Estrangement : Have you ever Gone No contact with a Parent , child or close family member?

I have signed up with facebook three times and three times they have kicked me off their site. Wanna know why? then download a ton of logs to read and find out....nottttt...
 
I have toxic relationships in my family, too. I chose to leave when I was old enough. I don't know who said this but it meant a great deal to me at the time, and since: "You will not heal by going back to what broke you."

I am sorry for those of you who have experienced the awful experiences you've shared here. No one should have to endure such abuse from anyone, let alone family members and especially not parents.
 
Seren said:
I have toxic relationships in my family, too. I chose to leave when I was old enough. I don't know who said this but it meant a great deal to me at the time, and since: "You will not heal by going back to what broke you."

I am sorry for those of you who have experienced the awful experiences you've shared here. No one should have to endure such abuse from anyone, let alone family members and especially not parents.
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I'm sorry for you too..and that's a great saying ..I must remember that... especially in my current circs with a broken marriage which side-swiped me out of the blue...

..but you;re so right, the people who should be those who are your protectors , are often not, as in the case of almost everyone who has posted on this thread.. and often in my case at least.. my very worst enemies.. anyone in the street would have been more caring, less abusive and protective than my own family..
 
Bella said:
I've weeded out a number of people over the years. I've never regretted my decision. I refuse to sacrifice myself for people who don't deserve me or care about me. I'm nobody's punching bag.
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Same here. I used to have a few friends. Not anymore. I figure if they don't give a crap enough to call and just say hey, how ya doin once in a while why bother?
 
My only child was pregnant and never told me. After the baby came, I was allowed to see her, after which I was told that the way I was holding my grand daughter was dangerous and they are afraid I will harm the child. I am beyond hurt. I don't understand where this animosity is coming from. My daughter has cut off contact with me and I guess it's for the best, as there is nothing I say or do which in her eyes is right. I hope things will change. I have given this relationship up to God to handle, as I've tried everything possible.
I never realized so many are in the same boat.
 
Woodland said:
My only child was pregnant and never told me. After the baby came, I was allowed to see her, after which I was told that the way I was holding my grand daughter was dangerous and they are afraid I will harm the child. I am beyond hurt. I don't understand where this animosity is coming from. My daughter has cut off contact with me and I guess it's for the best, as there is nothing I say or do which in her eyes is right. I hope things will change. I have given this relationship up to God to handle, as I've tried everything possible.
I never realized so many are in the same boat.
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You say you were "told" you were holding your granddaughter wrong, but you didn't say who said those words. This made me remember how my father didn't want my mother to have anything to do with her own mother. Just because.

I wonder if it's your daughter who doesn't want to see you -- or if someone else is behind it?

Either way, I know it hurts.
 
my older sister, Mary who lives in England, we have never been close
For quite awhile we never talked,emailed each other,our younger brother John always had the relationship with her
I'd say about 3 yrs ago,the 'thaw' was beginning to melt,I'd always send her emails telling her what was going on in my life. Whenever the spirit moved her, she would respond. During Covid we would have weekly 'zoom meetings' she finally showed up couple months later.The last time I talked to her was in July when came across 'the pond' to attend our niece,Katie{my god/daughter} bridal luncheon
I will see Mary at Katie's wedding next month in NYC, it will be the 1st time we seen each other in person in 10 yrs. I tempted to say to her' hey,long time no see LOL!
 
and as I mentioned in order to find out why you must download logs. ever do a search of your name and find out just how many of you are out there? I know of several with my name including a famous author. wonder if fb booted me because they thought I was someone else,,,hey!
 
deaver said:
and as I mentioned in order to find out why you must download logs. ever do a search of your name and find out just how many of you are out there? I know of several with my name including a famous author. wonder if fb booted me because they thought I was someone else,,,hey!
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Depends what name you're searching. Many of us have had several surnames during our lifetime..with marriages etc...

I've researched my name there's probably hundreds with similar or same names as mine..
 
deaver said:
after finding other people with the same name did you do any research about them?
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I found about 6 people with my name. They are in FL,NJ,CO,AZ,MI and CA. That was from Google. On a lark, I queried one of the "peoplefinder" sites.
According to the site, I was in Real Estate, single, earned $45K a year, and had a net worth of $50K
Wrong on all counts.
 
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hollydolly said:
..but you;re so right, the people who should be those who are your protectors , are often not, as in the case of almost everyone who has posted on this thread.. and often in my case at least.. my very worst enemies.. anyone in the street would have been more caring, less abusive and protective than my own family..
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I remember my youngest sister, who was adored by me; I practically raised her. When I decided to move to Florida, I came down for a visit first, to see where I was going to settle. I informed her of when my bus would be pulling in. She not only did not meet it, she ignored my calls. If I knew my baby sister was arriving in a strange town, I would have been there to meet her. But apparently we come from different planets! That hurt for a long time.
 
carouselsilver said:
I remember my youngest sister, who was adored by me; I practically raised her. When I decided to move to Florida, I came down for a visit first, to see where I was going to settle. I informed her of when my bus would be pulling in. She not only did not meet it, she ignored my calls. If I knew my baby sister was arriving in a strange town, I would have been there to meet her. But apparently we come from different planets! That hurt for a long time.
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I had a similar story... when my mother died and my youngest sister was just 10.. I raised her.. until I left to get married by which time my father had married again anyway.. my sister came to visit several times, and then 3 years after I got married, she came and asked to stay overnight.. when I got up in the morning, she was gone, and so was every item of my clothing, including coats and shoes.. she'd disappeared, completely with everything.. I had to hunt her down through her friends.. and when I met her at her work to collect my things, which she'd bundled into a trash bag.. and asked why she did it.. I got no reply.. .. 3 years after that she broke into my rear garden and stole the bike which had the babyseat on for my little girl... :mad:
 
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hollydolly said:
I had a similar story... when my mother died and my youngest sister was just 10.. I raised her.. until I left to get married by which time my father had married again anyway.. my sister came to visit several times, and then 3 years after I got married, she came and asked to stay overnight.. when I got up in the morning, she was gone, and so was every item of my clothing, including coats and shoes.. she'd disappeared, completely with everything.. I had to hunt her down through her friends.. and when I met her at her work to collect my things, which she'd bundled into a trash bag.. and asked why she did it.. I got no reply.. .. 3 years after that she broke into my rear garden and stole the bike which had the babyseat on for my little girl... :mad:
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Geez, what is wrong with people? But one painful lesson I have learned over the years, is that just because someone is related to you doesn't mean that it is sacred to them. My next younger sister has stolen things from me too, which is why I don't have any of my siblings visit.
 
carouselsilver said:
Geez, what is wrong with people? But one painful lesson I have learned over the years, is that just because someone is related to you doesn't mean that it is sacred to them. My next younger sister has stolen things from me too, which is why I don't have any of my siblings visit.
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You may think you've had a tough time,...., you've no idea what has gone on here, ("but as usual if I started to tell my story it would take all day", so I wont!!!!!!!!!!! :) ).
 
carouselsilver said:
Geez, what is wrong with people? But one painful lesson I have learned over the years, is that just because someone is related to you doesn't mean that it is sacred to them. My next younger sister has stolen things from me too, which is why I don't have any of my siblings visit.
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yep I did the same, banned from my house and property... isn't it awful ?. When it happened to me the first time I was in shock..couldn't believe what I was seeing..
 

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