How much do you judge a book by its cover?

I AGREE completely. TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS, you have them for a reason ! If someone gives off a "creepy vibe", disengage asap and move away from them. Better to be wrong, than sorry or even put in danger.
 

I think it's something as humans we all do. However having been on the receiving end of this most of my life, back to childhood even, I'm much less likely than the general population is.

When I wen to an open house for a town house. Went to the person holding it and stated I had a couple of questions and his immediate response was "you think you can afford a place like this" what made him say this knowing nothing about me but just judging me by my cover? I'll never know. I'd say he was a jerk but I'll get a negative reputation comment so I'm sure he's a great guy.
 
Jeannine said:
Kitties, I don't understand , why would the person react like that to you
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I can never answer that question. I'm not attractive so perhaps that is what made the person think I was a loser and unable to afford the place. I don't know what I said. I'm used to being treated badly but that one even threw me. I think I just walked out without saying anything.

Here was the thing though. I'm a RN, had over the 20% down needed in my savings and excellent credit. I could have afforded the place.

I could go on and on with this subject. Even back to childhood being put in classes for slow learners. I know I shouldn't say this, but I didn't belong in them.

I think it's also important to realize what you do with those assumptions about people. And how you react.
 
Kitties, there are times when I feel ashamed to be part of the human race.

Why or why do folks have to act like this. Even if one gets a cautious vibe from someone, our personal sensitivity should be enough to make us polite and kind when we deal with it.

Saying I am sorry you have been treated this way in the past is not enough. I want to send you huge great hugs . I cannot make up for the horror but it s important for you to know that many of us would not react like that whatever we were presented with.

Please remember that physical attraction is only a very temporary thing, it is what is inside that counts and kindness and caring knock the typical modern day so called good looking off the table.

We may all claim some one is attractive or not, but attractive simply means getting your attention, it is the closer second look that really counts.


Sincerely

XX Jeannine
 
tnthomas said:
... In Real Life profiling helps a person make "threat assessments" when in public. Like when a couple young males that look like thugs are approaching you on the sidewalk. Sometimes they are thugs, sometimes they are just kids wearing the "thug-look" fashions of the day. :shrug:
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Very true. I regularly taught my own version of profiling in my self-defense classes. It works more often than not if you know what you're doing.
 
Jeannine said:
Kitties, there are times when I feel ashamed to be part of the human race.

Why or why do folks have to act like this. Even if one gets a cautious vibe from someone, our personal sensitivity should be enough to make us polite and kind when we deal with it.

Saying I am sorry you have been treated this way in the past is not enough. I want to send you huge great hugs . I cannot make up for the horror but it s important for you to know that many of us would not react like that whatever we were presented with.

Please remember that physical attraction is only a very temporary thing, it is what is inside that counts and kindness and caring knock the typical modern day so called good looking off the table.

We may all claim some one is attractive or not, but attractive simply means getting your attention, it is the closer second look that really counts.


Sincerely

XX Jeannine
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I wish to endorse everything that Jeannine said.

At this stage of our lives we are all less physically attractive than we were in our youth but it sounds as if you are carrying a lot of emotional wounds from way back.

Please listen to the voices that affirm you and let that be the balm that heals you.

As a RN, you like my daughter, are the salt of the earth. You have seen people at their worst and have still tended to them. You are very special in my eyes and in the eyes of many patients who have never actually expressed their gratitude. I'm sure that there have been plenty who have responded with thanks.

Have courage Kitties, hold your head up and look people in the eye. You are as good as any and better than a lot of folks.

Anytime you want a pep talk to boost your ego, I'm your Mum.
 
Thank you for backing me up Warrigal, it makes me so angry that a person would be so treated and one just wants to put it right.

Kitties, Warrigal said some pretty good stuff here and I will echo that, yes gal, you hold your head up high as she said. I think you have lots of courage, it took courage to post what you did so there you are immediately blessed.

Another Mum here, or perhaps Nana might be more appropriate.

I read on another topic you sometimes don't go back to forums because you are afraid of people, please don't go from this one, I think I may have found a new friend.

XX Jeannine
 
In this photo is a woman named Gladys Berejiklian. She is no oil painting although since becoming Deputy Premier of NSW her grooming has improved a lot.



The man next to her is Mike Baird, the Premier who has today announced that he is retiring to spend more time with family.
He is good looking and charismatic but a bit too soft for such a difficult role.

Gladys is a strong woman who has done a good job as Transport Minister and then as State Treasurer.
She is a strong, competent woman and by rights she should be considered for the premier's job but I don't like her chances, one because she is a woman and two because she isn't as photogenic as the man now in the job. My guess is that it will go to one of the male party hacks, regardless of his face.

So you see, you are not the only one with this problem. If she gets the job, I will let you know.

This lady is Professor Marie Bashir who is a former Governor (Queen's representative) of NSW. Here she is with Prince William and her husband.
Not only is she no oil painting, she is also very short in stature. She is almost universally admired as one of the best governors that this state has ever had.



And speaking of not being oil paintings, how about this lot?
That's Marie on the right and on the left is the then Premier of NSW.
The couple in the middle need no introduction.

 
Jeannine and Warrigal. I can't thank you enough for your kind words and posts. It was actually very difficult for me to return to this thread. You are both very kind people. I don't know what else to say at this point.
 
Kitties, if you feel uncomfortable don't return to this particular thread if it makes things easier. I tnink I would probably speak for Warrigal as well when I say we will look forward to chatting to you on a different thread with a different topic. Just don't leave the forum.
 
Kitties, if you feel uncomfortable don't return to this particular thread if it makes things easier. I tnink I would probably speak for Warrigal as well when I say we will look forward to chatting to you on a different thread with a different topic. Just don't leave the forum. Send me a PM anytme you wish.

XX Jeannine
 
One last word - Gladys Berijiklian has been elected unopposed as the Leader of the NSW parliamentary Liberal Party and as such will be sworn in this afternoon as Premier of NSW by the Governor. I'm listening to her now and I am very impressed.
 
I was just reading through this thread and see that it has had some good come of it. :)
 

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