I Got Tragic, Shocking News This Weekend

OneEyedDiva

OneEyedDiva

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Friday morning I found out that a friend of mine. "M" was found dead. My ex SIL texted me her photo with a caption which briefly mentioned that she was found "dead/murdered" and what a nice, kind person she was known to be. He said his ex-wife (my step daughter) had sent it to him. I first met her over 25 years ago when she worked for my husband. After he passed she started working for his ex-wife who is also in retail. The store where they worked was the last place she was seen according to the caption. I texted it to my son & DIL and my son called me right away. My DIL and I connected via text. They knew it had to be upsetting for me.

"M" and I have shared meals and gone to different functions together over the years. I didn't want to believe it was true and started looking through my local news apps and some of the "newspaper" editions since Nov 10th (the day she went missing) that I read online. I saw nothing about it. So I went to my husband's ex's page and found out that the captioned photo was from a Facebook page of a well known community activist in town who also knew her. He had shared it with 88 people, so then I started to feel that it was real.

Today, after still not seeing anything in the papers, I decided to call my nephew-in-law, who is on the force, to ask if he had any more information. Turns out he did. Apparently she was found wrapped in plastic in the town she's lived in for decades, which is right next to ours. A couple of years ago, she did something really hurtful and although she apologized, I cut in person interactions. Yet I still cared about her and I'm sure she still cared about me. We played Words With Friends until a few months ago and she'd sometimes comment on my Facebook posts for which I thanked her.

Islam teaches us that if we don't forgive, we can't expect to be forgiven on Judgement Day. I had just come to terms with needing to forgive her so had done so in my heart. A couple of months ago I even had a dream that I hugged her. She hadn't been on FB or played the game for quite awhile, so I never told her. Needless to say my emotions are in a bundle but I'm mostly very sad and I have cried. Then to find out how she was just disposed of! She didn't deserve to be dumped like garbage. Even though now I know it's real, I'm still having trouble processing this! :cry: @Pecos
 

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Friday morning I found out that a friend of mine was found dead. My ex SIL texted me with her photo with a caption which briefly mentioned that she was found "dead/murdered" and what a nice, kind person she was known to be. He said his ex-wife (my step daughter) had sent it to him. I first met her over 25 years ago when she worked for my husband. After he passed she started working for his ex-wife who was also in retail. The store where they worked was the last place she was seen according to the caption. She and I have shared meals and gone to different functions together. I didn't want to believe it was true and started looking through my local news apps and some of the "newspaper" editions that I read online. I saw nothing about it. So I went to my husband's ex's page and found out that the source was from a Facebook page of a well known community activist in town. He shared it with 88 people, so then I started to feel that it was real.

Today, after still not seeing anything in the papers, I decided to call my nephew-in-law, who is on the force, to ask if he had any more information. Turns out he did. Apparently she was found wrapped in plastic in the town she's lived in for decades, which is right next to ours. A couple of years ago, she did something really hurtful and although she apologized, I distanced myself from her. Yet I still cared about her and I'm sure she still cared about me. We played Words With Friends until a few months ago and she'd sometimes comment on my Facebook posts for which I thanked her.

Islam teaches us that if we don't forgive, we can't expect to be forgiven on Judgement Day. I had just come to terms with needing to forgive her so had done so in my heart. A couple of months ago I even had a dream that I hugged her. She hadn't been on FB or played the game for quite awhile, so I never told her. Needless to say my emotions are in a bundle but I'm mostly very sad and I have cried. Then to find out how she was just disposed of! She didn't deserve to be dumped like garbage. Even though now I know it's real, I'm still having trouble processing this! :cry: @Pecos
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OMG! I'm so sorry!
 
OneEyedDiva said:
Friday morning I found out that a friend of mine. "M" was found dead. My ex SIL texted me her photo with a caption which briefly mentioned that she was found "dead/murdered" and what a nice, kind person she was known to be. He said his ex-wife (my step daughter) had sent it to him. I first met her over 25 years ago when she worked for my husband. After he passed she started working for his ex-wife who was also in retail. The store where they worked was the last place she was seen according to the caption. I texted it to my son & DIL and my son called me right away. My DIL and I connected via text. They knew it had to be upsetting for me.

"M" and I have shared meals and gone to different functions together over the years. I didn't want to believe it was true and started looking through my local news apps and some of the "newspaper" editions since Nov 10th (the days she went missing) that I read online. I saw nothing about it. So I went to my husband's ex's page and found out that the captioned photo was from a Facebook page of a well known community activist in town who also knew her. He had shared it with 88 people, so then I started to feel that it was real.

Today, after still not seeing anything in the papers, I decided to call my nephew-in-law, who is on the force, to ask if he had any more information. Turns out he did. Apparently she was found wrapped in plastic in the town she's lived in for decades, which is right next to ours. A couple of years ago, she did something really hurtful and although she apologized, I cut in person interactions. Yet I still cared about her and I'm sure she still cared about me. We played Words With Friends until a few months ago and she'd sometimes comment on my Facebook posts for which I thanked her.

