I know for sure that only I, me, and myself will not leave me nor betray me. Therefore, learning to love myself and establishing boundaries to protect my interests has been my goal.My late father had something of an ego you'd have to say, because he used to say how popular he was!
On the other hand, he said too that "friends dont last forever", so however many we might think we have now a few might disappear for one reason or another, so maybe we'd better keep seeking new ones to replace hem if we can(?).
"Therefore transfusion required", (unless you've gotten some religious objections to transfusions?)!i think my love bank bled out back in 1999.
Not quite true. I left my husband because of abuse. I was forced to return because of lack of money. He convinced himself that I had learned a lesson and wouldn't leave again, and the abuse continued. I left again and divorced him....this time I got money from the divorce.Women who know their worth are not afraid to walk out. From Gray's research I've read, Men value women who they know can, and will walk away, if they don't treat them right.
It's only recently that women in abusive relationships have been able to get help. Previously, they were just expected to put up with it.I know women in abusive relationships who feel trapped in their marriage because they can't support themselves. Their abusive husbands refuse to divorce them to keep them as "slave"(their words, not mine).
We are fortunate to have the means to walk away from un-fixable/abusive relationships. Hopefully, if we "get into the market" again, we can identify those we attract whose character exhibit the pattern of our ex(es). They may be the same demons in a different costume. LOL As much as I'd like to start on a clean slate (tabula rasa), I have to keep my senses open to avoid the same mistakes.
Hard call, or just the way you feel looking back?I was never in an abusive relationship or marriage. But, my "ex" and I only seen each other as "good looking". She came from a very, very different upbringing and, basically, wanted nothing to do with the way I was raised as a farmer. Her parents were rich, lived in one of the most-desirable housing developments in So California.
During the years I was divorced/single, I thought mixed "love" and "sex" to much. I could count the number of times I "thought" I was in love..............and, it definitely wasn't love.
Yes that is true, they were expected to put up with all sorts, and a man could physically chastise his wife and not be prosecuted for it even after WWII I believe.It's only recently that women in abusive relationships have been able to get help. Previously, they were just expected to put up with it.
You'd agree with meeting a partner/husband half way I guess, that kind of "equality" even I with jaundiced view of the way equality is defined or redefined, would think this is necessary? .I know for sure that only I, me, and myself will not leave me nor betray me. Therefore, learning to love myself and establishing boundaries to protect my interests has been my goal.
I have learned that I cannot give love on an empty love bank that's where daily affirmations come in to make sure it's filled to the brim.
Love is love is love.You'd agree with meeting a partner/husband half way I guess, that kind of "equality" even I with jaundiced view of the way equality is defined or redefined, would think this is necessary? .
Does "Love is love is love" mean anything other than you're stamping your feet when maybe challenged as to your views?Love is love is love.
If and when I meet the man I'm attracted to and we bond intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, that's when I feel we're equal. If I can feel safe with him, that's the time I know our foundations are strong enough to make a relationship work. My definition of equality in a relationship is when we don't need anything from each other, yet we want to be together to amplify our happiness.
Love may not pay the rent I agree, though the choice of living with someone you love and accepting you may be short on rent money sometimes, against living with someone who you dont love but always having money for the rent man is a finely balanced one you might think, (Oprah Winfrey famously stating: "anyone who marries for money earns every penny!")?You know what needs to be said. Love don't pay my rent, my job does so get stepping fool.
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Love may not pay the rent I agree, though the choice of living with someone you love and accepting you may be short on rent money sometimes, against living with someone who you dont love but always having money for the rent man is a finely balanced one you might think, (Oprah Winfrey famously stating: "anyone who marries for money earns every penny!")?
Do any of the things you describe occur with the frequency you've suggested or have you been indulging yourself by watching too many films on the Horror Channel?Oh I definitely agree but an awful lot of women and men resort to stooping to that level and when the rent money doesn't appear on the kitchen table they call the cops to tell the supporter to get lost (For a while) but when the cops clap on the bracelets they jump on the cops back and try to choke them out. Can't pay the rent from jail.
You better not marry a cop or you could be in real trouble.Oh I definitely agree but an awful lot of women and men resort to stooping to that level and when the rent money doesn't appear on the kitchen table they call the cops to tell the supporter to get lost (For a while) but when the cops clap on the bracelets they jump on the cops back and try to choke them out. Can't pay the rent from jail.
Do any of the things you describe occur with the frequency you've suggested or have you been indulging yourself by watching too many films on the Horror Channel?
You better not marry a cop or you could be in real trouble.