If you are or have been married/partnered .. reflecting on that now.

Verisure said:
You see, now this is why I don't post here very often. A word is spoken or a phrase uttered and I drop into a black depression. Situations and moments that I've forgotten or succeeded in suppressing come back to carve me up and then I have to try to shake the emotion loose all over again. It only takes a word. "Lolly pops and roses", you said. Jack Jones. Back from Vietnam and wondering if life was worth living, feeling pretty sure that it wasn't. And knowing that your husband is gone is like arsenic on the cake. Please someone .... say something to make all of us smile.
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I have no clue about what your response to my comment even means.
 

Tish said:
Well with me it was not a split up, he died, and to be 100% honest with you, I doubt very much that either of us could have done better, that's not to say that we were perfect there were days where I could have happily set him on fire and I am sure he felt the same way.

He often used to say, that when I went through Menopause it was his Vietnam and he was in Vietnam.:D
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It is our duty as husbands to endure our wives' menopause and take the blame for whatever happens. "Yes my sweet, it's my fault you forgot the shopping at the check-out counter. I'll try to be more careful next time."
 

Verisure said:
What's a "couch"?
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As a noun a couch is a long upholstered piece of furniture for several people to sit on, also known as a settee or sofa.
Couch is also a verb:
To express (something) in language of a specified style.
"The assurances were couched in general terms"
In literary terms it means to lay down.
"Two fair creatures, couched side by side in deepest grass"
 
horseless carriage said:
That is the ultimate in product placement. To have a company name adopted for their product. Hoover did it in the UK, for decades almost nobody used the term vacuum cleaner, no matter what make, it was always called a Hoover. The name was even used as a verb. "You made the mess, you Hoover it up."
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And, I believe, the Brits used to (maybe still do) call all condoms 'Durex', whereas in Australia 'Durex' was, (perhaps still is), the all encompassing appellation for what is referred to as 'Scotch Tape', (regardless of the manufacturer), hereabouts.

"A rose by any other name...."
 
Verisure said:
5 - Is your question what I would look for if the two of us were to split up? I don't even want to think of such a thing happening.
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No, though that could be someone’s unfortunate experience.

I had in mind the eventuality of your partner dying of natural causes. My wife recently had her 80th and has an autonomic disease which is playing havoc with many of her systems. She has to see a lot of doctors almost daily and managed so many meds to keep her blood pressure in a life supporting range. We still walk every day but she needs to stop frequently and can’t go far. She reads about her condition, goes to conferences and her diligence is the main reason she is still with us. It can’t last forever under the best of conditions and that isn’t what we have. I guess I started this to try and imagine the future.
 
Nemo2 said:
And, I believe, the Brits used to (maybe still do) call all condoms 'Durex', whereas in Australia 'Durex' was, (perhaps still is), the all encompassing appellation for what is referred to as 'Scotch Tape', (regardless of the manufacturer), hereabouts.

"A rose by any other name...."
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yes because Durex is the Company name... ..altho' of course there's many other manufacturers... Hoover is one I think just about everyone uses when referring to Vacc'ing up... only here on the forum, do I use Vacc'ing instead of Hoovering..
 
Nemo2 said:
Or, perhaps, a chesterfield.
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Nope...at least in the Uk a Chesterfield is a very specific type of couch or sofa..
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hollydolly said:
yes because Durex is the Company name... ..altho' of course there's many other manufacturers...
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If there are other manufacturers then Durex is a company name rather than the company name. Likewise, in Oz, it was the all encompassing company name for what is generically called Scotch Tape here, other manufacturers notwithstanding.

Likewise, as I mentioned just recently, many people refer to "Drinking the Kool Aid" although it's doubtful that they are aware why and/or that the term is incorrect - Flavor Aid is what was imbibed in Jonestown.
 
Nemo2 said:
If there are other manufacturers then Durex is a company name rather than the company name. Likewise, in Oz, it was the all encompassing company name for what is generically called Scotch Tape here, other manufacturers notwithstanding.

Likewise, as I mentioned just recently, many people refer to "Drinking the Kool Aid" although it's doubtful that they are aware why and/or that the term is incorrect - Flavor Aid is what was imbibed in Jonestown.
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I have no idea what Kool Aid is.. it's not a term used in the UK
 
Well, I don't know if I am qualified to answer these questions or not. I failed in Marriage. I have been married three times. That was enough. I am in a relationship but not married nor will I be getting married. I found that the single life is really for me since I am the happiest I have ever been. I know people can have happy marriages, my parents did for 60 years.
 
I would say we kept our wedding vows for 44 years.
There were rich and poor times, sickness and health times, love and cherish times.
There were also you're a jerk times and you're a nag times, wish I never met you times, I'm only here because we have 3 kids times.
Right now we're in a place where we're happy we made it. All else is water under the bridge.
 
katlupe said:
Well, I don't know if I am qualified to answer these questions or not. I failed in Marriage. I have been married three times. That was enough. I am in a relationship but not married nor will I be getting married. I found that the single life is really for me since I am the happiest I have ever been. I know people can have happy marriages, my parents did for 60 years.
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Don't say you failed. You just didn't stay in something that wasn't right whether 3 times or 10 times. You know that because you're the happiest you've ever been!
Marriage isn't for everyone and that's ok.
 
hollydolly said:
how rude.. I think that I know far more about other countries,,,than most people outside of the Uk know about ours..
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No offence intended. Hey, I was born there...hated the place and got out at the first opportunity age 17*......been to ~85 countries.

*I recall, eons ago, reading the forward of a Herman cartoon book by the late Jim Unger, (who produced the cartoons and died in Vancouver)...he was also born in England and said growing up there he felt he'd been transported from another planet.....I empathized.
 
JaniceM said:
Going even further off-topic...

I've heard those referred to as loveseats- similar to couches, but two-seat instead of the usual three.

Chesterfield was/is a brand of cigarettes.
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I have a leather 2 seater loveseat in my livingroom.. along with a matching 3 seater sofa.. very nice leather which I've had for more than 10 years.. but it's not a Chesterfield, which is defined by it's large rolled arms which are the same height as the back...
 
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