How do you feel about abortion?

I'm pro choice, doesn't mean that I would have one.....I don't know because it was never an issue for me, I had 2 children and then used birth control.

but I'm glad I had the choice if I needed it. I believe in doing whatever I want with my body as long as I don't hurt others and that includes assisted suicide if I would ever be terminal and in severe pain.
 
LynnD,

That's the big problem ,why is it always women that have to use birth control?
 

Women end up holding the bag, so to speak, on the birth control issue, as many men are reluctant or unwilling to take any responsibility in that department, although when it comes to protecting themselves from STD, they will certainly take the trouble. Its an age old problem, as women are the ones who carry the child and certain men will simply walk away from the problem, leaving the pregnant girl to cope.
 
Fortunately the issue of pregnancy is in the past for me. But I would not have trusted any man to be responsible for birth control even if they'd had a pill for men. Same goes for those who claim to have had a vasectomy. I protect myself. I do not rely on someone else who is probably thinking with an organ other than his brain.
 
Most of the men in my life were fine with using birth control. I chose to be responsible for my own body. Ultimately, I became allergic to all forms of birth control except condoms, so it was quite simple.
 
You were lucky...I didn't do well on the pill and that's why I chose tubal ligation after my second child...didn't want more children anyway.
 
My mom had 4 but with many years in between. I'm the oldest and the youngest is 49.

i have no idea, I know the pill wasn't around....abortion was illegal.....condoms I'm guessing.
 
Hey what's this beating up on men about not being responsible for birth control? We had a thread a while back about vasectomies and a large proportion of the active male members of this forum had had their tubes tied.
 
We had two girls. When our identical twin boys were born, I had a vasectomy. From then on we had GREAT sex; no more condoms, diaphragms, pills,
coitus interruptus or any other contraceptive means. Just great sex and....NO MORE KIDS !
 
Josiah, while I applaud the men on this forum who have had vasectomies, there are many men whose masculinity/virility is connected to their capacity to father children regardless of their circumstances. It may seem incomprehensible to someone of your progressive views, but they are out there in droves. One of my former clients broke up his marriage primarily over this issue.
 
Josiah, and any other men who are feeling picked on, I am not slamming all men about birth control responsibility, just some or certain men, as you will notice if you re-read my post. Nevertheless, men were not trained in this way, as in your youth as in my own there was no sex-ed in schools and women had not yet been liberated and of course no pill yet. There were diaphrams, but it was usually only married women who could get them from their doctors.

In fact, I doubt if men in general used birth control all that much (some kind of condoms existed I believe) in our parents generation or had vasectomies and I doubt if there are all that many who have them (vasectomies) in this day and age either. It has always been women's problem, hence so many children in Catholic families and perhaps no children (due to no sex perhaps?) in Protestant. Heck, I don't really know, I can only guess, but surely the info is out there in cyberspace.
 
Although I loved my husband dearly and miss him still, he was old school when it came to things like birth control and are you kidding...him getting a vasectomy...never in a million years.
 
Re: vasectomies

Some guys are skittish or for whatever reason just plain refuse to get a vasectomy.

I know of some guys who got vasectomies in their 30s or 40s once they were certain they either didn’t want children at all, OR that they/their wife didn’t want any more children.

I also know of guys who had a child/children, didn’t particularly want any more, but refused to get a vasectomy and they weren’t careful about other birth control…….it was left up to the woman 100%. (I was involved with such a man and we were in our mid 30s.) I don't know when vasectomies became available, but I was seeing someone in 1970 who'd had one.

But cases such as John Edwards/Rielle Hunter puzzle me. He was having an affair (probably not the first), not using birth control, got the woman pregnant (which resulted in her being set for life). He was 54, she was in her mid 40s. Why the heck didn’t John Edwards ever get a vasectomy? :shrug: He had several children, and such a scandal could and DID end his political career. :wtf:

Arnold Schwarzenegger fathered his household employee's child when he was 50. He would have been another good candidate for a vasectomy.

Stupid! :rolleyes:
 
Men just don't seem to worry much about unwanted pregnancy (at least not like women do!). I always took care of myself, because I didn't trust men to take responsibility for birth control. Although of course it is no longer a problem for me, I still wouldn't trust a man to do it. There is just SO much more at stake for a woman. A man can just walk away, a woman can't.
 

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