don't want a date, want a job:(

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Oh yeah, my kind of munchkin, LOL!!
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i_am_Lois said:
nwlady, Think like a professional ball player, even they go through a slump. And 61 is NOT old.
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LOL!! oh man, this was a hoot. I disappeared, had to, with a migraine since about 2, I get aphasia with them, and usually bad pain but luckily, not much pain today, just the aura deal, aphasia, and numbness, yep, that was enough. See ya'll later, need to eat something soon.
 
Nwlady, sorry to hear you're in a slump and having a migraine to boot :(. Lavender oil is supposed to help their severity and frequency, if you're looking to try something natural. Married here, so can't offer the advice you wanted, but I guarantee that the spark can be there at our ages.

I don't think you can force anything though, I still think you can bump into somebody in an everyday situation if you get out there. Walks on the beach, in a park, visit to a library, there must be some places you can just go to at your leisure, and let thing's happen naturally, you may meet someone nice without placing an ad.

The schools and libraries where I live often have reasonable priced classes for watercolor painting, crafts, even dancing like line dancing...something where people gather to have a little fun and learn a new dance, while partnering up with others in the class.

Hope tomorrow is brighter for you, try to stay positive and think good thoughts. Something will crack soon, and you'll get a break...maybe a new job will lead to other things. We're here to talk to, and I don't ever have a problem hearing when one of us is having a hard time with something, I'll be grateful someday when I need someone here to lend me an ear. :love_heart:
 
The aphasia has probably always been a part of my headaches, but when I was young, I was totally lost when I got a migraine, so I had classmates leading me to the bus, after spending the whole day in the sick-room at school, or the teacher would just think I had trouble with my eyesight when I said I couldn't see straight, so she'd move me to the front of the room, oh joy.

Anyway, I'm had them pretty much 60 years. Maybe one or two a year, then during my child-bearing years, one or two a month. Funny how you forget or put things out of your mind, but I chose to not remember the many jobs I was "let go" from because I was sick too much. Or especially get the headache while at work and have to go home.

Nowadays, I just get angry and try to carry on whatever I am doing, maybe just reading etc. That is when I started noticing I couldn't talk normal (tongue-tied) and I sure couldn't read a sentence. It usually lasts about 1/2 an hour, but not positive. I have something they gave me to take called midrin, it's the only thing that brings relief,and then only some of the time. I had one in 2011 that took me to the emergency room, and after 5 injections, the pain finally subsided. Now I rarely get one, seems maybe once or twice a year. If nothing else, and not bad enough for the hospital, I put ice on the spot. It's only one spot, one temple or the other.

I feel better today, like I got hit with a stick, but better;)

Thanks all:) Looking at caregiver, or assistant jobs where there is no, heavy lifting. I can be a live-in companion (cook, light-cleaning,errands, just be there for someone) and there has got to be someone out there that needs and can pay me at least a small salary. Wish me luck!! Denise:)
 
nwlady said:
Looking at caregiver, or assistant jobs where there is no, heavy lifting. I can be a live-in companion (cook, light-cleaning,errands, just be there for someone) and there has got to be someone out there that needs and can pay me at least a small salary. Wish me luck!! Denise:)
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There are agencies that provide those services. Would be a good idea to apply with them?
 
Pappy said:
Aphasia ? Googled that word Denise and see that it can effect your speech and ability to read, etc. that sounds real nasty. Do you take anything for it? Hope you feel better.
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Thanks Pappy, it's nice to see a man care about how you feel, big hugs coming your way:) I am way better today. I wrote about the aphasia. I guess stroke-victims get it, way worse I'm sure. Migraines are crazy, they make the blood-vessels swell in your head, instead of constrict (regular headaches make them constrict, if my reading was correct).

Well, if a headache is the worse thing I have going, then I am a lucky one;) Have a great day Pappy!! Denise
 
That Guy said:
There are agencies that provide those services. Would be a good idea to apply with them?
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I have TG, was turned down because I couldn't lift people and help get them in and out of tubs etc. I hurt my arms and one hand during a warehouse job. If I do anymore lifting, or repetitive heavy, I will not be able to use them at all. That's why I went back to school to make sure I could get office work, lol, some idea so far, no work:) It's ok though, it will be, and I appreciate your suggestion:) I think someone private will be my best bet, someone other than a carecenter/agency. We'll see:) Denise
 
nwlady said:
Thanks Pappy, it's nice to see a man care about how you feel, big hugs coming your way:) I am way better today. I wrote about the aphasia. I guess stroke-victims get it, way worse I'm sure. Migraines are crazy, they make the blood-vessels swell in your head, instead of constrict (regular headaches make them constrict, if my reading was correct).

