Does Anyone Else Feel Especially Sad Lately?

Gaer said:
I have been giving this a great deal of thought. It's an interesting question: Can two opposite ends of the spectrum inhabit the same space at the same infinitesimal, split second, in this relative field of thought?
One thought is everything is so intimatly universally connected with everything else, it might not even be possible for us to distinguish completely.
Another is: The creation of an original thought, even though integrating with everything in the absolute, has to be an individual action.
But there is a relative and an absolute. In time, there is a linear and an eternal, which flows in all directions. In the unlimited field of influence, all things are possible, and if one views thought as waves of energy circling, So, In the eternal viewpoint, and taking in the concept of the multiverse, not only can two diverse ends occupy this at the same time, but all thought between. I was speaking from the gross, relative ever changing state of life, not the absolute unmanifested character.
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The sage expression is to "find the joy in sorrow".
 
charry said:
My husband had a massive stroke,......turned our life upside down,, and it’s been a rollercoaster since ..we ve had no support....it’s jyst been us.......im his shadow carer I've not left his side since then ...mike is paralysed down his left side...he can’t do anything for himself .....I .miss my lovely man ..🥺😢
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Oh my heavens. Of course your world would be turned upside down.
Is he making some progress at all? Won't the medical insurance system pay for some care giving help for you at all?
 

charry said:
My husband had a massive stroke,......turned our life upside down,, and it’s been a rollercoaster since ..we ve had no support....it’s jyst been us.......im his shadow carer I've not left his side since then ...mike is paralysed down his left side...he can’t do anything for himself .....I .miss my lovely man ..🥺😢
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Oh I am so sorry for both of you. This is such a heavy load to carry.
Bless you.
 
I do feel very sad lately too. All of you have brought up such good points as to why and what to do. I'm just blue. The only thing I love to do anymore is sleep, which is so unlike me. Last night I was bored and made a new necklace because I love jewelry making, but when finished, I felt sadder because no one really sees me anymore. Not like they used to. I just feel invisible.

I'm so sad because of all the hate in the world right now and the poverty too. I got a shocking bill today from my internet bundler for almost $400. because they got the payment wrong on my last bill and though I did pay, it wasn't recorded by the bank for the full amount. :eek: Now I really can't pay it because I'm struggling financially like so many and I feel like, there goes Xmas this year.

I do believe the virus will end soon but I've lost almost a year of my life with no recompense. I'd settle for a billion dollars :giggle: and I think that's fair because time is irreplaceable and I'll be older and uglier by the time I get out again and back to what life is left.

What helps me is thinking of spring and summer, my favorite seasons and surrounding myself with those images just about everywhere. It does help a little.

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Daniel brannum said:
Do things that make you happy rather than trying to be happy. Because when you do or engage in things that make you happy, you will be happy automatically.
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Heck, I don't really know
I mean, I'm already happy, so I don't have to try...I'm already there
Plenty around for unhappiness or sadness
It just doesn't affect me
I wake up happy (this used to bug hell outa my wife)
And....I go to bed happy (this does not bug my wife)
There's no trying

Maybe I have too much serotonin and/or dopamine
Been that way since I can remember
 
charry said:
My husband had a massive stroke,......turned our life upside down,, and it’s been a rollercoaster since ..we ve had no support....it’s jyst been us.......im his shadow carer I've not left his side since then ...mike is paralysed down his left side...he can’t do anything for himself .....I .miss my lovely man ..🥺😢
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Oh, my dear, how difficult that must be for you on so many levels. Sending love ❤️ and hugs. You are an incredibly brave woman.
 
chic said:
I do feel very sad lately too. All of you have brought up such good points as to why and what to do. I'm just blue. The only thing I love to do anymore is sleep, which is so unlike me. Last night I was bored and made a new necklace because I love jewelry making, but when finished, I felt sadder because no one really sees me anymore. Not like they used to. I just feel invisible.

I'm so sad because of all the hate in the world right now and the poverty too. I got a shocking bill today from my internet bundler for almost $400. because they got the payment wrong on my last bill and though I did pay, it wasn't recorded by the bank for the full amount. :eek: Now I really can't pay it because I'm struggling financially like so many and I feel like, there goes Xmas this year.

