I don't appreciate people who try to control me.

grahamg said:
Feeling like you're "treading on egg shells" is no good in any relationship is it
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Yes...I mean no...absolutely not. But you did get your cherry capsules I see, and I take it your wife didn't smack you with a rolling pin. ;)

BTW, I'm interested to hear how well the cherry capsules help your arthritis, had thought of getting some myself(they're expensive).

grahamg said:
Churchill did say something about what you should do if you've something controversial to say didn't he, quote:
"If you have a point to make, dont try to be subtle or clever. Use a pile driver. Hit the point once. Then come back and hit it again. Then hit it a third time,...., a tremendous whack"!
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My view: Churchill was a major statesman of the day, and when dealing in world matters it definitely wouldn't pay to be a wall-flower.
Also my view: This morning I overhead a participant at the gym tell another lady "I always just say what I think", as if that were some kind of badge of honor. :rolleyes:
My view: when your only company is your own reflection in the bathroom mirror, feel free to let it all out. When your around other humans(like in an actual human-to-human situation, it sometimes just pays to be tactful, rather than blunt. That's why humans don't yet have the ability of ESP, reading each others minds...we're just not ready for that level of honesty yet.
Also my view: If God intended us to blurt out our thoughts, we would just have a brain the size of myna bird or parrot.
 
Mr. Ed wrote:
"Cherry tablets seem to help ease pain in my joints etc.
Nathan said:
Yes...I mean no...absolutely not. But you did get your cherry capsules I see, and I take it your wife didn't smack you with a rolling pin. ;)
BTW, I'm interested to hear how well the cherry capsules help your arthritis, had thought of getting some myself(they're expensive).
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Nathan said:
Nathan wrote, (In response to Grahamg) :
"My view: Churchill was a major statesman of the day, and when dealing in world matters it definitely wouldn't pay to be a wall-flower.
Also my view: This morning I overhead a participant at the gym tell another lady "I always just say what I think", as if that were some kind of badge of honor. :rolleyes:
My view: when your only company is your own reflection in the bathroom mirror, feel free to let it all out. When your around other humans(like in an actual human-to-human situation, it sometimes just pays to be tactful, rather than blunt. That's why humans don't yet have the ability of ESP, reading each others minds...we're just not ready for that level of honesty yet. Also my view: If God intended us to blurt out our thoughts, we would just have a brain the size of myna bird or parrot.
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Filters are necessary of course, and I was quite troubled by a friend of mine not filtering out a comment she knew was not tactful directed at a ninety year old veteran recently, and didn't make things any better in my view by stating, "I know this is cheeky but,.....,"
 

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grahamg said:
Feeling like you're "treading on egg shells" is no good in any relationship is it, (Churchill did say something about what you should do if you've something controversial to say didn't he, quote:
"If you have a point to make, dont try to be subtle or clever. Use a pile driver. Hit the point once. Then come back and hit it again. Then hit it a third time,...., a tremendous whack"!
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I don't think he would have gotten away with that approach to his dear Clementine
 
grahamg said:
Mr. Ed wrote:
"Cherry tablets seem to help ease pain in my joints etc.
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I've read that cherries are loaded with vitamins C, A, and K. Also potassium, magnesium, and calcium too. They bring antioxidants, like beta-carotene, and the essential nutrient choline. Good stuff to aid aching muscles after a workout, would seem to benefit those with arthritis as well.
 
Warrigal said:
I don't think he would have gotten away with that approach to his dear Clementine
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You're not suggesting a man who fought in wars or skirmishes on horseback, being cut off by the enemy until his fellow troops came to his aid, couldn't stand up to his wife should he choose to do so, great woman though she undoubtedly was, especially when writing to her husband at the height of WWII to let him know he was speaking too roughly to civil servants, and saying, "I can't bear to think that your staff do not love you as I do", (or words to that effect, something Churchill biographer Roy Jenkins remarked upon as an example of the influences upon the leadership in our country compared to our adversaries).
 
