Got a Case of the Lonelies, Anyone Else?

Ok, even though I prefer right now to live alone with my little pets I get occasions where I feel lonely for some companionship, conversation, interacting. I want to talk to someone. Anyone else here feel that way now? 🐢 🐦 :D✌️🐸πŸ₯πŸ¦•πŸ πŸ¦’πŸ¦œπŸŒ·πŸŒΉπŸŒˆβ˜€οΈπŸŒŠ
I do get very lonely and have a voice disorder [spasmodic dysphonia] which means I speak with a hoarse, raspy sound. Many find it difficult to understand me on the phone. This is very depressing at times. Botox injections in my neck helped for 10 years, but are no longer effective. Occasionally, I'll have a "good voice day" and then I usually call someone I haven't spoken to in a while. E-mail and Messenger do help.
 

I do get very lonely and have a voice disorder [spasmodic dysphonia] which means I speak with a hoarse, raspy sound. Many find it difficult to understand me on the phone.
Back in the 60s, the mother of a friend of mine had that too. I've got something that is maybe similar: my voice doesn't get hoarse or raspy, instead it seems to almost disappear. (I notice it more if I'm feeling overwhelmed or frustrated, for instance trying to get my huzz to listen to me and he keeps interrupting, etc.) They've checked my breathing and lungs and all that and everything is supposedly fine; so they guess it's psychological in my case.
 
Sunday afternoons are the worst time for me. I don't know why everything is the same daily routine, it's just Sundays I've come to dread.
You could start a diary entry on this forum of your daily journey. Write about anything that you’re interested in or daily thoughts.
Members on this forum seem to be very encouraging. It may help you through the rough times. You could designate Sunday afternoons to posting. πŸ™‚ Something to look forward to. Itβ€˜s under Community/Diaries
 
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I feel lonely at times also. Going thru it right now. I try to run an errand or something but even that makes it worse. So Netflix seems to have become my companion at the moment. It’s not how I envisioned my older years.
 
I feel lonely at times also. Going thru it right now. I try to run an errand or something but even that makes it worse. So Netflix seems to have become my companion at the moment. It’s not how I envisioned my older years.
Exactly the same here, exactly; not the retirement or old age I was hoping for at all. (I should've realized this was coming, but stupid me: I thought I could change my huzz's mind.) So it's Netflix as you mentioned, books, my dog, the internet, and shopping therapy ('till the money's gone) for me.
 
I walk my dogs daily in a park and often talk to people because they are petting the dogs. Some people especially men will talk for a long time and I think it’s because they are lonely. If they recently moved here I tell them to join the newcomer’s club to meet people but they are rarely interested.
 
I walk my dogs daily in a park and often talk to people because they are petting the dogs. Some people especially men will talk for a long time and I think it’s because they are lonely. If they recently moved here I tell them to join the newcomer’s club to meet people but they are rarely interested.
You still have a newcomer's club in your area? I don't think we've had such a thing since about the 1970s. (Maybe because it's a university town?)
 
For the first time in my life I live absolutely alone. Feels so weird. I used to talk to Buffy; now I still talk to Buffy but I know I'm only talking to myself for the very first time in 74 years I am alone. I have decided I will continue to talk to myself, even out loud if I feel like it. I answer myself too; after all someone, me, is also listening. I will continue to care about proper punctuation, even in my mind :)
 
Hi everyone from one 'lonely' SF person to another. I know many seniors, even ones who choose and prefer to live alone, often lack opportunities to meet and to socialize with others like themselves. This is especially true for seniors (like me!) who may have mobility issues or health challenges that keep them more or less homebound. And of course many seniors happen to live in sparsely populated regions of their home countries which may have little to offer in terms of socialization. And the same problem can happen even with seniors like me(!) who are very happily married or 'partnered' as it were. All the people I know and socialize with currently are either from my cancer support groups that meet remotely or are my wife's friends and colleagues, people who I usually don't have much in common with. I just go along with the flow, attending dinners and parties as 'arm candy.'

So I created this Google Meet based 'Senior Meet and Greet' platform on my blog site to enable seniors like me to meet and chat with other seniors via video webcam. Unfortunately, my concept has not yet taken off, I think mainly because nobody knows it is there. Some people may be afraid to join this thing because of not being confident in the security and safety of meeting and talking face to face with strangers on the Internet. Others may feel they don't have sufficient computer skills or lack the necessary equipment, etc. All of these things can be easily overcome! Its simply a matter of wanting to do it and try new stuff.

A few months ago I had actually participated with a couple of other SF members in a couple of similar SF based meetings via ZOOM. Unfortunately the two ladies who were hosting this stuff seem to have disappeared. ZOOM was never the right platform to do this stuff with anyway so I have improved things by using Google Meet. Anyway, if you are interested, and I hope you are, drop in tomorrow Monday afternoon at 3:00 PM Pacific time. Here is my blog site https://boomerhangout.com. Here is the link that actually launches you into the meeting. Enjoy!
 
