Is 'ladies first' a polite idea, or is it sexist?

[LadyEmeraude]

Is 'ladies first' a polite idea, or is it sexist? Should men do things for women like pull out their chairs at a dinner table or wait for them to go through a door first?

What do you think about it?

 

[Rakaia]

Ooh...
I know a trick question when I see one.

 

[Paladin1950]

Is 'ladies first' a polite idea, or is it sexist? Should men do things for women like pull out their chairs at a dinner table or wait for them to go through a door first?

What do you think about it?

I see nothing wrong with that.

 

[smiley]

polite for the old - sexist for the young - [they don't get it no more?]

 

[oscash]

I love it, and nice to see some gentlemen exist.

 

[LadyEmeraude]

I think it is a harmless thing. Courtesy and politeness.

 

[PeppermintPatty]

It’s a polite idea and much appreciated from my point of view. When doors are held for me I say thank you and smile.

 

[spectratg]

Okay I'll say it, so throw stones at me, but there is an obvious sexual connotation to the question.

 

[LadyEmeraude]

Okay I'll say it, so throw stones at me, but there is an obvious sexual connotation to the question.

ok, let's hear what you have to say Won't throw stones

 

[Aunt Bea]

IMO it’s simply good behavior for both men and women to show a bit of kindness and respect for each other.

Save the ists and the isms for things like equal pay, equal rights, etc..,

 

[HollyRockRoad]

Every time I hold a door open for a young woman, I can't help but think that in 40 years there's going to be a whole lot of tattooed old women.

 

[January]

The chair pulling out is a bit naff IMO, dont really see how it helps anyone

Opening doors - I see that as non gender specific - I hold open a door for anyone coming in after me as do most people regardless of gender. and get up t o open a door if anyone else is going to find it difficult due to carrying a baby, pushing a pram, being disabled or frail elderly etc.

Ladies first seems more a tradition or courtesy used when some people have t o go first and everyone can't go at once - for example a group at a buffet.
If somebody said "for a change we'll have men go first this time - I wouldn't see that as a problem either.

 

[Knight]

Never thought about it one way or another. Automatically pull the chair out for my wife. As for doors if I'm 1st. at the door I'll hold it open no matter what gender is entering after me.

 

[Jules]

As for doors if I'm 1st. at the door I'll hold it open no matter what gender is entering after me.

This. It’s just the polite thing to do. And everyone says thanks.