How We Form A Opinion Of Fellow SF Posters & Think We Know Them

Anyone can make up anything to put into a "profile". It may or may not have any truth at all.

Why would anyone think what is contained into some forum profile is to be relied upon? Present company may be honest but I'd never form any kind of opinion based on an internet profile and/or avatar but agree with AC in that there are much better ways to get to know someone online.
 
I think we tend to form our own opinions on what a member is like :2cents: without having to look up a profile,you soon learn your pecking order in a group, and who and who not to start a debate with.....:)
 

I seldom look at someones profile to tell you the truth. People can write any thing they want in a profile... so what difference does it make? Who's to say someone is even a female... or a male.... Or even a Senior. I do tend to look only in the top right corner to see where they are from... and even that could be completely made up.. So why bother... I form my opinions after reading the things people actually write in threads.. and how they act over a period of time.
 
Here is how I personally make my determinations about others, not only here but elsewhere too. As the man said "if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, it most likely is a duck." Put together the posts of a member and an impression is created, I think of that member that way.
 
Even if everything in a Profile is a lie I would still prefer communicating with someone that a least took the time to think up lies. I will not respond to anyones post that does not have a Profile
 
Lon said:
AC said:In person I have one of the loudest, most boisterous laughs you have ever heard,

Why does that not surprise me?:cool:
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Well, I have to be really tickled. Stand-up comedians should hire me to sit in the audience when they're auditioning.

:lofl: :rofl1: :rofl: :lol1:
 
Lon said:
Even if everything in a Profile is a lie I would still prefer communicating with someone that a least took the time to think up lies. I will not respond to anyones post that does not have a Profile
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Same here Lon. Really all I want to know is their gender and their (general) location.

I see posts that say, It's raining here. If they don't have a profile, I'm wondering, "Where the hell is here?"
 
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hollydolly said:
I absolutely agree AC with everything you say..particularly the last paragraph!!


However..hangs head in shame..I do add ''LOL"' to a lot of my sentences...probably way to much but I do it usually because I don't want whatever it is I've written to be taken too seriously...as it so often can be with the written word. ...and no I;m not Laughing out Loud''..but I am simply smiling while I'm writing it..wryly or otherwise..
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Hangs head in shame? LOL! Holly, your posts are just fine and you should feel free to LOL all you want.
 
I don't look at someone's profile but do like to know their gender so if I have to respond to their post it makes it easier if I know if they are male or female. Usually after reading a few posts of what someone says you can get a pretty good opinion of their personality.
 
I find the posts can be very revealing of member's values, personalities, habits, communication style as well as issues in some cases. If there is any lying going on I suspect its more likely to be in the posts, rather than in the profile. As far as the LOL, I never felt very comfortable using it, but saw that people on this forum like it, so its OK by me.
 
Shalimar said:
I think, for me, it all boils down to--does this person appear to be a kind and compassionate individual? If so, great, if not, I prefer to spend my time with the warm and fuzzy people where possible.
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Is there such a thing as too much 'warm and fuzzy' Shalimar? Or maybe it comes across different online compared to face to face?
 
Sassycakes said:
I don't look at someone's profile but do like to know their gender so if I have to respond to their post it makes it easier if I know if they are male or female. Usually after reading a few posts of what someone says you can get a pretty good opinion of their personality.
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Off topic here but please don't tell me the picture is you and you're 65! If that's you, well.....I may just go look for some traffic to play in:( now back to the subject of knowing one another.
 
Lon said:
Even if everything in a Profile is a lie I would still prefer communicating with someone that a least took the time to think up lies. I will not respond to anyones post that does not have a Profile
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Lon all you need to know about me is, I am all woman and live in the U.K., anything else is irrelevent.:)
 
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I agree with most of the comments above about profiles, also feeling gender and location are useful to know at least initially, though it does usually come out in posts anyway. I like profiles because I am inquisitive about people I guess, but don't think they are vital.
Regarding the "lols" I remember our PM was embarrassed a few years ago thinking it meant "Lots of Love"

David Cameron exchanged up to two text messages a week with Rebekah Brooks during the last general election campaign, often signing off with "DC" or sometimes "LOL" – until she explained that the latter phrase meant "laugh out loud", not "lots of love".
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Like Holly I would use lol it to mean I am joking or don't take me seriously, not literally I am laughing out loud.
I feel we need all the extra aids we can muster when conversing in the written word, as its not always easy to get what context or nuance a person is writing in, being deprived of their facial expression etc.

Maybe we need a new one like "oj" only joking or "ns" not serious lol
 
Funny how many of you say profiles aren't important but I see mine has been looked at 649 times and I can see who are the last ones to look at it (and so can everybody).

I find some very interesting profiles on here and some of the info never comes out in posts. Sure, people could lie but what's the point? If you are on here as a fake how can you possibly enjoy being here?
 
merlin said:
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I agree with most of the comments above about profiles, also feeling gender and location are useful to know at least initially, though it does usually come out in posts anyway. I like profiles because I am inquisitive about people I guess, but don't think they are vital.
Regarding the "lols" I remember our PM was embarrassed a few years ago thinking it meant "Lots of Love"



Like Holly I would use lol it to mean I am joking or don't take me seriously, not literally I am laughing out loud.
I feel we need all the extra aids we can muster when conversing in the written word, as its not always easy to get what context or nuance a person is writing in, being deprived of their facial expression etc.

Maybe we need a new one like "oj" only joking or "ns" not serious lol
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J/k is used for just kidding but I don't use it much because many don't know it and misunderstand. I use grins a lot instead but even those can be misunderstood.
 
Ameriscot said:
Funny how many of you say profiles aren't important but I see mine has been looked at 649 times and I can see who are the last ones to look at it (and so can everybody).

I find some very interesting profiles on here and some of the info never comes out in posts. Sure, people could lie but what's the point? If you are on here as a fake how can you possibly enjoy being here?
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I agree Annie but I guess some people are more secretive or afraid of putting too much information on the internet, for fear of being traced or something. I like reading profiles but then I am a nosey/inquisitive person, and like to know a lot about people as well as their opinions which appear on posts.
 
merlin said:
I agree Annie but I guess some people are more secretive or afraid of putting too much information on the internet, for fear of being traced or something. I like reading profiles but then I am a nosey/inquisitive person, and like to know a lot about people as well as their opinions which appear on posts.
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Agree. But listing your country, your interests etc certainly aren't going to give anyone anything they can use. Won't help with identity theft or finding out my address or credit cards etc.
 
Ameriscot said:
Agree. But listing your country, your interests etc certainly aren't going to give anyone anything they can use. Won't help with identity theft or finding out my address or credit cards etc.
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Yes I agree Annie but some people are paranoid about a lot of things to do with the internet, they seem to believe it has powers beyond what are really the facts.
 

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