Finding True Love in older ages

RuthJD said:
I want to get back into drawing and may take an art class in the Spring or Summer. I have another barrier, too, I am overweight and not all men like that.

That's great you met your true love Annie!
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Good luck with your art class. That sounds like a really intelligent way to meet someone with similar interests to yours. I hope you do. :eek:
 

Way back in the way back in the days before I married my husband, there would be spells of months (sometimes many months) when there was nobody in sight. Somehow someone would appear when I least expected it. And when someone appeared, others magically appeared as well!

There's one thing I know for sure. If you feel desperate, you'll look desperate and give off vibes of desperation like an invisible shield. When you have things to do, friends, a life that doesn't include a Personal Person, those vibes of desperation aren't there and the invisible shield isn't either. That's when others are drawn to you.
 

chic said:
Good luck with your art class. That sounds like a really intelligent way to meet someone with similar interests to yours. I hope you do. :eek:
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Thanks! :)

Aurora said:
As Patti Davis, daughter of Ronald Reagan, said in her book about her father, you don't find love, love finds you. I have found that true.
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Well, that sounds good...

GeorgiaXplant said:
Way back in the way back in the days before I married my husband, there would be spells of months (sometimes many months) when there was nobody in sight. Somehow someone would appear when I least expected it. And when someone appeared, others magically appeared as well!

There's one thing I know for sure. If you feel desperate, you'll look desperate and give off vibes of desperation like an invisible shield. When you have things to do, friends, a life that doesn't include a Personal Person, those vibes of desperation aren't there and the invisible shield isn't either. That's when others are drawn to you.
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I am not the least bit desperate in fact I do all I can to be myself totally and don't really even want to look for a man. Just seems like I might be better off with a man who can give me moral support and some fun times.
 
I guess this is an old thread. I don't have anything to add really but last night when I was talking to my husband on the phone he sounded very lonely and said "I want my wife back". My daughter's shoulder is getting better so I'm going home tomorrow. Anyway, my point is, if something should happen to me, I fear how desperate my husband would be. He doesn't really enjoy just hanging out with the dogs and my brother. He also sounded so surprised that he had just done the dishes yesterday and now there were a bunch of dirty ones again! :) I think I would do better being alone than he would. I THINK, and I'm not sure about this, but I would probably just try to coast along and make the best of my life and if my intuition told me the right guy found me, then I might consider a relationship. I do think there are a lot of buttheads (I deleted the word I really wanted to use) out there. Some really creepy guys just looking for sex or a housekeeper or someone who babysit their grandkids.
 
FazeFour said:
I tried dating sites...two of them. I met three men who were interested in marriage for the purpose of obtaining citizenship! THREE!! I met one real gentleman among the six that I dated, but he moved far away for his job. I am no longer interested in a relationship. I'm thoroughly enjoying my independence - completely single for five years now.
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To be honest I am quite happy being single, too. I have no one to answer to or clean up after or argue with about those things. lol
 
Linda said:
I guess this is an old thread. I don't have anything to add really but last night when I was talking to my husband on the phone he sounded very lonely and said "I want my wife back". My daughter's shoulder is getting better so I'm going home tomorrow. Anyway, my point is, if something should happen to me, I fear how desperate my husband would be. He doesn't really enjoy just hanging out with the dogs and my brother. He also sounded so surprised that he had just done the dishes yesterday and now there were a bunch of dirty ones again! :) I think I would do better being alone than he would. I THINK, and I'm not sure about this, but I would probably just try to coast along and make the best of my life and if my intuition told me the right guy found me, then I might consider a relationship. I do think there are a lot of buttheads (I deleted the word I really wanted to use) out there. Some really creepy guys just looking for sex or a housekeeper or someone who babysit their grandkids.
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I have run across the buttheads who are just looking for someone to jump in the sack with them and they tell you how horny they are. To me, that is a turn off. Those guys sound desperate. You are right that there are a lot of creepy guys out there. The last guy I became friends with was a moron who was so judgemental it made me ill.
 
*Breaks out into Broadway show tunes*

"Life is a cabaret, ol' chum ... "

"If I were a rich man, da-da-da-da-da-da-da ..."

"Tomorrow, tommorow, I love ya, tomorrow ..."

*does jazz hands, shuffles off stage left*
 
I think love is a great thing.

Ladyp and butterfly,why not?

Ruthanne,you are a beautiful lady,I think joining a group of some sort is an excellent idea.
Confidence is attractive.
 
I had 2 bad 7 year marriages when I was under 40. In a good marriage now. Just celebrated our 16th anniversary Sunday. But if I'm widowed I would never remarry.
 
I found, after a certan age, we can be too set in our ways and having a love interest can be too confining. Though perhaps not the right one?
 
vickyNightowl said:
I think love is a great thing.

Ladyp and butterfly,why not?

Ruthanne,you are a beautiful lady,I think joining a group of some sort is an excellent idea.
Confidence is attractive.
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Thank you. I am just tired of trying relationships after many bad ones and little patience. However I am going on a date with a man next week. Met him on Plenty of Fish. The site is free for dating. The only thing I don't like about him is that he gave all his cats to the pound because he thought he could not care for them anymore. That bothers me. At least get them a good home. They may have been euthanized. He also traded a bird for something he wanted. He does not seem to care about animals much and that bothers me. I may just try and be dinner pals a few times a month. He seems nice other wise.
 
Ameriscot said:
I had 2 bad 7 year marriages when I was under 40. In a good marriage now. Just celebrated our 16th anniversary Sunday. But if I'm widowed I would never remarry.
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Good for you having a good marriage now.

ndynt said:
I found, after a certain age, we can be too set in our ways and having a love interest can be too confining. Though perhaps not the right one?
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I agree. I'm not into living together or getting married but having a date for dinner sometimes can be nice.:love_heart:
 
> I'm not into living together or getting married but having a date for dinner sometimes can be nice <

That's where I'm at. I didn't date at all for nearly five years after my wife was killed. I was only 36, but we'd been married for 18 years...from age 18 to 36 is a crucial chunk of life for a man. Anyway, when I did start dating, I couldn't get serious about it. It felt weird, I found something majorly wrong with all of them, and couldn't picture myself married to any of them, or living with them.

Maybe I unconsciously sabotaged those relationships. I don't know. For the past 15 years, life has been good. There were times when I wished I was sharing it with someone, but not lately. Whether I built a wall or not, I accept my life as is, and I'm happy.
 

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