I got it, I actually got a young man on the phone, and phenagled enough info out of him to know the date. I will need the certified copy, most likely, when I file my SS, but I will be eligible to half the first X's benefits, with no skin off his nose. I read about it, and it doesn't take away from what he gets, I am just able to draw on half his amount, which may or may not be more than what I am getting. I never asked for anything from the men in my life, honestly, I just wanted them to love me, heck, I wanted them to "like" me. But I was wild, and lots of issues, don't blame any of them. The first beat the tar out of me, held a gun to my head, and threw me in the Coos river to drown me. I survived, obviously. I didn't stick around for more, wasn't the type. Left, but we neither filed for divorce until years later.
There may be some law that says since I wasn't living with him I can't file on his SS, but we'll see. He may or may not have made more than I and as most of you know, I would only get half of what he has in SS. But if it's more then mine, and I'm allowed, I'll take it.
Maybe there is still someone around here that knows more about this. I was married 2 more times after that, so who knows, just worth a shot.