Patnono
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- Location
- Whittier,Ca
I had my DNA done over a year ago, recently a man wrote me saying that I was a match as a 1st cousin. He's looking for either of his parents.
This was about 66 years ago. There is no record of his birth he was born at home, the adoptive parents went and got a birth certificate from the hospital later, you could do that back then, his mom was 16, she gave him away to a family friend of her uncle's, that she came back later she had changed her mind, they refused to give him back. Obviously she didn't know her rights. So she let it go. He has information that I was familiar with the area he heard where she lived. I had plenty of relatives that lived there.
I'm nervous about this because it would be life changing, if his father is related to me, he might not had known? The parents would be in their 80's if their even alive? I mentioned this to my brother, he got somewhat defensive not that he knew anything, but not wanting to disrupt anybodys life?
Next month is our family reunion with my mom's side, this is the only chance to ask questions? How do I approach this? Or should I ? I want to help him, he's had a rough time growing up because of this. His adoptive parents are dead. And his adoptive father treated him terribly because he wasn't blood related. But the Cat is out of the Bag. Hope it ends up well?
This was about 66 years ago. There is no record of his birth he was born at home, the adoptive parents went and got a birth certificate from the hospital later, you could do that back then, his mom was 16, she gave him away to a family friend of her uncle's, that she came back later she had changed her mind, they refused to give him back. Obviously she didn't know her rights. So she let it go. He has information that I was familiar with the area he heard where she lived. I had plenty of relatives that lived there.
I'm nervous about this because it would be life changing, if his father is related to me, he might not had known? The parents would be in their 80's if their even alive? I mentioned this to my brother, he got somewhat defensive not that he knew anything, but not wanting to disrupt anybodys life?
Next month is our family reunion with my mom's side, this is the only chance to ask questions? How do I approach this? Or should I ? I want to help him, he's had a rough time growing up because of this. His adoptive parents are dead. And his adoptive father treated him terribly because he wasn't blood related. But the Cat is out of the Bag. Hope it ends up well?