Ethical non-monogamy in seniors - non-sexual

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Islandgypsy

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Wife and I are 73 and just recently retired. Moved to Florida and love it. We have met two lovely, lonely ladies who are still reeling from the loss of their husbands. To them, the single widow life does not look like the fun we foresaw in our golden years. What is the forum consensus on the idea of a couple adding a lady to their household if it brings improved enjoyment to all. And ignoring religious moral taboos.
 
Islandgypsy said:
Wife and I are 73 and just recently retired. Moved to Florida and love it. We have met two lovely, lonely ladies who are still reeling from the loss of their husbands. To them, the single widow life does not look like the fun we foresaw in our golden years. What is the forum consensus on the idea of a couple adding a lady to their household if it brings improved enjoyment to all. And ignoring religious moral taboos.
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I think itā€™s a disaster waiting to happen.
 
Islandgypsy said:
Wife and I are 73 and just recently retired. Moved to Florida and love it. We have met two lovely, lonely ladies who are still reeling from the loss of their husbands. To them, the single widow life does not look like the fun we foresaw in our golden years. What is the forum consensus on the idea of a couple adding a lady to their household if it brings improved enjoyment to all. And ignoring religious moral taboos.
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What does your wife say? Does she know and like her and is your wife not the jealous type?
 
Islandgypsy said, "What is the forum consensus on the idea of a couple adding a lady to their household"? The forum aren't the ones with a new female in the place. If you and the women are content and happy with the arrangement, It doesn't matter what the forum thinks. You really didn't say what kind of relationship you and the women will be having. That is a mine field. Everyone is going to have expectations, and wants.

Things have to be hammered out quite clearly. And not only do you have to accommodate today's expectations, and wants, but the needs of three aging adults. If "Three's Company" meets all of the members needs, more power to you. But to be honest, it sounds more like the first 20 minutes of a "Dateline" episode. But what do I know, I don't even have a cat anymore.
 
ignoring religious moral taboos
Islandgypsy said:
Wife and I are 73 and just recently retired. Moved to Florida and love it. We have met two lovely, lonely ladies who are still reeling from the loss of their husbands. To them, the single widow life does not look like the fun we foresaw in our golden years. What is the forum consensus on the idea of a couple adding a lady to their household if it brings improved enjoyment to all. And ignoring religious moral taboos.
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In your title you wrote "non-sexual'', yet in your post you wrote "ignoring religious moral taboos". If it's non-sexual why would there be moral taboos? Care to explain?

Unless you're planning on dumping your wife, talk to her and make sure she's onboard with having the two women move in. Even if you are not planning to, things can get complicated and misunderstandings will happen. Thread carefully, non-sexual and sexual harems can be explosive due to jealousy and manipulations.
 
PVC said:
ignoring religious moral taboos

In your title you wrote "non-sexual'', yet in your post you wrote "ignoring religious moral taboos". If it's non-sexual why would there be moral taboos? Care to explain?

Unless you're planning on dumping your wife, talk to her and make sure she's onboard with having the two women move in. Even if you are not planning to, things can get complicated and misunderstandings will happen. Thread carefully, non-sexual and sexual harems can be explosive due to jealousy and manipulations.
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Judaism and Christian teachings instill monogamy in the minds of their followers. Again, not my personal plan. We live in a one bedroom condo with a full size bed. There would be no room for another butt. Originally I was mulling some possibl solutions for the huge number of lonely seniors, both men and women. Puritanical values shouldnā€™t be a cause for an unhappy life.
 
Islandgypsy said:
Judaism and Christian teachings instill monogamy in the minds of their followers. Again, not my personal plan. We live in a one bedroom condo with a full size bed. There would be no room for another butt. Originally I was mulling some possibl solutions for the huge number of lonely seniors, both men and women. Puritanical values shouldnā€™t be a cause for an unhappy life.
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Get a big house with lots of bedrooms and turn it into a boarding house? Communal dining room and social gathering in the parlor?

I don't understand what you're REALLY asking. I thought you were asking if you could have a harem or some such thing by adding the ''two lovely lonely ladies'' to your household. Sorry if I misunderstood you.
 
IMO it would make more sense for your wife to move in with the two lovely lonely ladies and leave you out of it.

At 73 why complicate your life.

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More than one woman under the roof is always a problem regardless of age.
Do ask yourself and them this ....who is to take care of them in the event their health turns for the worse? Other than that...go for itšŸ˜ƒ
 
If it would be alright with the wife then I guess it would be OK. Of course it should work both ways. If a wife wanted to share their home with another man and her husband if he agreed would be ok. In my own case I don't believe my husband would agree to share our home with another man. My Husband likes to have control and it would be hard to have control over another man.
 
Sassycakes said:
If it would be alright with the wife then I guess it would be OK. Of course it should work both ways. If a wife wanted to share their home with another man and her husband if he agreed would be ok. In my own case I don't believe my husband would agree to share our home with another man. My Husband likes to have control and it would be hard to have control over another man.
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I understand itā€™s easier to ignore loneliness in old people rather than sympathize and want to help them. I understand some people see a sordid motive behind every sympathetic, loving jesture. I reread my post and still see no suggestion of mĆ©nage a trois. I titled my post ā€œnon-sexualā€. And still some respond with answers to questions not asked and non-existent motives. I am Islandgypsy. Please donā€™t be harsh or mean to me. I wish to treat everyone with the same consideration.
 
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