Has anyone ever heard of the Christian practice of "ghosting" ?

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ghosting is when someone abruptly ends a friendship with limited or no explanation, and when they proceed to quickly disappear from your life.
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The blogger views this and writes from a Christian perspective. But, I certainly don't see Ghosting as a Christian practice,

I see it as a bizarre behavior, that is thoughtless, and without regard to the damaging effects that abandoning someone inflicts.

This has happened to me.
 
tnthomas said:
The blogger views this and writes from a Christian perspective. But, I certainly don't see Ghosting as a Christian practice,

I see it as a bizarre behavior, that is thoughtless, and without regard to the damaging effects that abandoning someone inflicts.

This has happened to me.
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I don't believe its Christian at all. Sounds more like scientology to me.
 

tnthomas said:
The blogger views this and writes from a Christian perspective. But, I certainly don't see Ghosting as a Christian practice,

I see it as a bizarre behavior, that is thoughtless, and without regard to the damaging effects that abandoning someone inflicts.

This has happened to me.
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So sorry to hear that you have been treated like this.
To me it sounds just like the mean behaviour of some teen age girls' friendship groups.
Other than that it brings to mind the sunning of people by the Exclusive Order of Plymouth Brethren or Amish communities.
However in these cases, the people being shunned know it and know the reason.
 
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I experienced this with my best friend from college who was also my Maid of Honor in my wedding. We were extremely close, even though we lived far apart.

She got involved with a religious group and one day shortly after, I got a letter from her listing all the reasons she couldn't be "associated" with me any longer. My letters and phone calls weren't answered. That was that......poof! Several years of close friendship just "ghosted" away. I wrote her a letter saying that I would always love her like a sister and would always be open to re-opening the friendship. Never heard from her again. Last year I tried tracking her down on one of those "find-a-person" websites and the university alumni group, but no luck.
 
I've never heard of this in any mainstream Christian group, and it certainly does not sound the least bit Christian to me, either. This must be some weird "fringe" sect. It certainly would not be accepted in my Lutheran denomination -- we are big on "love thy neighbor" and "do unto others" and so on.
 
Butterfly said:
I've never heard of this in any mainstream Christian group, and it certainly does not sound the least bit Christian to me, either. This must be some weird "fringe" sect. It certainly would not be accepted in my Lutheran denomination -- we are big on "love thy neighbor" and "do unto others" and so on.
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Not your denomination nor others either... the part where he wrote 'head over his wife' jumped out at me, and I immediately knew 'where he was coming from.' I honestly don't know how long it's been going on, although I did learn Southern Baptists were taken over decades ago, but these days when people say 'Christian' they're usually referring to 'fundamentalists.' and you're right- 'fringe sect.'

If you ask somebody what religion they are and they say Lutheran, or Catholic, or Presbyterian, cool, but if they simply reply 'Christian,' think 'Westboro Baptist Church' as an example.

Re: the OP- I'm not familiar with ghosting, other than something similar with Jehovah's Witnesses; and I agree it's not a Christian attitude at all.
 
I don't think it's strictly a Christian practice and author says/feels that Christians perfected it, took it to a new level etc. Some relationships simply dissipate because of the lack of time, energy, misconceptions, misinterpretations etc. Banishment in some form is found just about everywhere in life.

Why do they put "ignore" features on internet forums again?
 
Warrigal said:
So sorry to hear that you have been treated like this.
To me it sounds just like the mean behaviour of some teen age girls' friendship groups.
Other than that it brings to mind the sunning of people by the Exclusive Order of Plymouth Brethren or Amish communities.
However in these cases, the people being shunned know it and know the reason.
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The one thing about the Amish shunning is that it doesn't have to be permanent. The person shunned is still free to live in the community, live with his or her family (although they have to eat separately and no one speaks to them except for very basic communication) and keep his/her job. At the end of the period of shunning, the shunned person has the option to tell the community that he/she regrets what he/she has done and will strive to live a "better" life. Unfortunately, if the shunned person does not regret his/her actions and does not intend to conform with community mores, then the person has to leave the community.
 
Same as Rainee - - -never heard of it? I would guess that if something similar happened to me, or my wife and I, a little self-examination would be the first thought that I'd have. What have I (we) done that brought on this exclusion from a group? Beyond that, who knows..
 
WhatInThe said:
I don't think it's strictly a Christian practice and author says/feels that Christians perfected it, took it to a new level etc. Some relationships simply dissipate because of the lack of time, energy, misconceptions, misinterpretations etc. Banishment in some form is found just about everywhere in life.

Why do they put "ignore" features on internet forums again?
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Many people call themselves Christians when they are anything but. Just because they call themselves Christian does not mean that they follow the teachings of Christ. Look at those allegedly Christian Westboro Baptist folks -- if their behavior is Christian I am the Queen of England.
 
Butterfly said:
Many people call themselves Christians when they are anything but. Just because they call themselves Christian does not mean that they follow the teachings of Christ. Look at those allegedly Christian Westboro Baptist folks -- if their behavior is Christian I am the Queen of England.
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And I'm the Queen of Sheba..... Their behavior makes me sick. When fifty people were killed at the Pulse night club in Orlando, they sent a (small, thank goodness) group to picket the funerals.

There's a motorcycle group that the Spousal Equivalent is involved with called the Patriot Guard. They have chapters all over he country and their main purpose is to provide escort services for veterans' funerals and to form an honor guard. Actually, they'll do that for about any funeral when they have a request for it. They also, on occasion, are there to "guard" the mourners from the likes of protesters such as the Westboro scum. They form a perimeter around the services and hold up flags to screen off the service from the protesters. As a lot of these guys look "mean and tough", they don't get messed with a lot.
 

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