I'm becoming a misanthrope

Ruthanne said:
Why put labels on yourself... maybe it's a phase you're going through? Labels are limiting.
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I agree. Labels constrict and define, and don't forgive a person for any mistakes they may have done. They also don't let you breathe free because you will always live by the label's standards. I never liked labels.
 
Sometimes labels are good and sometimes not. Sometimes you need a label to pin down a problem, then you might be able to find help for it. Sometimes a label makes you feel that people are judging you or laughing at you.
There is some kind of label for everyone. There is no normal. Everyone is unique.
 

Rose65 said:
How do I deal with this process? As time goes on, I am less and less impressed with human behaviour, less inclined to trust anyone and I increasingly value solitude.

The way people behaved throughout the pandemic especially influenced and appalled me. It brought out the worst in so many. That experience has changed me forever, all the panic and fear, especially caused by the media. I switch the news on now and never see anything good or useful.The TV schedule is full of stupid noisy people, it's hard to find anything edifying. So reading books is my best bet.

The word misanthrope increasingly seems appropriate to describe me. I can only tolerate my husband and my dog these days, I don't like socialising like I did. Is it ok and healthy to be like this or is it just part of aging?
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i'm sure it's not healthy but i feel the exact same way. i would rather be alone and crazy than have to worry about getting stabbed by a friend because i didn't give them a ride home. there's no way i'll fist fight someone in a grocery store for toilet paper. sometimes i think it's just how things go as we get older and see more crap.
 
feywon said:
As long as you don't harm anyone else, it's fine.
My daughter is more misanthropic than i am because her job puts her in 6 day a week contact with rude, unthinking people much more than sensible, kind people. But then both of us have always valued our solitude. We make sure to respect each other's need for it even tho we live together.
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i find you and your posts very enjoyable. :coffee:
 
Funny. I live in the most liberal state in the union, but I don't see 'woke' behavior any where here. It must be only in the conservative states and places where it is a contrast to the usual. Maybe people are just tired of being squeezed into a box in such places.
 
Rose65 said:
How do I deal with this process? As time goes on, I am less and less impressed with human behaviour, less inclined to trust anyone and I increasingly value solitude.

The way people behaved throughout the pandemic especially influenced and appalled me. It brought out the worst in so many. That experience has changed me forever, all the panic and fear, especially caused by the media. I switch the news on now and never see anything good or useful.The TV schedule is full of stupid noisy people, it's hard to find anything edifying. So reading books is my best bet.

The word misanthrope increasingly seems appropriate to describe me. I can only tolerate my husband and my dog these days, I don't like socialising like I did. Is it ok and healthy to be like this or is it just part of aging?
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I am an introvert and enjoy peace and solitude. There is nothing wrong with that. Everyone is different and we grow and change as we get older. Surround yourself with the people who bring you joy and live your life as you please.
 
I have always been an extrovert but find as I age that I need more alone time. When my dad had a massive stroke at 59 my mom had to rebuild her social life and that was in 1979 when it was much harder to do.

Even though we lived next door she didn’t depend just on us for company. I really admired how she took charge of her life. Not much changed for me when I got divorced but it did for my ex. If I am lonely I go on the meetup app and find something to do. This rarely happens.
 
OlderThanDirt said:
can you define "woke" for me?
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Empathy, caring, dealing with emotion, and being driven primarily for doing the right thing, even if you yourself don't benefit, is demonized in today's society. Giving a damn about anything other than outrage, is supposedly the monster eating our society. Because, you know, the world is only as big as your front yard.
 

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