How do you feel about birthdays as you get older?

Just another day for me at almost 93 and now it seems my family.
Note that governments here in Canada don't provide any special assistance.
Everything is geared to age 65, 75 in which of course we are already included

I have yet to see anything special happen for 90 plus and some of us could use it.
It's seems like we just don't exist.
just sayin '
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Opposite here.... everything is geared to people over 80... people my age are stuck in no man's land... it's either 50's and under...or 80's and over....
 
When we were kids we never had birthday parties.

We always got to choose the kind of homemade cake and our favorite meal.

We received a couple cards with a few dollars tucked inside and a few simple presents from family members. It was always a big thrill to get a couple cards in the mail.
we got a birthday card, and one grandparent..my paternal grandmother would send a card with a postal order for 2/6 in it... ..but there was no parties no cake....
 
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My hour glass is bottom heavy enough. Another birthday, another year's accumulation. But I do like the somberness of mortality, it's a nice contrast with the easy joy and frivolity of youth. A cake with the correct number candles would be a fire hazard.

I guess I'd describe my feelings as ambivalent. Let us eat cake.

I was born on Dec 31 so I always kinda got lost in the Christmas shuffle. Every once in a while there would be a cake and sometimes a card. Never a party. I usually got a gift and card at Christmas and a "This is for Christmas and your birthday".

After I got older people I met seemed to think I had some kind of amazing birthday. The husband wanted to have a joint birthday party. His is in December too. So for a few years we had a New Years Eve party. Until "we" wised up and said wait a minute.
How is this my birthday party. Nobody brings any presents. I clean house and cook all the food. People get drunk and trash my house and yak in my bushes. Next day I have a mess to clean up and I dont even drink.

At first we bought presents for each other. Then we just decided to buy something big for the house since neither of us really needed anything. After a while that became a chore. Especially after he got sick.
Now I sometimes get an email and every once in a while a card from one of my online acquaintances.
I consider this day a nice excuse to make myself a festive desert. Other than that its just another day.
 
We were poor growing up and our birthdays were very special days, one of the few that we could have a second serving and CAKE!!! I went through a phase when I was in my teens that I hated that special day, probably because it brought attention to our situation. Later I treasure my birthdays as a special celebration of another year passed and use it to prepare for the year ahead, as my personal new year. This first one alone I did my best to celebrate and actually managed to sneak in a good time!
 
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