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hollydolly said:
Yes I was just being flippant, it's really as much about allowing people here to know ..and those who are lurking... just how difficult a divorce an be when all we hear in the media is how much easier it is than it was.. the only ''easier part'' that I can see is that you don't have to accuse the other of anything.. (no fault).. but that of course works against you also.. for example in my case where he was physically abusive, I can't use that in court unless I want this to be much more expensive and much more drawn out

if of course there are no children involved and there are no assets to be had.. then yes it is just a matter of filing, and within a year after filing.. and 2 years of separation, , you'll be divorced and that's that.. but most people have either children and or assets .. so it's dirty....
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I am beginning to think pre-nups are a good idea.
 

Okay. I've read back for the posts I missed today.

@hawkdon Dang! I missed biscuits and gravy again:mad:

@OneEyedDiva A-fib? You be careful! Can it be controlled with a pacemaker or are you not at that stage quite yet?

And...I think I forgot to tell y'all that this morning when I went to work, Cookie had left two racks of 12-14 trays each of cookies to be packaged. Oy! This after being told by deli manager yesterday in no uncertain terms to not leave cookies unpackaged because it ties up racks that I must have available to get my breads and pastries baked in the morning. What? Does that sound deliberate or what? She's been told about tying up the racks more than once before yesterday.

I had to scramble to figure out what to do with the cookies because I couldn't take the time to package them. Sir to the rescue. He stacked trays of cookies on top of each other! I hope it didn't squash the cookies on the bottom:oops:. That only freed up one rack, but it helped. Oh...we are short three racks that seem to have just grown legs and walked away in the past few months; that's why the shortage.

Anyway, Sir was livid, especially after the "oven doesn't work" episode on Monday. This just added to the laundry list of instructions that she's been given and has ignored. I feel kind of sorry for her because I think she just doesn't like the job, but geez...sabotage our production? If she'd said something about not liking the job after a couple of weeks, they'd have found another spot for her in the store. Instead, now she'll lose her job altogether.

Sir doesn't agree. He thinks she simply doesn't give a rip and figures that g'mother's position assures that she'll have a job (that pays nicely) without having to work too hard. I dunno. She's a nice kid, but there's a limit.

ETA: Those two racks of cookies? Sir said we would not package them, that she would have to do it herself today. Wut wo. Let us hope that she does or there will be h*ll to pay tomorrow. Sir doesn't get mad very often. I wouldn't want to be there if the cookies are still there tomorrow. Jussayin'
 
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Georgiagranny said:
Okay. I've read back for the posts I missed today.

@hawkdon Dang! I missed biscuits and gravy again:mad:

@OneEyedDiva A-fib? You be careful! Can it be controlled with a pacemaker or are you not at that stage quite yet?

And...I think I forgot to tell y'all that this morning when I went to work, Cookie had left two racks of 12-14 trays each of cookies to be packaged. Oy! This after being told by deli manager yesterday in no uncertain terms to not leave cookies unpackaged because it ties up racks that I must have available to get my breads and pastries baked in the morning. What? Does that sound deliberate or what? She's been told about tying up the racks more than once before yesterday.

I had to scramble to figure out what to do with the cookies because I couldn't take the time to package them. Sir to the rescue. He stacked trays of cookies on top of each other! I hope it didn't squash the cookies on the bottom:oops:. That only freed up one rack, but it helped. Oh...we are short three racks that seem to have just grown legs and walked away in the past few months; that's why the shortage.

Anyway, Sir was livid, especially after the "oven doesn't work" episode on Monday. This just added to the laundry list of instructions that she's been given and has ignored. I feel kind of sorry for her because I think she just doesn't like the job, but geez...sabotage our production? If she'd said something about not liking the job after a couple of weeks, they'd have found another spot for her in the store. Instead, now she'll lose her job altogether.

Sir doesn't agree. He thinks she simply doesn't give a rip and figures that g'mother's position assures that she'll have a job (that pays nicely) without having to work too hard. I dunno. She's a nice kid, but there's a limit.

ETA: Those two racks of cookies? Sir said we would not package them, that she would have to do it herself today. Wut wo. Let us hope that she does or there will be h*ll to pay tomorrow. Sir doesn't get mad very often. I wouldn't want to be there if the cookies are still there tomorrow. Jussayin'
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Thank you for your concern GG❣️ I was diagnosed with cardiac arrhythmia when I was 28 and suffered with it until I was 68 when a cardiac ablation was done. My attacks were the primary reason I couldn’t accumulate much sick time. In fact sometimes I went in when I should’ve stayed home and our head nurse would scold me, especially if she listened to my heart when A-fib was apparent. I have fainted a few times at home, sometimes I literally felt like I would die, but managed to stay out of the hospital each time.

Over the decades I have seen many cardiologists of different specialties. I wound up being referred to one who specialized in electrical conduction (EC) of the heart. When she moved out of the country, Dr. T, another EC specialist, took her place. He was more aggressive and suggested the ablation in mid 2015, which I hesitated to get until I started having debilitating attacks too frequently.

