Humour, Teasing, Acceptance and the Middle Path...

merlin

merlin

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I just felt I needed to say something about the humour and teasing that goes on here at times. I know this cropped up in AZ Jim's lovely thread welcoming all newcomers. I didn't want to spoil that thread so thought I would start this one to open up a discussion on it.

I am as guilty as anyone (possibly more) on here, of trivialising or in my opinion introducing some humour and lightness into some otherwise more serious threads. Personally I don't feel many areas of life that can't be tempered or helped by injecting some humour into them.
Laughter is an excellent healer, and even in times of tragedy it can help balance the emotions.

I never intend to trivialise anyone's point of view, and in the main only play/tease/fantasise with members who are willing to join in, they know who they are. I guess if you don't like this style of humour, you could simply ignore it and move on?

Though not a Buddhist I do support their philosophy of taking the middle path, life is only as serious, sad, and upsetting as we allow it to be, or again to paraphrase Buddhism "All human suffering is caused by our resistance to the way things are in the world/our life"..........Acceptance is the first step to peace.....

http://is.gd/0zj0kh a link to more on acceptance in life.

Nameste
 

Dame Warrigal said:
Humour is a good way to de-escalate tension and valuable in its own right.

However, when a topic in the Current News and Hot Topics section degenerates into a group flirting session the middle path I take is the one that leads to the exit.
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I completely agree Dame Warrigal because a lot of us take politics and current news topics seriously, I would feel its impolite to as you say introduce flirting etc., but I also feel your decision to leave is the best course of action, rather than creating an area of conflict, by not accepting what's happening.
 

Personally, I think the implementation of personal attacks as a way of expressing disagreement towards another's position is far more disruptive than possibly misplaced humour or flirtation. I, too, believe in the path of moderation,although my love of laughter sometimes causes me to push the boundaries of irreverence beyond some member's comfort zones. It is not intentional, I assure you. Too much heated discussion is difficult for some members, who prefer a more relaxed style of debate. I guess I am trying to state that we are a mixed bag here, a United Nations of personalities, surely we can work together towards some kind of accord? Peace on the forum? Good will toward all? Why not embrace our differences? Who knows what we could learn from each other?. Ie. DW and I will never agree on religion, but I have learned to respect and admire her intellect, compassion, and fierce integrity. She has opened eyes to a new paradigm, and I am grateful, even laughing mermaids wish to embrace personal growth.
 
Dame Warrigal said:
Is it OK to say "Get a room" as I close the door?

My attempt at humour
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I love that remark Dame I think April used it once when things were getting a bit hot, actually it would be a good idea maybe to have a flirting room on this forum, as long as it didn't encourage peeping tom's and skulkers :jumelles:
 
Shalimar said:
Personally, I think the implementation of personal attacks as a way of expressing disagreement towards another's position is far more disruptive than possibly misplaced humour or flirtation. I, too, believe in the path of moderation,although my love of laughter sometimes causes me to push the boundaries of irreverence beyond some member's comfort zones. It is not intentional, I assure you. Too much heated discussion is difficult for some members, who prefer a more relaxed style of debate. I guess I am trying to state that we are a mixed bag here, a United Nations of personalities, surely we can work together towards some kind of accord? Peace on the forum? Good will toward all? Why not embrace our differences? Who knows what we could learn from each other?. Ie. DW and I will never agree on religion, but I have learned to respect and admire her intellect, compassion, and fierce integrity. She has opened eyes to a new paradigm, and I am grateful, even laughing mermaids wish to embrace personal growth.
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I agree with all of that Shali, I am learning all the time on here to see another side to life which I have never experienced, I know I am too open and affectionate at times, I have over many years of counselling opened up to my playful inner child, who gets me into all sorts of scrapes, but that is who I am take it or leave it. I will go and design a Red Room for us now. :hide:
 
Shalimar said:
Merlin, I love the idea of a playroom on the forum, not just for flirting, but encompassing all forms of irreverence outside of creepy.
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I guess we could have a large playroom with annexes for flirting with a bar, and a skulkers room with lots of dark corners and no windows, only spy holes.......oh dear I am off on another fantasy trip, :eek:ops1: more self flagellation is imminent Shali, I will need comforting soon
 
I, too, can run into difficulties being as emotionally accessible as I choose to be. That, said, it has been a long and painful journey out of spiritual and emotional paralysis to become the person I am--still under construction, of course. Part of being an effective therapist is embracing the humanity of oneself as well as others. Part of being a content and balanced human being is similar as well IMHO. Please design our red room Merlin, interestingly enough, I have a raspberry red living and dining room.
 
This serious young lad has been disturbed by the behavior of some of the women here and I call them out on it when they go too far...
 
Shalimar said:
I, too, can run into difficulties being as emotionally accessible as I choose to be. That, said, it has been a long and painful journey out of spiritual and emotional paralysis to become the person I am--still under construction, of course. Part of being an effective therapist is embracing the humanity of oneself as well as others. Part of being a content and balanced human being is similar as well IMHO. Please design our red room Merlin, interestingly enough, I have a raspberry red living and dining room.
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OK Shali all us playmates will come over to yours (with wine) while I design the one here :eek:nthego:
 
Merlin, re pm, very well put. Counselling indeed. Lol. Honestly, what is the problem here? If we are permitted a permanent thread for irreverence, no one's sensibilities should be affected. This should be viewed as a sincere attempt at compromise, rather than a tug of war over who is right and who is wrong. IMHO.
 

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