I apologize to the members

well lets try droppin it for a small while and see if we miss it? - you could continue in the conversations box?
 

I haven't got a clue what cha talking about Patty but the Web is full of voices that will say negative stuff. Me too.
Maybe just don't see it as personal as you know it is, well most likely thas good for you. Most every forum has a group
of negative at cha bunch. I sort of think of it as CB Language that I listened to in the early 70's. Walking on / Wiping out the Channel
was how with them were dealed and that was just as bad at them...
 

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papa tiger said:
I sort of think of it as CB Language that I listened to in the early 70's. Walking on / Wiping out the Chanel
was how with them were dealed and that was just as bad at them..
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don't get that bit at all but can we try it in a different language maybe? - also buddhism yes I did practice that for a few years - asnd remember as stated above that we were taught not to take others comments too personally - the comments could often reflect tortured souls ; emotionally unbalanced ones ; always aggressive ones : very jealous ones as well as all the 'normal ones' - so we were taught to recognize the emotion that was coming with the comment and learn how to deal effectively with the perseved emotion in a caring buddhist way??
 
Apologies come in different forms; changing behavior , verbally saying your sorry, doing kind actions towards whoever was offended, and other ways.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
Today I over reacted to someone’s criticism of me. I apologize to the members of this forum.
It was most unkind of me.
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I didn't see the exchange, but I know that I would never blame someone for defending themselves if personally criticized.

We state opinions on this forum all the time. Music we like or don't like, things like what we think makes a good gift or how often we mow the lawn, but if someone states their opinion, not of the reason for inflation or the movie they just saw, but about a fellow member, and it's negative and hurtful, then I think that's out of line.

I grew up with extremely critical parents and it had me paralyzed with crippling shyness until I got away. If I cried or pouted over the criticism, my father would compound it by declaring, "You don't take criticism well!" I was thirty years old before I started to ask myself, "Why should I?"

Unless you're my teacher or coach or pastor or someone whose opinion I've solicited, please don't.
 
davey said:
who me ?? I love the girl! still I would like to apologize for Patty apologizing so much - I think she has the hiccups?
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Yes I do apologize a lot. I’d rather be over cautious than not care whatsoever.
Paco Dennis said:
I feel like everyone can relate to how we take things personally.? So, I don't understand why you feel it is private. This is a universal subject.... apologizing, and forgiveness. It is not easy to do. Maybe that is enough to be said, like I said earlier, it is so universal that it is all taken for granted. If you want me to drop it, i will. This is just something that has been discussed in our community for a very long time. It goes to the heart of engaged Buddhist practice.
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I find apologizing easy to do and forgiving. There’s nothing that’s happened on this site that I can’t forgive. It’s ALL forgivable.
 
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Della said:
I didn't see the exchange, but I know that I would never blame someone for defending themselves if personally criticized.

We state opinions on this forum all the time. Music we like or don't like, things like what we think makes a good gift or how often we mow the lawn, but if someone states their opinion, not of the reason for inflation or the movie they just saw, but about a fellow member, and it's negative and hurtful, then I think that's out of line.

I grew up with extremely critical parents and it had me paralyzed with crippling shyness until I got away. If I cried or pouted over the criticism, my father would compound it by declaring, "You don't take criticism well!" I was thirty years old before I started to ask myself, "Why should I?"

Unless you're my teacher or coach or pastor or someone whose opinion I've solicited, please don't.
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You can’t see the interaction because I intentionally deleted it. I deleted it because I didn’t like how I responded. I had embellished it with faux f bombs. 😂
 
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PeppermintPatty said:
Hey Pepper
I have the book and shall read the 2nd agreement, ‘Don’t take anything personally’ then go back and read the rest of the book. I couldn’t find the paperback I had so downloaded it.

Good recommendation
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Must be a pretty important and famous book if Sheryl Crow loves it. :)

 

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