By the end of 2015, I decided to have the procedure. Dr. T told me there was a 60% chance it would work and he had done hundreds of them. He was very confident but not cocky. I had it done the first week of January 2016 and I’m glad I did because it completely changed my life. I couldn’t thank Dr. T. enough. I didn’t experience symptoms for 7 years.

Over the years I’ve worn monitors, had all kinds of tests (some kinda crazy) and had a cardiac catheterization, but none of the cardiologists suggested a pacemaker. And none of them could figure out what the cause was. My newest cardiologist, who I was referred to because I started having very faint indications of A-fib again last year, was surprised that the ablation lasted as long as it did. Apparently I went about a year or more past the expected efficacy. Dr. T. moved out of state too, so I’ll have to trust someone else if I have to have another ablation. I like my new cardiologist but don't know if he'd be the one who would do it or if he'd refer me to a colleague.

So I take it the co-worker about to get canned is the one you've complained about to us (?). If so, you're quite benevolent to feel sorry for her!
 

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~Before sunrise I unpacked Deja’s chewy order and mixed the food variety before storing. I also made my salats (prayers).

~Made an impromptu decision to go to the supermarket and got there by 8:30. Had planned to go tomorrow but it’s supposed to rain and even though the Accuweather app shows thunderstorms for the afternoon, I have known it to be off by a couple of hours and show a revised forecast.

~Also took an impromptu nap. By the time I woke up, it was too late for our plans. My son was going to sort beans while I filled my pill cases.

~Took care of the dishes and cleaned up the kitchen.
 
@hollydolly I have such a high opinion of English people that I have difficulties understanding what happened to you. My first real encounter with an English bloke was in the late 1950's when a British sailor gave me a ride on his sailboat across the British Channel from Calais to Dover. We stayed in touch for many years. And when I studied in Australia, I had some English friends who impressed me so much that I attempted to model my behavior after them. You must have gotten stuck with a one-in-a-million rotten apple.

I know I cannot cheer you up, but I am dedicating the attached flowers to you. They are from our small shopping plaza in walking distance from our house. Year round, there are always some flowers blooming.

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Neighbors woke me up again. I'm starting to suspect that the new neighbors are going to be noisy. I'm trying to hold judgment because maybe it's just moving noise.

For the first time in years, I was able to get my Walmart grocery delivery from the door with relatively little stress. The previous bad neighbor being gone might have had to do with that. I'm really hoping the new neighbors don't step right back in their shoes.

I got my new home router delivered from Walmart. And a ton of groceries delivered from Walmart almost at exactly the same time. I'm happy about it.
 
@packleader..I had to laugh when you said I must have got stuck with the one in a million rotten apple... Oh no... please believe me, there's another thousands of stories very similar to mine in the UK.... men in England have changed greatly from the men you met in the 1950''s.. actually compared back in those days it's like a different planet... that was all 70 years ago... of course there's genuine stand up men AND women.. but the scummy men are no different to scummy men anywhere..please believe that !

Thank you for the flowers, they're very pretty..... :love:
 
This morning I am walking to my foot doctor appointment. It is not far but the forecast says rain at the exact time I have to leave. So will be trying to carry an umbrella and manage a walker at the same time.

@hollydolly It was amazing to me too that until you are going through a divorce you don't really know the man who supposedly loved you for years. For me, it would have been easier if he had died because the person I knew had died once he decided to have an affair and leave me. My only advice is to stay strong. Don't let it wear you down.
 
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This morning I am walking to my foot doctor appointment. It is not far but the forecast says rain at the exact time I have to leave. So will be trying to carry an umbrella and manage a walker at the same time.

@hollydolly It was amazing to me too that until you are going through a divorce you don't really know the man who supposedly loved you for years. For me, it would have been easier if he had died because the person I knew had died once he decided to have an affair and leave me. My only advice is to stay strong. Don't let it wear you down.
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Exactly that , Kat...I have said all along it would hav been painful but much easier, and less pain if mine had died. .. because as you say having the affair, and discovering he'd lied for a very long time, not only about the affair but about just about everything.. was like getting struck with a knife in the gut that couldn't be removed. It's less to do with the physical, much more to do with the emotional..... and to know that this man who over the years derided other people for doing what he is currently doing to me sticks in the craw!
 
I'm expecting a very happy day. My grandson is 6 today. I will be leaving early afternoon for his family party. I'm the only one on my side except for my son, his father. I have no family except for my son/grandson. I'm lucky to have them.

My DIL has been acting like a DIL. That's all I can say for now. This is a happy day, after all.

Six is when a child really takes off and leaves traces of babyhood behind. Here we go.

I have a request. Please wish me well on my AccessARides today. My nemesis.
 
