OK Boomer, face it, youâre now a senior
Christopher Bantick
Being a blue-blood Boomer, I am now a card-carrying senior. I hardly needed reminding. Itâs not the Commonwealth Health Care Card or the seniorsâ cubby house emails that hit the inbox with all kinds of discounts, itâs something more subtle.
When international students offer you a seat on a tram it comes home to you. Forget vanity creep, youâre regarded as, well, old. Maybe itâs the grey hair? Perhaps itâs the âSâ written in felt tip on the reverse of my renewed myki card by a helpful, pitying Metro Trains employee, or is it being asked from theatres to cinemas, âany concessionsâ?
âOK Boomerâ is a popular phrase among Generation Z to dismiss or mock the baby boomer generation.
âOK Boomerâ is a popular phrase among Generation Z to dismiss or mock the baby boomer generation.CREDIT:ISTOCK
We have a problem with age in our society. Thereâs nothing new in that. The problem though lies with older people themselves; seniors, checking out early. Mind you there are plenty of incentives available. Insurance deals for the over 50s, retirement villages or communities that are pitched promising freedom. Get in early and sign up, ensure your place in Godâs waiting room.
Seniors have a choice, behave to type or defy perceptions of age. Itâs far easier to give in to the allure of that cruise to endsville or the hope of landing upon the Best Exotic Marigold Hotel for the last tango in, if not Paris, Noosa than it is to keep squaring up to life ... within reason. Fifty is not the new 30 and 60 is not the new 40. It may not be wise to take up skiing, jet or alpine, when youâre 75.
Nonetheless, there is a certain recklessness with some seniors. It usually ends badly. While the British rock band The Who may have sung, âHope I die before I get old,â there is no reason to feel afraid of being old, or some sense of shame or embarrassment. So why do we as a society see seniors as defeated by years or dismissed as past it? We do not revere age, we fear it.
Seniors have a choice, behave to type or defy perceptions of age.
Seniors have a choice, behave to type or defy perceptions of age.CREDIT:ISTOCK
Michael Caine is 90 this year and still making movies. In a recent interview, he had this to say about his work: âI think if you retire, youâre sort of saying, âIâve given up. Iâm going to sit here and what am I going to do now? Iâll tell you what â Iâm going to dieâ.â
Forget the cliches that youâre only as young as you feel. Or for that matter, whether we can âplay by our own rulesâ. Havenât we earned the right to say, âI donât care, I love it?â Age is sneaky and insistent. âYou canât beat the clockâ as Sergeant Murtaugh bemoans in Lethal Weapon 4.
One of the hardest pills for Boomers to swallow is that they are now old, and that itâs OK to be so. Itâs cold comfort that poets remind us of whatâs ahead. W.B Yeats observed:
âWhen you are old and grey and full of sleep,
And nodding by the fire, take down this book,
And slowly read, and dream of the soft look
Your eyes had once, and of their shadows deep;â
Then there is Thomas Hardy, not one for jollity, who noted the ravages of age: âI look into my glass; And view my wasting skin.â
Not much to look forward to there without Botox.
Thankfully some seniors are remarkably active and effectively begin a second stage of life: volunteering and grandparenting, playing sport, you name it, and theyâre in it. So, why does society still so often regard older people as well past their use-by date or resent them for their success, which is behind the envy of the âOK Boomerâ comments one hears from time to time?
Older people may be categorised as avuncular and benign retirees, attending the matinee of life, but they contribute much to society.
Seniors have to decide how they want to be seen, notwithstanding reasonable health being maintained. They would do well to reflect on what the American poet Mary Oliver says:
âWhen itâs over, I want to say: all my life
I was a bride married to amazement.
I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.â
Itâs OK Boomer after all.