If A Person Sounds Like They Want To Cry Is That Depression?

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Know someone who has days where they sound like they want to cry or just got done crying. They sound weak, frail, don't give a hoot and sound very nasal or like they have a chest cold. Was told the nasal or chesty sound could be undiagnosed bronchitis which doesn't always show on tests and exams. But that really doesn't explain their whiney demeanor.
 

Perhaps this person is going through a very difficult time at the moment. Tears are a normal reaction to many different stressors, without necessarily being indicative of depression. Effective stress release for many.
 

Shalimar said:
Perhaps this person is going through a very difficult time at the moment. Tears are a normal reaction to many different stressors, without necessarily being indicative of depression. Effective stress release for many.
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For an entire day? that's what got me.
 
When my wife thinks about her son, who died of cancer in his teen years, she will tear up. We can be sitting in the living room watching tv, when this happens. Once I see her water eyes, I will ask her what's wrong and she will tell me that she is thinking about him. This generally happens on his birthday or the day he buried. I will have her light a candle, in "Remembrance of Him" and that will dry her tears.

Actually, one of the things we really love about each other is that we can both get "teary eyed" which watching something sensitive on tv or in a movie.
 
Assuming the tone is emotional rather than physical,

What does this friend say when you ask if he/she is upset or sad about something?

Some people really resent prying; some people need a bit of pressure to feel safe explaining what's bothering them... as if you've proved you really care or are really interested.

Some unfortunate people think you should already know what's wrong!

Could just a passing thing.
 
Not that this applies here in particular, but have you ever heard the saying "Only a few people care, the rest are just curious."

I read this along time ago and thought....isn't that the truth.
 
I have a friend who calls me and then starts to cry about something that has gone wrong. She is justified in her crying. If I had her problems I don't know what I would do, the problem is, I can't comfort her because with all the crying,more like wailing I haven't the slightest idea what she is saying. I just tell her I'm sorry but I don't know what you are saying through all the crying. Then we hang up.
 
Ruth n Jersey said:
I have a friend who calls me and then starts to cry about something that has gone wrong. She is justified in her crying. If I had her problems I don't know what I would do, the problem is, I can't comfort her because with all the crying,more like wailing I haven't the slightest idea what she is saying. I just tell her I'm sorry but I don't know what you are saying through all the crying. Then we hang up.
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Aww Ruth, you're a good friend. You did exactly what she needed; you listened! She got to blow off steam and with every sobbing description of a person's misery or problems, they get a little closer to healing or at least understanding what's going on!
 
In her 'later' years..my mother cried quite a-bit. I noticed when I called, or would stop by, etc. I asked her why several times...

Finally got an answer, she was "down"...or more often said she had the "blues" . I asked why?...Finally got an answer...

In a nutshell...her friends were mostly dead, the few who weren't were her age, as such , did nothing. She felt like doing nothing, the docs kept telling her, don't eat this, don't drink that, all she did was go to the doc. My sister [@ that time] lived in another state. I should spend more time with her....I spent plenty of time with her...it was never enough. I told her once that I cannot become her new "social" life / circle....etc,etc.

Sound familiar ?

I think for some folks, crying is a relief valve? I think depression of that sort is a far cry [no pun intended] from real clinical depression. Might sound cruel?...but I do not think it's serious ?

None of us like aging & what it does to us, in any aspect...IMO a good cry, or maybe a stiff drink are coping tools? Maybe even healthy?

We cannot turn back the clock, for ourselves or anyone. And we [in reality] can do little about the ravages [of] aging. Again opinion but i say deal with it how ever we can, in what ever reasonable way works for us.

Perhaps that is what your friend is doing ?
 
I agree with rgp. I don't cry very often. Most of the time something triggers thoughts of my Mom and Dad and family long gone. Then the water falls begin but I've noticed I feel better after a good cry.
 

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