Does where you live or what you're living in effect family visits?

IrishEyes

IrishEyes

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I live in a 55+ Mobile Home Community. It is not a Park type area at all. We have spacious yards, a private lake,
grounds crews. If it were built homes here it would look like any other neighborhood.
As I have gotten to know many neighbors here I have heard the same story that saddens my heart.
"No, my kids will come pick me up and take me places but they won't come into my home and visit
because I live in a Mobile Home. They are disgusted I live in one, like it's a step down in class. Never mind
that I love living here, that my home now is easier to clean and cozy for me. It embarrasses them."
I do not understand this myself. These people are independent, happy, active and have a whole community
here that watch out for each other. A house or a Mobile Home, what difference does it make?
I have seen what is classified as Trailer Parks but to think this is the same as those is ludicrous.
Their parents are happy, active and safe, if a strange car comes into the area just driving around slowly
the Property Manager is alerted and she stops them and asks who they are looking for. If they can't name
a resident she follows them out of the community property.
 
Is it not cold in the winter?
I have rented that 2 weeks in the summer for 100 a week for the kids on a holiday park and now that houses are so scarse they also let people live there. Then you could buy a caravan for 25.000. A friend from my son from school, his parents divorced and his dad then could live there.

Bunch of arrogant people to be ashamed of their own parents.
 
My kids visit in our mobile home also in a 55+ park.
It is larger than the apartment we had here. I think many get the wrong impression on mobile home parks and in this area, you could tell just driving by the 55+ parks are well maintained and not an eyesore that the general parks are. stereotypes seem to be your kid's problem.

I feel this is good choice we have small yards to putter around in not too much to take care of and more privacy that apartment living gave us.
 
Jeni said:
My kids visit in our mobile home also in a 55+ park.
It is larger than the apartment we had here. I think many get the wrong impression on mobile home parks and in this area, you could tell just driving by the 55+ parks are well maintained and not an eyesore that the general parks are. stereotypes seem to be your kid's problem.

I feel this is good choice we have small yards to putter around in not too much to take care of and more privacy that apartment living gave us.
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Not my kids, many of my sweet neighbors, very nice people and I can tell when they get depressed when a day with them
gets postponed, it's heart breaking.
 
Messy said:
Is it not cold in the winter?
I have rented that 2 weeks in the summer for 100 a week for the kids on a holiday park and now that houses are so scarse they also let people live there. Then you could buy a caravan for 25.000. A friend from my son from school, his parents divorced and his dad then could live there.

Bunch of arrogant people to be ashamed of their own parents.
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These are the manufactured homes not the older trailer types. It does get cold here, these homes have better insulation and roof
on them.
 
Maybe it does, but I hadn't really thought about it before. My brother (my only sibling) has not visited me here since I moved here almost 8 years ago. I know he has gone to the motor vehicle department at various times which is almost across the street from me. He used to visit me at my house which was in the country. But since I moved here and do not have a car I have only seen him twice. I had to go his wild west show at a 4th of July celebration (not family) to see him.

I am not in a mobile home park, but a senior living apartment. We talk on the phone but not often. When we were growing up we were quite close so I think the only reason he will not come here is because it is downtown and a senior living situation He is afraid of getting old and he is 76 (older than me).

My son is a different story. He is disabled and lives upstairs in my building so I see him several times a day. Always at my door! :giggle:
 
C50 said:
That sounds like kids who really dont like their parents and want to get the obligatory visit over as quickly as possible.
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Very possible though some pick them up take them out and spend the day with parents at their own house,
you know the big House and Gardens type homes. Some have told me the kids come out and tell them it is
their home (too small, feels too cluttered, etc)
 
I’ve always made intentional choices regarding where I live because my home is the gathering place for most family get togethers.

This house we’re in now, that we intentionally chose as part of our downsizing effort, is the smallest I’ve lived in since the kids left home, but it has a lovely front porch, pretty back deck, a comfortable fire pit area and some lawn, so there are other places to hang out than just the living room/kitchen area, places for the grands to play, and guest room dresser is loaded with things for the kids to do.

It’d be hard to not have the space because it would mean that get togethers would be difficult or impossible for me to host.
 
I still live in the 3 bedroom brick house that Hubby and I moved into in 1966. It has a medium sized back yard that has, over time, become better adapted for gatherings of up to 30 people. Sometimes it was family, other times neighbours and occasionally used for fund raising events.

Most of my family, with the exception of my son and my sister, still live in the Sydney suburbs and they love to gather in the old house for Boxing Day (December 26) and for birthdays. The younger ones have designated my house and the "party house".

I will stay here as long as I can. I am not alone. My daughter and her daughter have moved in with me and other members of the family join us for meals often enough for me to see all of them several times a year.
 
