How well do you handle rejection?

Bee said:
Best way is to accept and move on.:)
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Easier said then done for some people, though that would be the ideal. It's not always that cut and dried depending on the circumstances and the emotional make up of the individual involved. And the validity of the rejection needs to be evaluated too.
 
The question was 'How well do you handle rejection'....and I answered the question.
 
I would have to agree with Bee..
Feeling rejected is the opposite of feeling accepted. But being rejected (and we all will be at times) doesn't mean someone isn't liked, valued, or important. It just means that one time, in one situation, with one person, things didn't work out. just move on and not make a big thing about it thats how I`d handle it. Life is too hard as it is with out another problem ..
 
Rainee said:
I would have to agree with Bee..
Feeling rejected is the opposite of feeling accepted. But being rejected (and we all will be at times) doesn't mean someone isn't liked, valued, or important. It just means that one time, in one situation, with one person, things didn't work out. just move on and not make a big thing about it thats how I`d handle it. Life is too hard as it is with out another problem ..
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That's a healthy sense of self you have there, Rainee. And I wouldn't disagree with it or with Bees statement either. I was just looking for a bit of elaboration which you have done anyway.

For myself, I've learned as years past to consider the source of the rejection as well as whether or not it really mattered to me in the big picture.

All of us will experience some sort of rejection in life, so we need to be able to move on for sure and to keep our sense of self intact. Harder when it's a significant rejection such as a child/parent one for example. Or the loss of a long time marriage partner for another example. "Just move on" then is not so simple.
 
Of course it depends on the circumstances how to react. In some cases, it may be something I didn't see and

maybe I should look into it and change for the better.

Also the rejector needs considering; maybe they (he,she, they) need to be rejected themselves! Then I'd just laugh it off and go on my way.
 
Falcon said:
Of course it depends on the circumstances how to react. In some cases, it may be something I didn't see and

maybe I should look into it and change for the better.

Also the rejector needs considering; maybe they (he,she, they) need to be rejected themselves! Then I'd just laugh it off and go on my way.
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That's what I said...consider the source.
 
Bee said:
Best way is to accept and move on.:)
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I agree with you Bee. It's taken years to truly feel that way, or "just do it", move on. I was telling someone this a.m. that it is easy now to accept rejection, probably because I have no expectations. I don't know if it's good or bad not to have any expectations, because I think sometimes I am expecting to be rejected, LOL. I'm laughing but we know there is sometimes pain behind laughter. Other folks much worse off than I survive, damned if I'm gonna be a weenie. Well, maybe sometimes I'll crawl up in the fetal position. Hard to do stuff when you are in that position though, lol;) Denise
 
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Back in my corporate days I remember attending some sales seminar. I never was into Sales but I do remember they covered rejection. If you did not get a NO today you did not try hard enough. They actually told us to make it a goal to get a number of Noes everyday and BE HAPPY about it because it represented the fact that we tried. I think we need to look at life like that. On a more intimate level, it hurts, but with enough self-esteem we should be able to understand that we all have different needs and expectations and we should be able to recover and move on.
 
Looking for employment I'd go out and apply for many jobs. I always anticipated a high rejection rate. I wouldn't apply at just one place and be devastated when not accepted.

A more personal rejection, such as a partner in a relationship wanting to end things is much harder for me to deal with.

Applying for work is only hopeful anticipation.
A relationship is different because I've invested so much emotion, time and money. Then to deal with a broken heart.
 
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