I am taking a break from clicking likes, loves, wows, sad, or angry...for now.

Paco Dennis

Paco Dennis

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I started relying on these 5 choices as some kind of aid to communicating with others on SF. I started feeling like I "needed" others approval to fit in here. I have struggled with this most of my life. I don't want to rely on it anymore. I have to be and say what I am, not mold it so others will not agree with my view. So for now, you won't see me in your notifications. It is not that I don't care, it is because I do. Having only five choices seems like a some kind of kids game. I am tired of it. Now don't click on one those icons this time...please. Comments are welcome though. :)
 

I completely understand your decision. I have also struggled for approval. We become addicted to it. I have made a few enemies here because I've chosen to share my viewpoint rather than seek approval. Thumbs up to you. We are all finding our way through this forum.
 

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It all comes down to different strokes for different folks. I like to get the emoticons because even if someone does not like what I say they probably understood what I meant. That's a plus for me because half of the time I do not understand what I said myself....
 
dseag2 said:
I completely understand your decision. I have also struggled for approval. We become addicted to it. I have made a few enemies here because I've chosen to share my viewpoint rather than seek approval. Thumbs up to you. I think the world of you.
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I do not have to like what someone has to say but that does not mean I do not respect them for saying what they think.
 
Paco Dennis said:
I started relying on these 5 choices as some kind of aid to communicating with others on SF. I started feeling like I "needed" others approval to fit in here. I have struggled with this most of my life. I don't want to rely on it anymore. I have to be and say what I am, not mold it so others will not agree with my view. So for now, you won't see me in your notifications. It is not that I don't care, it is because I do. Having only five choices seems like a some kind of kids game. I am tired of it. Now don't click on one those icons this time...please. Comments are welcome though. :)
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I'm gunna miss your clicks a lot, they made me feel good. ❤ so I hope you change your mind.
 
I appreciate the jokes, words, news, pictures of interesting things and events that are posted.
We owe those that spend their time making our lives more interesting.

(We need two different question mark in simile faces
one for 'i don't understand,
one for i do not follow.)
 
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I understand your point of view Paco but personally think a ‘click’ shows appreciation and respect for the member who has taken the time to post

Also, make sure I click on all posts responding to any topics I’ve started to thank the clikee :)
 
Thank you. I appreciate your sentiments about the icons and I must say I have struggled in that way too. There is a lot more to things than the emoticons! Be you and I will be me.
 
I Like the emoticons, because I feel that if a post doesn't necessitate a reply, then it's the only way the poster can know if they've been heard, or if in fact anyone cares, and by how much ....

There's often posts where for example someone is going through a difficult time, but there's nothing I can actually say to make things better for them, so instead I've got the choice of using an emoticon, to know I'm supporting them or feeling sad for them...
Equally when someone is being funny..I'm not going to write.. ''ooh you are soo funny''...I want that person to know their humour is appreciated and I found them amusing, so a click of an emoticon does just that
 
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Can understand your perspective, i would always prefer discussion of an OP or of a comment than just an emoticon. However, @hollydolly makes good points and when i click on them it is about letting the poster know i've seen their post, and i often also respond-- especially when it is more serious topic.

As for being 'accepted' anywhere by anyone i learned a long time ago that some people will accept/like me as i am and some won't and figured out i'd rather whatever they think/feel about me (if i'm on their radar at all) be based as much as possible on who i really am than some false front i'd have to maintain. As it is, people often idealise or villainise each other rather than consider we are all multifaceted and we can respect/like each other without all our facets matching up perfectly.
 
Paco Dennis said:
I started relying on these 5 choices as some kind of aid to communicating with others on SF.
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That's all they're for, helps the communication process being that we can't hear each others voice, or see each others faces.

Years ago when I was running a computer hobbyist forum I thought how cool it would be if people could see and hear other people online. That is a reality now, it's called Zoom.
 
I think on Face. clicking on "like" is a religion. I joined a veteran's group with 800+ members, and immediately 4 people "liked' that. It doesn't take much for some to "like" stuff. Of course, when people give positive responses, I'm happy. But if they don't, I'm not going to slit my wrist. You can't take the "5 choices" seriously. You can appreciate the feedback, but not live for it.
 

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