I need advice on raising a Husband !

Sassycakes

Sassycakes

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Before I ask for any advice I would like to introduce you to my Husband.stock-photo-a-man-cries-in-vain-to-another-man-who-can-not-hear-because-it-has-a-stone-for-a-hea.jpg You would think after 53yrs of marriage I wouldn't need advice, but unfortunately I do. We have had some very busy days this week. First on Tuesday they had a banquet for him for all he did for the community we lived in until a year ago. Wednesday my grandson graduated from college and we attended the graduation. Thursday my grandson had a Graduation party and we went to that,and we got home late. So today I said he should just relax. Well that didn't go over good. So first he insisted on cleaning the basement. Then he decided to power wash the front of the house. Then he decided to do some patch work on the drive way. He just got finished mowing the lawn and came inside. He was sitting about 5 minutes when he fell asleep. Can anyone tell me how to convince a man to relax. You would think I would have figured it out by now.
 

oooh RR got there before me.... !!! LOL>... :D

TBF..my husband works very long hours, so I can't expect much out of him when he's got a day off... so as he can't do it cuz he's not here most of the time ...can we hire your man for a while please Sassy?...I'll pay his fare... ;)
 

hollydolly said:
oooh RR got there before me.... !!! LOL>... :D

TBF..my husband works very long hours, so I can't expect much out of him when he's got a day off... so as he can't do it cuz he's not here most of the time ...can we hire your man for a while please Sassy?...I'll pay his fare... ;)
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If you're willing to put up with him I'll pay the fare !LOL
 
I'm thinking, be glad you have him? There will come a day that he may not be able to do many/most/all those things. That's when the checkbook takes a beatin'.......and you'll get tired of lookin' at him.

Tell him I admire his energy & his git'er done attitude.
 
Sassycakes said:
Before I ask for any advice I would like to introduce you to my Husband.View attachment 66517 You would think after 53yrs of marriage I wouldn't need advice, but unfortunately I do. We have had some very busy days this week. First on Tuesday they had a banquet for him for all he did for the community we lived in until a year ago. Wednesday my grandson graduated from college and we attended the graduation. Thursday my grandson had a Graduation party and we went to that,and we got home late. So today I said he should just relax. Well that didn't go over good. So first he insisted on cleaning the basement. Then he decided to power wash the front of the house. Then he decided to do some patch work on the drive way. He just got finished mowing the lawn and came inside. He was sitting about 5 minutes when he fell asleep. Can anyone tell me how to convince a man to relax. You would think I would have figured it out by now.
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Are you complaining? Or bragging? I tend to think it's the latter.
 
I know a fellow like that. He was always having to be doing something.

He was finally diagnosed with having adult ADHD.
 
rgp said:
I'm thinking, be glad you have him? There will come a day that he may not be able to do many/most/all those things. That's when the checkbook takes a beatin'.......and you'll get tired of lookin' at him.

Tell him I admire his energy & his git'er done attitude.
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I am very happy to have him and I pray to have him for many many more years. That's the reason I don't like to see him do too much. Our son and grandsons
offer to do things for him but he always tells them he can handle it. I think he gets insulted when offered help because he thinks it means he is old.
 
Sassycakes said:
Before I ask for any advice I would like to introduce you to my Husband.View attachment 66517 You would think after 53yrs of marriage I wouldn't need advice, but unfortunately I do. We have had some very busy days this week. First on Tuesday they had a banquet for him for all he did for the community we lived in until a year ago. Wednesday my grandson graduated from college and we attended the graduation. Thursday my grandson had a Graduation party and we went to that,and we got home late. So today I said he should just relax. Well that didn't go over good. So first he insisted on cleaning the basement. Then he decided to power wash the front of the house. Then he decided to do some patch work on the drive way. He just got finished mowing the lawn and came inside. He was sitting about 5 minutes when he fell asleep. Can anyone tell me how to convince a man to relax. You would think I would have figured it out by now.
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Dont tell him relax. What he is doing now is keeping him alive. Wish I had that energy
 
fuzzybuddy said:
If your husband is happy doing what he wants/can do, what are you complaining about?
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I have 2 friends with retired husbands,both sit in their recliners with the TV blasting and expect to be waited on...served meals etc.
I think if they ever washed a dish or started the washer the world would stop turning...
Count your blessings.
 
Sassycakes said:
I am very happy to have him and I pray to have him for many many more years. That's the reason I don't like to see him do too much. Our son and grandsons
offer to do things for him but he always tells them he can handle it. I think he gets insulted when offered help because he thinks it means he is old.
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I understand your concern and admire it but......he'll know when he needs a-bit of help. And, he sounds like a strong man that will give in reluctantly.....
 
you are lucky sassycakes---my sil is the laziest man on earth---he does nothing arround the house and my daughter waits on him like she was his personal maid--he could set there and rot before i waited on him cant you just feel the love in this room
 
I totally get this.....

I have one of the same...constantly doing and not relaxing.....

He may say he's relaxing but all the while he's thinking of something else he wants/needs to do.

I find myself trying to discuss anything else other than what needs to be done, hoping it will distract him for a while....

Sometimes you just want to enjoy what you have in the moment and not worry about what needs to be done tomorrow.
 
husband swopping comes to mind lol; but seriously ---if he likes to do jobs then it cant be bad 'if he sat all day did nothing ARRRGH''' so it could be worse sassy ' I
can I join the queue for jobs needing to be done !!!!!!!!!!!!1
 

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