Well, if a headache is the worse thing I have going, then I am a lucky one;) Have a great day Pappy!! Denise
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Thank you Seabreeze, I will check it now:) Denise:)
 
My father in law had a major stroke which paralyzed half of his body, that when we moved him into our home and cared for him there. He also had Aphasia, I never did know that migraines could have that symptom, must be very concerning. My mother was the opposite of me, you would never see her cry. But I remember one time when I was young, and she was menopausal and having a migraine, that she was lying in her darkened bedroom, tears streaming from her eyes. I knew she was really suffering, my heart goes out to you.
 
Ok, just got their voicemail, but left a message. They are located in Bend, Oregon, too far to commute, and I can't move there. But, I asked if they would give me a call as I wanted to find out if they had business in the Roseburg area. I am sure Roseburg has something like them, but I will research that today. Their list of tasks fit "exactly" what I can do!! I am hoping:) ty again Seabreeze. I've talked to about 4 agencies in the last few months, but they all wanted me to be able to lift 50 lbs. I may be able to do that, but it's not smart for me, so I'm not going to. I'd rather live in a shelter than injure what is left of me.
 
When I was little I cried, but after having them for so many years, it's just nothing I get way upset about it. Yes it hurts, but I found if I remain as calm as possible it's better for me. I can understand her crying, I use to freak completely, I hated trying to explain to people something they could not understand.

I appreciate everyone's concern. I am putting it out of my mind now though, thanks again;) Denise
 
I gave up on men 15 years ago. The only ones I ever fell for were the ones who ended up dropping me and marrying the next. The others thought even buying a cup of coffee in a paper cup gave them the right to take me to bed. Fooey on them all. I've been on my own for most of my life and I'm happy with who I have become. With my caring for my demented mother, a man in my life would most probably serve to complicate my life, although surprisingly might have been able to help me too. I'm 67, widowed at the age of 23 and never had the chance to remarry. I accepted the fact that if I wasn't married by the time I was 46, I probably wouldn't be. As I said I'm happy and content with myself.
 
I remarried at 49; never meaning to do it again. He died when I was 54; that took a long time to get over; now I am 61; and nobody will get me into bed with coffee in a paper cup!
 
LogicsHere said:
I gave up on men 15 years ago. The only ones I ever fell for were the ones who ended up dropping me and marrying the next. The others thought even buying a cup of coffee in a paper cup gave them the right to take me to bed. Fooey on them all. I've been on my own for most of my life and I'm happy with who I have become. With my caring for my demented mother, a man in my life would most probably serve to complicate my life, although surprisingly might have been able to help me too. I'm 67, widowed at the age of 23 and never had the chance to remarry. I accepted the fact that if I wasn't married by the time I was 46, I probably wouldn't be. As I said I'm happy and content with myself.
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I think I am more content then I realize, that's why no one is really getting my attention. I would be giving up a lot if I had a man in my life after 18 years, so yeah, I am probably set for the duration. Bottom line, to each his/her own, whatever is comfy and makes you most content;)
 
Don't want to go on a new date
Don't want to go on eHarmony
Don't want to go on Match.com
Don't want to die on ChristianMingle ...
Just let me go naturally

(apologies to 3 Dog Night)


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I am older than you and single and no longer looking for dates. I don't expect sparks and even when there were sparks, they did not last long enough to start
a big fire or else the fire went out. Keep your expectations low as I do. It is not impossible but I find that the older I get, the likelihood decreases, past the point of diminishing returns. If this sounds discouraging, so be it. False optimism or wishful thinking is much worse. AT least you had a few dates anyway.
You could try PlentyOf Fish online dating (free) but folks there tend to be deceptive and photos are old. Depends where you live.
 
If I was single and looking for companionship, I'd be wary about using online dating services. But if I found someone that was nice on a small forum like this, I would consider getting together with them for lunch or dinner somewhere, if they were close enough and it was convenient. I agree with Amethyst that many on those dating sites are deceptive, both men and women.
 
NWL, we have a Senior Center here, and one of the things they do is kind of a referral service for people who are looking for some kind of work, and people who need help. I was going to look for people who needed a ride to do grocery (or other) shopping, or just needed a person to go and do it for them, before i moved away last year.
I don't know if your Senior Center has something like that, but it is at least a place you could check out.

Also, for your headaches, DMSO is supposed to help stop a headache. Not sure if it works with a migraine, but it is good for many other things, and is certainly worth trying. I keep a roll-on container, and also a little spray bottle with some in it, and use it for all kinds of aches and pains. It will flat stop a toothache dead in it tracks, when you put some on the painful tooth with a Q-tip.

http://www.sott.net/article/228453-DMSO-The-Real-Miracle-Solution
 
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