I have a complaint

Lara said:
While dodging fire in my first political thread here, I learned a lot…not about the political topic so much, chuckle, but about how to get along with difficult people, and I also learned a lot about myself….

…that exercising self control, though challenging, builds character. I learned that I spend too much time expressing myself, because I try to think before I speak and take care in how I'm coming across…not always successfully...but that causes me to be too slow for the pace of a hot topic and I become overwhelmed. I learned to compensate for that by taking a backseat, a rest, and not feeling like I had to address every comment. I learned to choose to address choice posts and let the others slide.

I learned to let go of insults and not let it bother me. I learned who my friends are…who is not afraid to step in and offer support on the field (that takes guts sometimes) and off the field (off=messages/reputation marks) and I learned to wait for calmer days to restore misunderstandings…only if worthwhile…because I don't have to everybody's friend.

And finally, I learned that my thread is not my thread. I'm merely the one who created it…but, unlike real life creation, it's not my baby so I can't mother it. People don't want to be told to stay on topic. They think it's telling them what to post. I learned to let go of disappointment and look for the gems.

Peace Love Dove:rose:
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Oh yes...and some of us were fortunate enough to learn much of that many years ago after suffering the same fate ..and many more regardless of how long they've been posting on discussion forums never will unfortunately ...good post Lara!! :D
 
I have a thick skin but I do try to be respectful in my posts.
A couple of times I have let myself down and I then chastised myself with time out - two weeks of not posting at all to teach myself a lesson.
It worked because I hated it.
 

Two weeks was hardly enough as I have detected strains of bad behavior on your part on a fairly regular basis, but you will be missed should you self-exile again...:eek:nthego:
 
Lara said:
While dodging fire in my first political thread here, I learned a lot…not about the political topic so much, chuckle, but about how to get along with difficult people, and I also learned a lot about myself….

…that exercising self control, though challenging, builds character. I learned that I spend too much time expressing myself, because I try to think before I speak and take care in how I'm coming across…not always successfully...but that causes me to be too slow for the pace of a hot topic and I become overwhelmed. I learned to compensate for that by taking a backseat, a rest, and not feeling like I had to address every comment. I learned to choose to address choice posts and let the others slide.

I learned that I can make mistakes and offend someone for not seeing her posts that were on-topic and I learned to say I'm sorry to her and share kindness. I learned to let go of insults and not let it bother me. I learned who my friends are…who is not afraid to step in and offer support on the field (that takes guts sometimes) and off the field (off=messages/reputation marks) and I learned to wait for calmer days to restore misunderstandings…only if worthwhile…because I don't have to everybody's friend.

And finally, I learned that my thread is not my thread. I'm merely the one who created it…but, unlike real life creation, it's not my baby so I can't mother it. People don't want to be told to stay on topic. They think it's telling them what to post. I learned to let go of disappointment and look for the gems.

Peace Love Dove:rose:
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Its not that hard, Lara. You only need "Is!" and "Is not!", but you have to use them emphatically.:hit:
 
Ralphy1 said:
Two weeks was hardly enough as I have detected strains of bad behavior on your part on a fairly regular basis, but you will be missed should you self-exile again...:eek:nthego:
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LOL....Ralphy...

..but I agree DW, sometimes it can be very hard to sit on one's hands particularly when it's a personal attack...although I read the Political discussions I try to refrain from posting on them, because sometimes things are said that are so appalling, I'd have to do the same as you and go and have a time out if I replied!!
 
RadishRose said:
Agree Mr. Grumpy OM. People trying to discuss political things online become so insulting I can hardly believe what I read! I feel however, they would never speak the same way face to face at say, a bbq or another gathering of some kind
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I wouldn't be too sure about that, I have seen grown men come to blows in a public house over politics.
 