I do believe the virus will end soon but I've lost almost a year of my life with no recompense. I'd settle for a billion dollars :giggle: and I think that's fair because time is irreplaceable and I'll be older and uglier by the time I get out again and back to what life is left.

What helps me is thinking of spring and summer, my favorite seasons and surrounding myself with those images just about everywhere. It does help a little.

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Chic, hugs, I am so sorry you are blue. One thing though, we all age, but with your bone structure and innate elegance, you will still be beautiful at ninety. 🥰
 
Ruthanne said:
I've been trying to fight it off but it's apparent that I am feeling sad in so many ways. So many things happening and it's just hard. I feel it must be the same for many
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Thanks for starting this thread. It's clear it hits home for many. I'm feeling the same sadness, about the overall state of things. I had been away from this forum for quite some time, but it was my sadness that drew me back here. Just being able to share these feelings with others who understand helps. And all the lighter threads help to distract me for a while.
 
Gaer said:
I've read all the comments above and for someone to come along all bubbly and happy would only irritate all you wonderful people. I want to speak plain and straight.

The entire atmosphere of the world is filled with thoughts of this sadness with which you are responding.
You are only a value judgement from changing your quality of thought. This is a choice of your mind.
The mind can't hold a happy thought and a sad thought at the same moment. Why would you choose to feel sad when you can feel happiness?
You can establish your own happiness. You have the power to SHIFT your thinking. Please don't give up today's happiness to embrace misery.

Be thankful for what you have right now. You might be feeling the tenderness of your soul. This tenderness also holds tremendous love, tremendous sadness, and the softest joy. To experience this is a wonderful growth of the soul. Allow yourself to feel this but then as you return to activity and the thinking level of the mind, create a light, happy attitude to attract joy into your life. Gently,take care of your body, your mind and your surroundings. You can value every moment and love everything that happens in your life! We can all get through this!
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Gaer You are a very wise and astute person. Your wisdom is boundless and beyond compare. I have two examples of one that can be happy and sad and even angry at the same time. Many times a mother cried in loss and laughed in happiness at her daughters wedding. Mixed emotions are not rare. Many a bride has cried in loss and laughed at happiness at her own wedding. Many a parent has cried in anguish then laughed uncontrollably when a lost child has come from under the coat rack. To think otherwise lacks imagination. Many thanks for your comment and GOD bless.
 
This year has been a real strain on people....both physically and mentally. The Corona Virus, and it's impact on the personal lives and routines for millions of people.....the weeks of reports of civil unrest in many of the cities....the wild swings in the financial markets....the forest fires in the West, and the flooding storms in the Gulf states, the ridiculous rhetoric surrounding the elections....and on and on. It has really been hard to find some Good news this year.
In times like this, it is very important for people to find something of interest to occupy their time and minds.
 
Shalimar said:
Chic, hugs, I am so sorry you are blue. One thing though, we all age, but with your bone structure and innate elegance, you will still be beautiful at ninety. 🥰
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It's not that really Shal, :giggle:. I'm not that shallow. I can only describe what I feel as sustained suffering from lack of positive anticipation in life. I live in a state in my country where everything fun has been shut down or has been forbidden to control the virus which leaves us with very little to do for fun. Lack of fun is harmful after extended periods of time. You just sort of survive,but it's not really living. This is what is so difficult. Hugs back.
 
chic said:
It's not that really Shal, :giggle:. I'm not that shallow. I can only describe what I feel as sustained suffering from lack of positive anticipation in life. I live in a state in my country where everything fun has been shut down or has been forbidden to control the virus which leaves us with very little to do for fun. Lack of fun is harmful after extended periods of time. You just sort of survive,but it's not really living. This is what is so difficult. Hugs back.
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Eek, I never meant to suggest you are shallow, merely pointing out a truth as I saw it. Life without fun is demoralizing to say the least, destroys the inner balance we need in order to cope with the current uncertainty. No wonder you are suffering. Sending love and positive energy your way. 🥰🌺🌸
 
chic said:
It's not that really Shal, :giggle:. I'm not that shallow. I can only describe what I feel as sustained suffering from lack of positive anticipation in life. I live in a state in my country where everything fun has been shut down or has been forbidden to control the virus which leaves us with very little to do for fun. Lack of fun is harmful after extended periods of time. You just sort of survive,but it's not really living. This is what is so difficult. Hugs back.
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I am always curious about why people say certain things so your post is very interesting. What fun things were you doing before that you can not do now? For me, taking my son with Down Syndrome out every Saturday was the highlight of our lives, and totally fun. Expensive 😂, but fun.