Pepper said:
In the beginning of this, do you remember, @hollydolly that I, a widow, told you the exact same thing?
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I don't remember, but even if he had an affair and moved to the other side of the country it would have been easier, but as it is he's still local, and I have to avoid going anywhere near where he is, so as to not cause myself upset.... by seeing him and her together....it's much more difficult in that sense...and then of course yesterday healing wounds were re-opened when I was reading his bank statements which have payments made between him and her for things.. and evidence of holidays taken etc..
 
@OneEyedDiva Oh, my. I had no idea that you've had that kind of health problem and for so long! Glad to hear that you're on top of it.

Also, the co-worker I'm currently complaining about is the one about to get canned, yes. She's the one whose g'mother is the HR lady. However, we've had a parade of people coming and going in the past couple of years. They won't or don't work/don't show up/fight (sometimes physically!) with other employees/flat out refuse to do certain tasks/find hiding places to sleep...the list goes on!

@packleader The flowers are beautiful (well...so are your pups). I envy you getting to see flowers all year long. Can you even imagine how broke I'd be if I lived out there? LOL For me, it's only about 6-8 months that I drain my bank account for the garden!

@hollydolly This probably sounds really tacky, but I can hardly wait for a report about S2BX's reaction to the financial disclosure stuff. I bet his head is spinning (and rightly so!).

I slept like a rock last night and didn't get up until after 5. After the night before and what only amounted to a two-hour nap, it was a real treat.

When I got up yesterday I wondered about BP so got DSIL's BP monitor and took BP...it wasn't quite at 200 over 90, but close. Stroke City! At the eye doc yesterday, the tech took my blood pressure first thing. It was soooo normal at 138 over 63. I think it was a version of a big sigh, knowing that I don't go to work for a whole week starting when I leave the bakery Saturday morning. Woohoo and stuff.

So. I'm off today and have plenty of gardening stuff to do. Little things that I've put off by calling them "winter work" or "I'll do it later" or whatever excuse I can think of. If the lord's willing and the creeks don't rise, I won't feed my addiction to the garden centers...remains to be seen, of course.
 
I am venting here this morning, so forgive me. It was a chore helping my mom get dressed this morning. I will have to talk to the OT about this. Very stressful and I have a headache from it all. Today is the urologist appointment and I hate going. Taking her out right now is stressful and I take her every 6 weeks. I'm debating on whether to switch to home care at this point. It is 82F today and she will wear her winter coat in the car because I need the ac or I'll faint. She gets cold and doesn't want me to run it. She's already asked for her winter coat and we haven't even left the house yet, lol.

Hope everyone has a good day. Onward and upward!
 
What a difference a day makes, yesterday I was feeling a bit stressed,not today
Patrick showed my apt yesterday at 6pm, to another resident, Bob who has an efficency apt but wants something bigger. Afterwards, he told me Bob was 'interested' in my apt and will get back to him. If this happens and my apt is sold I'll be thrilled. It means I would no longer have to pay monthly fee here
I do have to pay for June monthly that's ok
When I went on my morning walk at 6:30 temp was 63,not humid it was refreshing as I went to buy local paper
My plans today continue packing,taking a mid morning walk, this afternoon sit out in the garden with other residents,another beautiful sunny day temps in mid 70's
 
Good morning all !! Been up for hours, just sucking down coffee, but feel okay in spite of few sleep hours....no big
things on the sked for today, cept meds being delivered...oh
and had interesting grocery delivery yest afternoon, saw a
small school bus draw up to my driveway, went to the door,
lady got out and started hauling out the grocery bags!!! Talked
with her about it and seems she is running a daycare, and has
to take kids to doc's and rehab and such as that, so she bought
the bus for use with them.....very cool.....,catch u later.~~~
 
RadishRose said:
81F here now, was 84F. Had to put my A/C on about a half hour ago. 76F and humidity in the house is awful for me. Even Doggy was panting.
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We're having a strangely cool spring, over here west of the Rockies in southeastern BC.

Rose, how usual or unusual, at this point in a year, are those 81-84F temps for your area?
 
Finally got my act together! Rough night, the weather has been wacky resulting in a chilly and humid night. Should have just flipped the A/C on, but instead it was a weird might of sweating and chills, almost like being feverish, but not. The worst part is that I ended up letting a friend down this morning. Just in a small way but sometimes the small things can be very important.
 
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I am venting here this morning, so forgive me. It was a chore helping my mom get dressed this morning. I will have to talk to the OT about this. Very stressful and I have a headache from it all. Today is the urologist appointment and I hate going. Taking her out right now is stressful and I take her every 6 weeks. I'm debating on whether to switch to home care at this point. It is 82F today and she will wear her winter coat in the car because I need the ac or I'll faint. She gets cold and doesn't want me to run it. She's already asked for her winter coat and we haven't even left the house yet, lol.
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I'm sorry you're living through this, it seems frustrating just at a time when you have to live for two to help her hold things together.

Not to diminish things, yeah I'm a 🤡, but wow. This could be the grist for one heck of a standup comedy routine about the older generation struggling to care for the oldest generation!
 
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