RadishRose said:
Agree Mr. Grumpy OM. People trying to discuss political things online become so insulting I can hardly believe what I read! I feel however, they would never speak the same way face to face at say, a bbq or another gathering of some kind
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hahaha at "BBQ". In my political thread I felt like we were at a BBQ and Trump, his wife, me, and Lon were the wieners being roasted :laugh:
 
You wish.:D I see Admin has removed most of the inappropriate posts in the Trump thread.
Perhaps you missed my post #25 in here QuickSilver...

Lara said:
While dodging fire in my first political thread here (I see admin has removed most of those posts), I learned a lot…not about the political topic so much, chuckle, but about how to get along with difficult people, and I also learned a lot about myself….

…that exercising self control, though challenging, builds character. I learned that I spend too much time expressing myself, because I try to think before I speak and take care in how I'm coming across…not always successfully...but that causes me to be too slow for the pace of a hot topic and I become overwhelmed. I learned to compensate for that by taking a backseat, a rest, and not feeling like I had to address every comment. I learned to choose to address choice posts and let the others slide.

I learned that I can make mistakes and offend someone for not seeing her posts that were on-topic and I learned to say I'm sorry to her and share kindness. I learned to let go of insults and not let it bother me. I learned who my friends are…who is not afraid to step in and offer support on the field (that takes guts sometimes) and off the field (off=messages/reputation marks) and I learned to wait for calmer days to restore misunderstandings…only if worthwhile…because I learned I don't have to everybody's friend.

And finally, I learned that my thread is not my thread. I'm merely the one who created it…but, unlike real life, creation is not my baby so I can't mother it. People don't want to be told to stay on topic. They think it's telling them what to post. I learned to let go of disappointment, be patient, and look for the gems.

Will I ever boldly enter the arena of persecution again? Sure, it makes life interesting and you grow. But I hear you, Lon. I saw that happen to you and I stepped in and attempted to correct them on your behalf (in my post#139 over in the trump thread).

Peace Love Dove :rose:
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Lara said:
You wish.:D I see Admin has removed most of the inappropriate posts in the Trump thread.
Perhaps you missed my post #25 in here QuickSilver...
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None of mine were removed... except the one where I commented on a personal attack against ME.. But I don't complain about it..
 
Lara said:
I think you just did :)
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NO.. lara... you said some posts were removed... and I said that none of mine were.. except that one... so apparently I have not attacked anyone.. That was my point.

If you feel you are being personally attacked about anything.. I'm just telling you that you have not been... Perception does not always equal reality.. right?
 
QuickSilver said:
...Too bad you take things so personally. Perhaps a political debate is not for you.
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QuickSilver said:
...I commented on a personal attack against ME.. But I don't complain about it.
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There are other threads where you have done this lately.
Would you please stop following me from thread to thread harassing me with this stuff? Please put me on ignore so you won't be tempted. Thank you.
 
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LET ME SAY FOR THE RECORD that politically I am a INDEPENDENT & absolutely abhor the FAR LEFT & THE FAR RIGHT.

Make that 2 of us.
 
And I want to say - for the record - that I could not possibly care less what Canadians think of American politics or American anything. I confess to not ever having lost one minute of sleep worrying about it. But it's nice that some Canadians are soooooo interested in us!
 
applecruncher said:
And I want to say - for the record - that I could not possibly care less what Canadians think of American politics or American anything. I confess to not ever having lost one minute of sleep worrying about it. But it's nice that some Canadians are soooooo interested in us!
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AC, why are you being so inhospitable to our Northern neighbors? They are welcomed here by most of us and they have every right to be interested in our politics, after all as close as they are between our lower states and Alaska they could easily become involved. How 'bout laying off, OK?
 
applecruncher said:
And I want to say - for the record - that I could not possibly care less what Canadians think of American politics or American anything. I confess to not ever having lost one minute of sleep worrying about it. But it's nice that some Canadians are soooooo interested in us!
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Well ac, we are soooo interested because your country has such a huuuuuuuge impact on our little country and the rest of the world. Remember, you aren't living in a vacuum all by your lonesome.
 

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