"Does where you live or what you're living in effect family visits?"

Where you're living sounds nice to me.

But my answer to the thread question is no. Over the years, my family and I lived in all sorts of places, including a mobile home, a rented house, a studio apartment, and for years, my wife and I lived in a "post-war home" built in 1948 with less than 800 square feet, until we finally bought the house I'm in now, which is an ordinary 3 bedroom, 2 bath house approaching 2000 square feet. It's okay, but just average.

Through all of that, we all visited each other, even had reunions. My cousins had a very nice house in town, but their July 4th reunions were held at their mobile home at the lake, since the weather was nice that time of year, and people spent most of the day outside anyway.

When my grandmother was still living, she had an old farmhouse in the country. Sometimes the family would pick her up and take her to their house for Christmas, but I don't think it had anything to do with them being ashamed of where she lived. It's just that all the family gathered at their house for the occasion and they wanted her to be included.
 
IrishEyes said:
I live in a 55+ Mobile Home Community. It is not a Park type area at all. We have spacious yards, a private lake,
grounds crews. If it were built homes here it would look like any other neighborhood.
As I have gotten to know many neighbors here I have heard the same story that saddens my heart.
"No, my kids will come pick me up and take me places but they won't come into my home and visit
because I live in a Mobile Home. They are disgusted I live in one, like it's a step down in class. Never mind
that I love living here, that my home now is easier to clean and cozy for me. It embarrasses them."
I do not understand this myself. These people are independent, happy, active and have a whole community
here that watch out for each other. A house or a Mobile Home, what difference does it make?
I have seen what is classified as Trailer Parks but to think this is the same as those is ludicrous.
Their parents are happy, active and safe, if a strange car comes into the area just driving around slowly
the Property Manager is alerted and she stops them and asks who they are looking for. If they can't name
a resident she follows them out of the community property.
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In the Uk we don't have the ''Park style'' type homes that are very common in the USA.... what we do have are ''mobile''..albeit Static homes , which sound very similar to what you describe....

They are high-end static homes on a private park.... and they are immaculate. The homes themselves are beautifully kept.. the park is immaculately kept.. and it's not cheap to live there...

This one for example which is local to me....


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hollydolly said:
In the Uk we don't have the ''Park style'' type homes that are very common in the USA.... what we do have are ''mobile''..albeit Static homes , which sound very similar to what you describe....

They are high-end static homes on a private park.... and they are immaculate. The homes themselves are beautifully kept.. the park is immaculately kept.. and it's not cheap to live there...

This one for example which is local to me....


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Yes, very much the same type setting. The prices range in different areas or states. This is why I can't understand why some
adult children think their parents are shaming them to live in these types of communities.
 
IrishEyes said:
Yes, very much the same type setting. The prices range in different areas or states. This is why I can't understand why some
adult children think their parents are shaming them to live in these types of communities.
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yes exactly.. and like I say.. here... these static homes, are not cheap to buy, usually between a quarter and a 1/2 million to buy.. and then the ground /park fees on top....so if yours is similar then there's absoutely no reason for anyone to look down their noses at these properties
 
We have a small 2 bedroom home with a finished basement that has a third bedroom and large rec room for mattresses. That’s fine for one family. If on the very rare occasion when it was two families, it was too tight. We rented a hotel room for one of them.

Mobile homes were more common when we lived farther north. The only stigma would have been when the park was in disrepair.

The only thing mobile about mobile homes was that they arrived prebuilt. Families could afford them. There are some lovely parks.
 
It's unfortunate that some people feel the way you described. My mother-in-law used to be in a mobile home park that wasn't as nice as the one you described but it was nice enough. The only reason we didn't visit her there was she is a hoarder and the mobile home was trashed enough that it had to be junked when she was forced to move. She's doing better now in the second apartment she's gotten since moving from there.

We're fortunate enough to not have that issue since we're in a house. My wife doesn't like hosting people that much so we usually get together at another place where other family members live or other places.
 
asp3 said:
It's unfortunate that some people feel the way you described. My mother-in-law used to be in a mobile home park that wasn't as nice as the one you described but it was nice enough. The only reason we didn't visit her there was she is a hoarder and the mobile home was trashed enough that it had to be junked when she was forced to move. She's doing better now in the second apartment she's gotten since moving from there.

We're fortunate enough to not have that issue since we're in a house. My wife doesn't like hosting people that much so we usually get together at another place where other family members live or other places.
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Our Property Manager has had to deal with a few hoarders here that rented one of the few that can be rented before. SO if the parent
does hoard I could understand that. If any I am talking about do hoard you sure can't tell it from outside. We do have one here, he owns
his and is constantly being told to store stuff on the outside someplace else.
 
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