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For the first time in my life I live absolutely alone. Feels so weird. I used to talk to Buffy; now I still talk to Buffy but I know I'm only talking to myself for the very first time in 74 years I am alone. I have decided I will continue to talk to myself, even out loud if I feel like it. I answer myself too; after all someone, me, is also listening. I will continue to care about proper punctuation, even in my mind :)
Pepper, you don't even have to respond and I hesitate to ask, but are you going to consider another kitty? It might feel too soon. I waited 6 months after Chloe died. Looking back, I waited too long. And if I hadn't, I wouldn't be stuck with these two trouble causers. πŸ˜€
 
Pepper, you don't even have to respond and I hesitate to ask, but are you going to consider another kitty? It might feel too soon. I waited 6 months after Chloe died. Looking back, I waited too long. And if I hadn't, I wouldn't be stuck with these two trouble causers. πŸ˜€
YES! In fact last night responded to a NextDoor ad that was right on my corner, but I saw it too late. Old lady moving to Arizona to live with her daughter. 2 yrs old male, but really too big, too much fur, and I want another girl, & he a boy, but YES! I know I'll find the very best cat/kitten. I always do!
 
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As @Pepper mentioned "NextDoor" and someone getting a new kitten, I'll talk of what I went through recently.

NEXTDOOR FORUM
I had heard hubby mentioning it almost 7 years ago. Never found his login info to cancel account after he died in 2022. I decided to join but regretted it almost immediately as it's more a place to offer services and/or sell things.

My problem with them was with the username. After nearly 6 months, apparently username was wrong, account was blocked, blah, blah, blah. I've found out about all this palava on the day I was going into account to delete account.

So, since account was already cancelled by them, I didn't raise anything with them and never found out what was wrong with the username I'd input on registration. End of story, good conclusion lol!

KITTEN GALORE, MINOR INCIDENT, NOW BLISSFUL!

Back in 2012, I had two dogs. A Sheltie and a Yorkie. Sheltie was first to die at nearly 14 years old. Fortnight later, Yorkie passed away at nearly 16 years old. Buried both, twas very sad as we'd have them both since they'd been 8 weeks old.

In back garden, on fence, a Calico cat showed up. Starring intently at me, straight through my soul. Heard the message, time for a cat. Knowing that I knew more about cats then dogs, we decided to get two kittens.

One Tuxedo cat at 10 months old, sold off due to a family divorce. He was gorgeous with a cuddling and quiet disposition. One 9 months old Ginger Tabby (which turned out to be ferral, found behind the flat building garbage areas, his siblings dead after being abandoned / we found this out 10 years after we had him, unfortunately!).

Needless to say, neither got along with the other. One morning, after our son had died, a mega battle ensued between the two cats and I was injured badly, left bleeding, they jumped on me after I woke up. Nice reception for all the love we'd given them for 7 years.

I managed, while spilling blood on the floors, to separate both of them into the kitchen and living room. Then, attended to my wounds and called hubby and daughter while out shopping.

They came home quickly and we decided to relocate the worst one first. That was completed soon, thankfully! Hubby decided to keep the Taby and get him to behave better. It didn't go well... Everything was covered in cat's spray (which stinks like you can't imagine, unless you've experienced it) and urine everywhere.

After hubby died in April 2022, the cats behaviour went from bad to worse. Everything stank, ruined, other items we were able to wash and desinfect. Managed to get help from someone to relocate the cat.

Three months later, daughter and I decided to look for our own kitten. Gumtree was very useful, we found our 8 weeks old baby kitten, examined how he'd been raised from birth and luckily met the kitten's cat mum. We never looked back and this past 13 July, he's reached his first birthday. Just an adorable furball that's so loving and such a good boy, a pleasure to have this wee companion to fill our lonely days. Thanks for reading!
 
YES! In fact last night responded to a NextDoor ad that was right on my corner, but I saw it too late. Old lady moving to Arizona to live with her daughter. 2 yrs old male, but really too big, too much fur, and I want another girl, & he a boy, but YES! I know I'll find the very best cat/kitten. I always do!
So happy to hear that. There are so many good kitties out there in need of a loving home. The best of luck!
 
Ok, even though I prefer right now to live alone with my little pets I get occasions where I feel lonely for some companionship, conversation, interacting. I want to talk to someone. Anyone else here feel that way now? 🐢 🐦 :D✌️🐸πŸ₯πŸ¦•πŸ πŸ¦’πŸ¦œπŸŒ·πŸŒΉπŸŒˆβ˜€οΈπŸŒŠ
i will webcam with you if you like.....let me know I will send the link also midwest so thats a start
 
YES! In fact last night responded to a NextDoor ad that was right on my corner, but I saw it too late. Old lady moving to Arizona to live with her daughter. 2 yrs old male, but really too big, too much fur, and I want another girl, & he a boy, but YES! I know I'll find the very best cat/kitten. I always do!
I'm so glad to hear that! πŸ€— I tend to like girl kitties also.

Sounds like this kitty got a new home so that's good.
 
Ok, even though I prefer right now to live alone with my little pets I get occasions where I feel lonely for some companionship, conversation, interacting. I want to talk to someone. Anyone else here feel that way now? 🐢 🐦 :D✌️🐸πŸ₯πŸ¦•πŸ πŸ¦’πŸ¦œπŸŒ·πŸŒΉπŸŒˆβ˜€οΈπŸŒŠ
I think I already volunteered to webcam with you.--that is the best I can do.....no respect ..here I am accustomed to it.
 


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