The virus has ended all that, and for a while we were limited to seeing him only at his home-a real bummer for us. Our other disabled son is still in complete lockdown at his group home. We can only see him at the door. He is really bored. Pretty sure he lacks fun.

Now my DS son comes to the house for lunch, and returns to his group home. But still fun. In the car, now that his dad is 74, he said his dad needs to go into a nursing home. His dad asked him then “who will make your lunch”. Mom, he said. Really?, his dad replied.

He thought a moment. “Oh, that’s right, mom Is a bad cook.” 😮😂

Can‘t you find a means of fun at home? Learn a craft, buy a computer game (I recommend WOW), color, watch tv, see how much dust piles up on the furniture in a month. We only go out shopping on fridays now, the virus is just too bad. Stay safe.
 
charry said:
My husband had a massive stroke,......turned our life upside down,, and it’s been a rollercoaster since ..we ve had no support....it’s jyst been us.......im his shadow carer I've not left his side since then ...mike is paralysed down his left side...he can’t do anything for himself .....I .miss my lovely man ..🥺😢
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I’m so sorry charry. 🙁
That’s a really tough one.
Liberty said:
Its also normal for a lot of people to get sad in the late fall, with winter approaching. Less light, less daytime hours. SAD, too...lol.

Lets all perk up...and smell the coffee brewing. Life is still good!
Lots to be thankful for.
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Yes! It ‘seems’ that people with underlying depressive disorders are most susceptible to seasonal affective disorder and those who are natural empaths can’t help but feel the sadness and despair from others. Staying extra focussed on tasks or hobbies seems to greatly help as well as daily walks.
 
Liberty said:
Its also normal for a lot of people to get sad in the late fall, with winter approaching. Less light, less daytime hours. SAD, too...lol.

Lets all perk up...and smell the coffee brewing. Life is still good!
Lots to be thankful for.
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I used to get depressed when I bought Christmas presents for my family and my Christmas presents were the credit card statements. Not anymore after seeing my stink rotten girls faces light up in glee when they tore into their presents like human hurricanes. Now I simply enjoy those cherished moments in time. Thanks for reading.
 
Moods can change from moment to moment and day to day. Finding things of interest to do in your own environment can be very useful now and that's just what I'm doing now. Too much of the news now a days can be disheartening and the repetitiveness of it, too, I think we can only take so much of it. I'm trying to keep my spirits up and yes, that can be hard after awhile, too, so I do let into the sadness of it all, too, and have a cry, too. Crying releases tension and can really help although I don't do it all the time.

I don't have reliable people offline that I can talk to. I do have a friend that only vents about his physical illness all the time or the leaders of the country doing this and that. So, he is not a good option. I do find some comfort in talking to my dear pets--they look at me attentively and listen. Sometimes I will see one of the neighbors and have a little chat with them but that's not very often.

I don't feel that I can go out and socialize and meet new people at this time either with the virus surging in my state and having several underlying conditions. I guess none of us know how we would fare if we came down with the virus and I'm not willing to risk it by going out socializing now.

I am having a pretty good day today and I am really thankful for that!:sneaky:
 
charry said:
No progress, ... We tried carers,but hopeless.....I prefer to care for him myself ....
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When we adopted our extremely disabled son, he was supposed to have fetal alcohol syndrome. We said we would adopt any child as long as the child could walk. He was featured on a local tv show, was 18 months old, and adorable. We fell in love right away.

Turns out he had quadriplegic cerebral palsy, a seizure disorder, mild mental retardation, and a slew of other issues. We were asked if we wanted to return him. Hmm. He is, of course, total care. We cared for him till he was 18 and he choose to go into a group home.

I have an ideal how hard it is for you. But remember in order for you to care for your husband, you must also take care of yourself. Could you not get part time help? My heart goes out to you. If you want to vent via PM, I am willing to listen.
 
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