I Feel Bad

drifter

drifter

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My daughter and two grandsons bought me new computer and I feel terrible they spent that much money on me. I would like to ask my daughter to return it for refund. I'm not sure what to do. I feel bad about accepting it. Any advice?
 

I think you should not feel so bad about it at all, and accept it graciously. Just think how disappointed your daughter and her sons will feel if you reject it and tell her to return it for refund. They will be the ones to feel bad then. Just think how excited they were to plan and shop for the gift for you, and you would likely make their holiday less enjoyable to know that you weren't happy with what they gave. Trust me, they wouldn't forget it, if you make them return the present. It's the season of giving, can you consider re-thinking your reaction to your Christmas gift? Just my thoughts on the matter, of course you have to do what's in your own heart. :sentimental:
 

OH I agree with all that's been said. Drifter you obviously are as kind as your daughter or you wouldn't be feeling bad at how much it cost, but your daughter clearly wanted you to have the computer, and so therefore do her and your grandkids a good turn and enjoy it for all it's worth!!
 
Accept it and enjoy.
they obviously thought about it, clubbed together and bought it......for you.
don't return it, because then they will feel bad.
so; accept graciously; and enjoy...no guilt needed here; from either side.
 
hollydolly said:
OH I agree with all that's been said. Drifter you obviously are as kind as your daughter or you wouldn't be feeling bad at how much it cost, but your daughter clearly wanted you to have the computer, and so therefore do her and your grandkids a good turn and enjoy it for all it's worth!!
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I agree with hollydolly, they love you and want to show that love. Their love reflects you.
 
Drifter, I can really relate to where you are coming from. My daughter shows up with expensive gifts for me, and I feel bad that she spent the money to do that.
However, HER pleasure and joy is from seeing my eyes light up and sparkle when I receive the gift. I am sure that this is where your family is at as well.
Regardless of what the package is, the true gift is the LOVE that comes with the gift.
Welcome the gift as the love that it is, and thank them accordingly, and remember that love each time your fingers touch the key board.
It is the greatest blessing to give and receive such love....
 
I'm reminded of the Honeymooners episode where Ralph hocked his bowling ball to buy Alice a Christmas present.

Meanwhile, she had bought him a new bowling ball bag.

Drifter, I get the feeling there's a lot more to the story than you related, in which case all I could offer would be to do what is best for them.
 
My guess drifter, is that your Daughter learned to be generous from you. Think of them every time you use it! You are blessed to have them in your life!:)
 
Thank you all for your comments and advice. I 'm now sitting at my desk using my new iMac. My daughter and I bridled, saddled, and got this thing up and going at a gentle gallop a few minutes ago.
 
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Oh my gosh ! ! an iMac ! ! That is awesome Drifter. I am sure that you will love that ! My Daughter has one of those, and she is an Apple devotee. You can even watch your iTunes movies on there just like on the new Apple TV. I had Robin's MacAir for a whle, and it was a superb laptop, but I am just too spoiled with the iPad to really use anything else now.

Did you know that you can take all of your photos from the photostream and use them for the screensaver on the Apple TV ? That is what I like to do, and enjoy seeing my pictures floating across the screen.
 
Mickey Mouse, I'll have to take this one step at a time, Happy. I'm semi-ignorant. Cheers.
 

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