyway he was just horrified by the whole process. I don't want to do that to my son, so off to the hospice with me when I know the time is near. There is a big difference between my son and my uncle in that my son was an EMT, worked in ambulances for years and has had quite a bit of experience but it might be different when his mother who is dying.
 
My mom died in the height of Covid (2020) and if she had gone into a hospice facility, we may not have been able to visit her. I know we definitely wouldn't have been able to if she was in the regular hospital.

It was a no-brainer to keep her in her home with hospice. We three daughters were there with her the entire span of her last few weeks. The RN came every other day and the home health aide was there daily.

Hospice took care of everything in the home. We were even able to take her to the ER twice when her nausea/vomiting got too bad for us to help her with. The Hospice nurse met us at the ER and coordinated everything with the hospital so that it didn't interfere with the arrangement with hospice.

Hospice even helped us get her signed up for medical marijuana, which was the only thing that got her through the terrible nausea during her last conscious days.

God bless Hospice.
 
Many people don't appreciate what hard work it is being someone's carer. You more or less give up your own life to serve the other. People are branded selfish when they refuse to look after their parents in old age. I think this is one area when it's right to put your own needs first.
 
My hope is that some form of assisted suicide becomes available before I reach that point.

Of the two choices, I would prefer to be able to close up my little apartment, dispose of my possessions, and move into the local hospice.

It would allow me to tie up so many loose ends myself without burdening or relying on others.
 
Aunt Bea said:
My hope is that some form of assisted suicide becomes available before I reach that point.

Of the two choices, I would prefer to be able to close up my little apartment, dispose of my possessions, and move into the local hospice.

It would allow me to tie up so many loose ends myself without burdening or relying on others.
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You could always move home to one of the states which allow assisted suicide.(y)

We don't have it here, it's been campaigned for with little success.. but if I live in the USA..I would definitely choose to live in a State with allows asisted suicide
 
I was sole caregiver for my wife who had ALS for 2 years. We held off on getting home hospice until near the end. Hospice nurses came to the house on a regular basis, and were very helpful and caring. I don't regret taking care of my wife, but if the day comes that I require round-the-clock care, I will go to a facility. It's a horrible thought, but I can deal with it.
 
Capt Lightning said:
I trying to make up my mind between a Brewery and a brothel :devilish:, but my preferred route to the next world would be to go like Maj.Kong in Dr.Strangelove and ride a bomb an to the head of some people I loathe.
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go to the brewery first, get drunk enuff to think the girl in the brothel is a beautiful 21 yr old virgin then die of a heart attack with your final thrust !
 
papa tiger said:
I could choose an active death in fresh air under the sun or moon with personal pride over any
Low laying in a bed with a diaper *please clean my shorts sweet young nurse episode.
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I would like to die of having a fatal heart attack as I am sleeping on a bed of cedar boughs overlooking a mountain lake bordered by sweet smelling wildflowers in bloom.
 
Don't we all want to die "quickly and without pain?" I know I do. I've long pondered the issue of suicide and concluded I could never commit an act of violence on myself (slit wrists, jumping into a pool or lake half tied up) so I'd have to use chemicals. Problem is, IDK which ones or where to get them. Anyone?
 
Marcy Sheiner said:
Don't we all want to die "quickly and without pain?" I know I do. I've long pondered the issue of suicide and concluded I could never commit an act of violence on myself (slit wrists, jumping into a pool or lake half tied up) so I'd have to use chemicals. Problem is, IDK which ones or where to get them. Anyone?
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I feel the same as you about it. I keep seeing seniors saying all over the internet that they plan to "check out" if things get bad enough (which, let's face it: if you live long enough, it will) and it seems to be split about 50/50 between they plan to use a gun or medications/chemicals.

The way I feel though is I hate the thought of leaving such a horrible mess that a gun would make for whoever would find me afterwards, and like you I don't know how or where to get the meds and which kind, etc. And I've seen it suggested that you get a doctor to prescribe them and save them up 'till you have enough, but would a doctor agree to tell you how many would be enough and what kind? (I guess it depends on where you live.) And I've also heard that the meds can lose their effectiveness over time and therefore might leave you still alive but paralyzed or in a vegetative state.

So I don't think that just "checking out" when you feel like you've had enough is as easy as some think it would be unfortunately. (Seems to me sometimes that we're kinder to our pets than we are to our fellow humans.)
 

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