Former Caregiver Uprooted!. Relocated cross country to live with my niece and her.

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AuntieV

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Hi everyone. I am hoping to find a community that I can turn to when I get frustrated with my new living situation, and talk to people my age. None of my old groups seem to "fit" my needs now. I was the caregiver for both of my parents for a very long time. Unfortunately I lost them both in a little over 5 months. I was unable to afford internet for the last 3 years so I am feeling lost now that I have access to the internet again.

My niece has one son (18) still at home and her other son seems to be camping out on her couch now. When she asked me to join her in Florida I was told that I would have her former MIL's room for my bedroom and the oldest son's room would be for my sewing machines (quilting/office/crafts room). She said that she had enough room for me to bring everything that was in my parents 4 bedroom house if I wanted to bring it. What I moved fit in a medium size rental truck. I only brought a couple pieces of furniture and lots of boxes. The truck was not packed floor to top but I am still having a hard time getting everything put away.

This is a long long story but you can get the idea. Basically I have gone from living in a large house by myself to having one room and sharing a bath with two young men.
 

Hello AuntieV, welcome to Senior Forums! :wave: My condolences for the loss of your parents. :rose: My husband and I also moved his parents into our home years ago, and became their caregivers until they passed on. Sounds like you're in a cramped situation now, compared to what you're used to, but it's nice that your niece was thoughtful enough to invite you to live with her. Only alternative I can think of, is to get an inexpensive place near to her, where you'll have more quiet and privacy. Lots of wonderful caring folks here, so please make yourself at home. :coffee:
 

Welcome AuntieV,sorry to read of your parents passing,my sympathy to you,it must be hard for you trying to adjust to your new surroundings at the moment,I hope something works out for you soon where you feel more comfortable .
 
Due to finances I will not be able to have my own place. This is my best option but I will need to adjust to living with other people and lower some of my expectations. (Silly me, if you use the last of the toilet paper it is not your job to put on a new roll):confused:
 
Welcome, AuntieV. Sounds like you've had a lot to deal with...glad you are here; it's good to have people your own age to chat and vent with...we all need that from time to time.

I hope at some time you will be able to find another place, but for now, hope things work out ok for you. Kids - seems like so many don't even leave home anymore...I don't know what's up with that. :confused:
 
AuntieV said:
... (Silly me, if you use the last of the toilet paper it is not your job to put on a new roll):confused:
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The rules for young guys are quite different, as I'm sure you've already discovered. I have the opposite perspective: after living on my own for many years I'm now rooming with an older lady. Getting used to heavy Polish cooking, a snotty Pekingese and the "seat-down" protocols is a challenge! ;)

Welcome to the forum and best of luck to you!
 
Welcome AunteV. We are happy to have you here. We are both talkers and listeners. Sound off anytime you want or like, some of us will bend an ear.
 
SifuPhil said:
The rules for young guys are quite different, as I'm sure you've already discovered. I have the opposite perspective: after living on my own for many years I'm now rooming with an older lady. Getting used to heavy Polish cooking, a snotty Pekingese and the "seat-down" protocols is a challenge! ;)

Welcome to the forum and best of luck to you!
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Polish cooking, Phil??? Would she care to share any recipes?? Not to hijack the thread, but just wondering. Hubby's Mom was Polish, and boy, could she cook some yummy meals!!!
 
Hi AntieV and welcome to our very friendly forum. So very sorry to hear of your loss and also the big upheaval of
moving to a much smaller living space, but the important thing is you are with family who obviously love you and
want you with them, so I hope it all works out well for you.
As Di has just said, there's always someone here, day and night, to chat with, share your thoughts or problems or simply read, there's something to interest almost everyone.

:welcome:

 
Hi there and welcome, AuntieV.

Enjoy the intimacy of family but make sure you go out a lot.
As others have said, this forum is one place where you can chat with your age peers without even leaving the house.
Great for when the weather turns bad.
 

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