Mr. Ed said:
My wife monitors my spending but that's ok because she keeps my spending in tact. However, I mentioned to my wife I plan to buy tart cherry capsules for arthritis and joint pain. Inn the morning we plan to shop at nearby town and my wife wanted me to look.for tact cherry capsules while there. First of all I don't I buy tart cherry supplements. Ended up buying what I wanted on Amazon like I planned to do in the first place. This was an example of my wife attempting to control and direct in the manner she wanted.
She asked if I bought the item already online my reply was yes.
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Sounds pretty minor, and not to out of the ordinary for a long term relationship. Wouldn't let it bother you. I always try to give in on the small things, it helps...

Hope your arthritis is better. Do the tart cherry things work?
 
grahamg said:
You're not suggesting a man who fought in wars or skirmishes on horseback, being cut off by the enemy until his fellow troops came to his aid, couldn't stand up to his wife should he choose to do so, great woman though she undoubtedly was, especially when writing to her husband at the height of WWII to let him know he was speaking too roughly to civil servants, and saying, "I can't bear to think that your staff do not love you as I do", (or words to that effect, something Churchill biographer Roy Jenkins remarked upon as an example of the influences upon the leadership in our country compared to our adversaries).
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I am suggesting just that.
 
bowmore said:
I had a disagreement with my late MIL about our traveling. Apparently she and her husband were at a medical convention when a close family member died. The person had to be kept on ice until they returned.
My late wife and I were traveling quite a bit, and I was told by her we should not travel until she died. I basically told her that she was not going to dictate our travel plans.
When she finally died, I showed my wife the list of trips we would have missed out on had we listened to her.
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How on earth could anybody have the chutzpah to tell someone else (yes, even their daughter and son-in-law) that they should not travel without their permission? Or is there more to the story than that?

For instance, if MIL was literally on her deathbed, and warned you not to embark on a trip to a faraway destination, as you'd probably have to rush back home, I would consider that a helpful suggestion. But even then, nobody can order someone else how to live their life.

Also, what if MIL was a hypochondriac who always thought she was on her deathbed?
 
Sunny said:
How on earth could anybody have the chutzpah to tell someone else (yes, even their daughter and son-in-law) that they should not travel without their permission? Or is there more to the story than that?

For instance, if MIL was literally on her deathbed, and warned you not to embark on a trip to a faraway destination, as you'd probably have to rush back home, I would consider that a helpful suggestion. But even then, nobody can order someone else how to live their life.

Also, what if MIL was a hypochondriac who always thought she was on her deathbed?
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I agree, if she was on her deathbed. She told us that about 5 years before she died. She was in good health at the time.
 
Ladybj said:
Do the Tart Cherry capsules help with joint pain? How long have you been taking them? I may need to search for some.
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I'm not much on over the counter herbal remedies, with the one exception of Tart Cherry Extract. I was having debilitating bouts of something called Pseudo Gout twice a year or so that would last for a couple of weeks. It was in a knee that I had operated on years ago. In desperation (sometimes that's what it takes for a home remedy skeptic), I started taking daily doses of Tart Cherry Extract (2500 mg), and I haven't had a flair up in three years since I started. I assume it's the effect of Tart Cherry, but who knows? I'll just keep taking it now.

In defense of Mr. Ed, for me it wouldn't be just a matter of being controlled. I often got good advice from my ex, but it's easier and often cheaper to buy things off the net. In addition, I checked on Tart Cherry at Walmart, and they only had it in 300 mg doses, so the trip to Walmart was basically just a waste of time. But I'm used to checking on the internet and almost always find the best prices and varieties of things I want there, and not always just at Amazon, when it comes to price, shipping, and speed of delivery. I do a lot of comparing before buying. I'll only run into a local store if it's an emergency or last minute oversight.
 
Nowadays I shop on the web before trying to locate items in my community. I use google shopper to find items from various sources on the web and within my community radius. I like to buy locally when possible but it is more convenient and many times cheaper through the internet. Not only do big conglomerates like Amazon offer online purchases but also independently owned businesses as well.
 

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