Islam teaches us that if we don't forgive, we can't expect to be forgiven on Judgement Day. I had just come to terms with needing to forgive her so had done so in my heart. A couple of months ago I even had a dream that I hugged her. She hadn't been on FB or played the game for quite awhile, so I never told her. Needless to say my emotions are in a bundle but I'm mostly very sad and I have cried. Then to find out how she was just disposed of! She didn't deserve to be dumped like garbage. Even though now I know it's real, I'm still having trouble processing this! :cry: @Pecos
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Dear, I am so sorry to hear this! The fact that you had forgiven her in your heart and that you saw her in a dream are very significant! In our Orthodox religion, we say "May her memory be eternal." Hugs from afar!
 

OneEyedDiva said:
Friday morning I found out that a friend of mine. "M" was found dead. My ex SIL texted me her photo with a caption which briefly mentioned that she was found "dead/murdered" and what a nice, kind person she was known to be. He said his ex-wife (my step daughter) had sent it to him. I first met her over 25 years ago when she worked for my husband. After he passed she started working for his ex-wife who was also in retail. The store where they worked was the last place she was seen according to the caption. I texted it to my son & DIL and my son called me right away. My DIL and I connected via text. They knew it had to be upsetting for me.

"M" and I have shared meals and gone to different functions together over the years. I didn't want to believe it was true and started looking through my local news apps and some of the "newspaper" editions since Nov 10th (the days she went missing) that I read online. I saw nothing about it. So I went to my husband's ex's page and found out that the captioned photo was from a Facebook page of a well known community activist in town who also knew her. He had shared it with 88 people, so then I started to feel that it was real.

Today, after still not seeing anything in the papers, I decided to call my nephew-in-law, who is on the force, to ask if he had any more information. Turns out he did. Apparently she was found wrapped in plastic in the town she's lived in for decades, which is right next to ours. A couple of years ago, she did something really hurtful and although she apologized, I cut in person interactions. Yet I still cared about her and I'm sure she still cared about me. We played Words With Friends until a few months ago and she'd sometimes comment on my Facebook posts for which I thanked her.

Islam teaches us that if we don't forgive, we can't expect to be forgiven on Judgement Day. I had just come to terms with needing to forgive her so had done so in my heart. A couple of months ago I even had a dream that I hugged her. She hadn't been on FB or played the game for quite awhile, so I never told her. Needless to say my emotions are in a bundle but I'm mostly very sad and I have cried. Then to find out how she was just disposed of! She didn't deserve to be dumped like garbage. Even though now I know it's real, I'm still having trouble processing this! :cry: @Pecos
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Diva, I am so terribly sorry. My heart goes out to you. Sending all my love and prayers.😔😘
 
So sorry to hear this. A terrible way to die. It seems that you did make amends with her to a degree. It was a start. She did hurt you and even though she apologized I don't think it means you needed to totally forgive and forget. More time may have helped renew your friendship but it wasn't to be and you had no control over that.
Something like this would be hard for anyone to process and my thoughts are with you.
 
OneEyedDiva said:
Friday morning I found out that a friend of mine. "M" was found dead. My ex SIL texted me her photo with a caption which briefly mentioned that she was found "dead/murdered" and what a nice, kind person she was known to be. He said his ex-wife (my step daughter) had sent it to him. I first met her over 25 years ago when she worked for my husband. After he passed she started working for his ex-wife who was also in retail. The store where they worked was the last place she was seen according to the caption. I texted it to my son & DIL and my son called me right away. My DIL and I connected via text. They knew it had to be upsetting for me.

"M" and I have shared meals and gone to different functions together over the years. I didn't want to believe it was true and started looking through my local news apps and some of the "newspaper" editions since Nov 10th (the days she went missing) that I read online. I saw nothing about it. So I went to my husband's ex's page and found out that the captioned photo was from a Facebook page of a well known community activist in town who also knew her. He had shared it with 88 people, so then I started to feel that it was real.

Today, after still not seeing anything in the papers, I decided to call my nephew-in-law, who is on the force, to ask if he had any more information. Turns out he did. Apparently she was found wrapped in plastic in the town she's lived in for decades, which is right next to ours. A couple of years ago, she did something really hurtful and although she apologized, I cut in person interactions. Yet I still cared about her and I'm sure she still cared about me. We played Words With Friends until a few months ago and she'd sometimes comment on my Facebook posts for which I thanked her.

Islam teaches us that if we don't forgive, we can't expect to be forgiven on Judgement Day. I had just come to terms with needing to forgive her so had done so in my heart. A couple of months ago I even had a dream that I hugged her. She hadn't been on FB or played the game for quite awhile, so I never told her. Needless to say my emotions are in a bundle but I'm mostly very sad and I have cried. Then to find out how she was just disposed of! She didn't deserve to be dumped like garbage. Even though now I know it's real, I'm still having trouble processing this! :cry: @Pecos
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MDS,

I am so sorry that this has happened to your friend and it is good that you have forgiven her. Murder is vile and no matter what she did, she did not deserve this.

The evil that people inflict on each other is unbelievable. I hope they catch the person who did this and bring them to the justice they deserve.

My prayers are with the family and all the friends like you who are grieving this loss.
 
So sorry to hear of this. :( Especially how she died and the regret we feel when we've drifted apart from someone and lose them. Wishing so much cyber hugs felt as good as real ones because I'm sending one your way. Prayers for all who cared for her and that her killer is found and justice quickly served.
 
OneEyedDiva, my heart goes out to you, I can see
why you are so upset, it is sad that some people
think that killing is the only answer for everything.

Please accept my condolences for the loss of your
friend.

Mike.
 
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