How good are we at coping with being ignored, (I'm not good, just watch what happens if this thread gets ignored!)

Was at the grocery doing a little shopping.
Bent over the refrigerated counter to grab some lunch meat when I heard a female voice say,
"PUT THAT BACK!"...
She was talking to her child, but I instinctively raised up and stopped.
Noticed that I wasn't the only male who reacted to this, more than one had stopped what they were doing.
The ones that stopped were all over 40 years of age.

I listen to my male friends, but when it comes to advice, I've found that females have the one that usually works.

Ignore a female? Only at your own Peril...
 

Not exactly sure what the purpose of this question is. In my experience, I have very seldom felt ignored. On the few occasions when it happened (or I presumed it happened) I didn't get bothered much.....if at all.

I don't look to others for validation of my existence.
 
Llynn said:
Not exactly sure what the purpose of this question is. In my experience, I have very seldom felt ignored. On the few occasions when it happened (or I presumed it happened) I didn't get bothered much.....if at all.
I don't look to others for validation of my existence.
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A strong woman then! :)
 
In real life it began at around age 75, especially in doctor's office. Questions and remarks were likely to be addressed to daughter who only drove me to my appointment ( I ask her to sit in on doctor's visits because two heads are better than one for remembering things.) but I still take care of my own medical issues. Most doctors assume that extreme age denotes senility and it is not necessarily true.

On chat forums I sometimes use thumbs up to point out what I think is a particularly wise or insightful comment but not using them probably means that I was not in the mood for intensive surffing so did not read everything posted.

I never fell into the 'like' rage of interneting and think using them simply quid pro quo diminishes their value. JMHO :) My feeling of self worth is not affected by anything said or done by an anonymous stranger on the internet.
 
I crave indifference when I'm out in public. I keep my head down and try to get in and out without having to deal with anyone (thank god for self-service checkout), and if someone gets in my way, I usually just scowl at them. It's an effective strategy unless they catch me at home playing with my dog in the side yard and want to chit-chat. Then I'm stuck and I have to pretend that I like people. :ROFLMAO:
 
grahamg said:
I'd argue the opposite may be true, as most females I come across experience plenty of attention from any men in the vicinity, (and know just how to get themselves noticed, but perhaps that isn't what you meant! :unsure::(:whistle::sneaky: ).
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Oggling is not the kind of attention I would like.

I would prefer to be listened to in meetings without having to shout. I would appreciate not being ignored when a tradesman comes to the house. I would have preferred not being ignored by technicians who preferred to discuss problems with the school handiman when I was the actual teacher in charge of two rooms of computers. I would have preferred to know that the handiman had turned up rather than finding out after he had left.

I could go on with more examples but if men think that all women want is to have men fawning over them may I suggest you have not actually listened to that many women. I also suggest you listen to the responses of women in this thread. They won't all be like this one because our experiences are not all the same and you will learn vicariously what real women actually think about being ignored.
 
grahamg said:
I was ignored recently, (may have mentioned the incident on another thread!), but it highlights a bit of an issue I guess I've got concerning my tolerance of being ignored, and I suspect, as I get older, I'll have to learn to get better in this regard! :( ( :) )
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Warrigal said:
Oggling is not the kind of attention I would like.
I would prefer to be listened to in meetings without having to shout. I would appreciate not being ignored when a tradesman comes to the house. I would have preferred not being ignored by technicians who preferred to discuss problems with the school handiman when I was the actual teacher in charge of two rooms of computers. I would have preferred to know that the handiman had turned up rather than finding out after he had left.
I could go on with more examples but if men think that all women want is to have men fawning over them may I suggest you have not actually listened to that many women. I also suggest you listen to the responses of women in this thread. They won't all be like this one because our experiences are not all the same and you will learn vicariously what real women actually think about being ignored.
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You've misunderstood me because I wasn't really meaning to suggest men are oggling every woman they encounter, (I'm certainly not anyway!).
If you feel you've been ignored in the manner described for no good reason then you've an idea what I've experienced, (which is good in one sense, though not overall of course).

When ignored by my parents once, (I admit to being sensitive to this even when in my fifties), it wasn't so much that what I had to say was so boring, or they meant to slight me, certainly not, but just that they wished to make a big fuss of the guy who fixed all manner of problems in their farmhouse, (so a "Mr. Fixit", someone we can all do with at times I'm sure! :):unsure:).
 
Warrigal wrote:
"Having been born a female I have had a lifetime of being ignored.
Welcome to our world Gentlemen. You get used to it"
Shero said:
I am happy to say that is not my world Warrigal.
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"A case of victimhood thinking" I suspect, (then again, how would I know, as a privileged man :) !).
 
grahamg said:
Warrigal wrote:
"Having been born a female I have had a lifetime of being ignored.
Welcome to our world Gentlemen. You get used to it"

"A case of victimhood thinking" I suspect, (then again, how would I know, as a privileged man :) !).
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Exactly. You haven't walked a mile in my moccasins, nor I in yours.
 
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