Everyone Makes One Mistake that changes their life Forever

I would prefer the word 'experiences' rather than mistakes - of which I have many - all have changed my life in some way and made me who I am today. There's no way of knowing what would have happened if I made different choices - such as choosing a different partner or career, or different place to live, better or maybe worse?
 

I left a job & location I loved, to move to one I had doubts about from the beginning, just because it paid more money. Did that because adult daughter had some expensive health problems & no insurance. Ended up hating it &
quitting it 3 yrs later. I landed on my feet ok, but sometimes wonder "what if I hadnt....."

thAy was the big one. Lots & lots of others along the way!
 

I think my worst mistake was staying in a profession I did not feel comfortable in, And not valuing myself enough to put myself and what I wanted first sometimes. Always thinking I had a tomorrow to do what I wanted. That tomorrow never came.
 
After five years service in a state school near my home I attracted the ire of the Headmistress with something I said to students in my role as Form Mistress. She wasn't impressed when I referred to the school uniform as "a funny looking garment at the best of times". Clearly a mistake.

The HM was a dragon who could easily have succeeded as superintendent of a female prison and I wasn't looking forward to working there for another year and it was already too late to apply for a transfer.

The nearest non state school was a catholic girls school that I could see on the other side of the railway line so I decided to try my luck there. I'd never had anything to do with catholics before this nor had I ever met a nun but I phoned and asked if they were looking for a science/maths teacher. They were, I got the job, and stayed there for the next 25 years and was really happy in the job.

A case of gold spun from straw.
 
Dame Warrigal said:
... She wasn't impressed when I referred to the school uniform as "a funny looking garment at the best of times". Clearly a mistake ...
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LOL - the same might be said of Catholic school uniforms.

Worse - I've known strippers that dressed more demurely than some of the Catholic girls, and the boys always seem to have their shirt-tails pulled out and their ties dangling - not in the classrooms, one would hope, but they certainly aren't ambassadors of their school when they're out of the classrooms.

Of course, the same could be said of public school students, but at least they aren't attempting to uphold an image ...

Good on ya' for lasting so long! :D
 
In our system the state schools also wear school uniforms.
The miniskirt lingered in OZ for decades in the form of high school uniforms.
I could tell the colour of some of the knickers as they were walking towards me.
St Trinian's had nothing on our girls.
 
East Hills Girls' High School. No boys. They were in a separate school on the opposite side of the street.

Although, when I worked at Bankstown Girls' High School, one of the seniors was a dancer on weekends at Whiskey a Go Go in Kings Cross. She was gorgeous and gave some, if not all, of the male staff permanent fantasies.
 
Twixie said:
Why do these people change when we've married them?

Is it because we really didn't know them at all?

Or is it us?
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I had an excuse the first time - 18 and my eyes tightly. I thought good looks and being fun was all a husband should be. :crushed:

No excuse for the second mistake as I was old enough to know better.

I'm a slow learner! Got it right at age 48!
 
Ameriscot said:
I had an excuse the first time - 18 and my eyes tightly. I thought good looks and being fun was all a husband should be. :crushed:

No excuse for the second mistake as I was old enough to know better.

I'm a slow learner! Got it right at age 48!
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How did you know you'd got it right?

Sometimes as men get older and have had relations with a few women..sometimes find the allure of a decent roast beef and Yorkshire puddings much more alluring than any shenanigans...:D
 
SifuPhil said:
Given that I believe that change is constant I would put the kibosh on the institution of marriage. We both - husband and wife - change throughout our lives, and to put such an artificial construct on two people is to only hasten the process.

At least, that's my own story and I'm sticking to it.
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I'm in agreement with you on this Phil. My daughter and son in law are separating/divorcing now after 9-10 years and after analyzing the situation, it's really just that they've grown apart and in this case because my daughter changed and he didn't really.

When they got together they both mountain biked, camped, hiked, road biked, all that kind of stuff and with friends. But ten years on, she's changed and doesn't want to do those things any more and is turning into more of a recluse (i.e. no social life and doesn't want one) while he's still doing the same stuff, plus now photograph of sports events and always with crowds of people around.

Her 'change' was making not only her miserable, but we've since come to realize that while he was willing to be the good husband and just party on while she stayed home, and then come home to her, loyal and faithful, he wasn't happy either. And now it sounds like he's over the shock and looking forward to a new start. So you're right, people do sometimes change too much for a marriage to continue.
 
Twixie said:
How did you know you'd got it right?

Sometimes as men get older and have had relations with a few women..sometimes find the allure of a decent roast beef and Yorkshire puddings much more alluring than any shenanigans...:D
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LOL. Been married to him for 14 years so far. Doing wonderfully! :love_heart:
 
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