Is there anything for which you still can not forgive yourself or someone else?

Serenity4321

Serenity4321

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I hope not. I used to feel regret and guilt. The older I became there more I realized we have to forgive ourselves as the only sensible course of action. To continue to punish ourselves accomplishes nothing. If we keep in mind we really did the best we knew how at the time, forgiveness is not so hard. That same principle can be applied to others.
 

It's kind of a stupid one - I scooped up a ball that was destined to roll foul at left field so I could take a runner out at second. He'd already been tagged out on a steal, and the batter who'd have taken first on that foul slammed the next pitch outa the park with a runner at first. We lost the game by those 2 points and it still bugs the crap outa me.
 
It's too late not to forgive. I had a vision. Yes, I did..........of a mystical, whimsical, mischievous person, looking devilish but Not evil. He snapped his fingers while he said "Time's up." Fade to nothing, like the final moment of The Sopranos.

So. It's too late now not to forgive. So I will.
 
Pepper said:
It's too late not to forgive. I had a vision. Yes, I did..........of a mystical, whimsical, mischievous person, looking devilish but Not evil. He snapped his fingers while he said "Time's up." Fade to nothing, like the final moment of The Sopranos.

So. It's too late now not to forgive. So I will.
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I didn't watch The Sopranos. But I agree; it's never too late to forgive.
 
I must have had the words "victim" and "sucker" printed on my forehead from childhood. So, I have quite a list of folks that I have not forgiven. Even though some have died and all others are out of reach, I'll take my grudges to the grave. PTSD doesn't disappear, it only gives occasional respite from the pain. It's easily retriggered and the nightmares become the reality of the day.
 
Em in Ohio said:
I must have had the words "victim" and "sucker" printed on my forehead from childhood. So, I have quite a list of folks that I have not forgiven. Even though some have died and all others are out of reach, I'll take my grudges to the grave. PTSD doesn't disappear, it only gives occasional respite from the pain. It's easily retriggered and the nightmares become the reality of the day.
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Ain't that the truth.. ((hugs))
 
I can think of one person I owe an apology, but that person has been gone for a number of years, and I certainly don't think I am due an apology from anyone. So I guess that's a no.
 
My Father lived 2-1/2 hours away and towards the end of his life he didn’t let me know exactly what was going on with his health. He hid things well. I was so unprepared when he passed. It devastated me. He was my hero and I let him down because I didn’t know. I was so angry with him I hated him. So when he came to me in a dream I yelled and screamed at him. My first apology I need to give after I pass is to him. As I get older, I understand why he did what he did.
 
As an adult, there has not been much in my personal life where forgiving someone has been an issue. As an adult, no one has ever physically assaulted me or stolen my materials or assets. Likewise no one has ever seriously attacked those I care for. Generally I have a long developed habit of suppressing emotions during interpersonal communications. Much depends on the situation and circumstances.

I don't see the issue as black and white and view Bible scripture for those supporting the view, one is supposed to always without exception forgive others, as taken out of context. Generally Jesus was referring to social conflicts among one's group where one will continue to be involved with them over time. For instance work mates, relatives, community members. For example, one ought not forgive others without remorse or regret for serious evil attacks for which there is no recovery. Forgive a person that murders a love one? No. Forgive a fiend that burns down your residential neighborhood during windy fire weather? No. Forgive a relative that became emotionally angry, going ballistic with nonsense verbal aggression? Sure.
 
David777 said:
As an adult, there has not been much in my personal life where forgiving someone has been an issue. As an adult, no one has ever physically assaulted me or stolen my materials or assets. Likewise no one has ever seriously attacked those I care for. Generally I have a long developed habit of suppressing emotions during interpersonal communications. Much depends on the situation and circumstances.

I don't see the issue as black and white and view Bible scripture for those supporting the view, one is supposed to always without exception forgive others, as taken out of context. Generally Jesus was referring to social conflicts among one's group where one will continue to be involved with them over time. For instance work mates, relatives, community members. For example, one ought not forgive others without remorse or regret for serious evil attacks for which there is no recovery. Forgive a person that murders a love one? No. Forgive a fiend that burns down your residential neighborhood during windy fire weather? No. Forgive a relative that became emotionally angry, going ballistic with nonsense verbal aggression? Sure.
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You are an interesting person.
 
I have done a lot of forgiving but still bear the hurt and scars, etc.. of things that happened. Sometimes when I think of those things I get angry and then I ask myself if I've done my best to forgive if the anger still lingers at times. I just don't know sometimes.

And no, I have not forgiven myself for all I've done wrong but working on it. I have forgiven myself for a lot of things, though.
 
In the great scheme of things it is a silly thing, I had an opportunity to buy a real Navajo cradle board for 5 bucks, DH was in the car and I chose not to go get the 5 bucks from him. I still kick my butt for that dumb move. We went back an hour later and of course it was gone.

Then I hurt a dear friends feelings one day, I regret that but I can't ask forgiveness now as he is probably dead now.
 
I have forgiven people I never thought I would never forgive because how long am I going to live? Does not forgiving make anything better? No it doesn't. I don't forget though.
I cannot forgive myself for something though which is very personal. :confused:
 
I can't forgive my neighbors from where I lived before I moved to where I am at now. no matter how much I did for them they believed a lie about me. As for me forgiving me for something I regret I can't think of anything.
 
Pepper said:
No, not never too late--Too late not to. As in, it really doesn't matter anymore, does it?
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Ah. No, it doesn't.

I've been treated horribly by only a few people in my life. I tried to work things out with one of them, my ex-wife, and that was a mistake. From then on, I walked away from harmful relationships, and didn't look back at all. I learned the best thing for me is to just go on with my life, and stop thinking about the person and my humiliation and anger asap. No grudges, no revenge, I just let it go.

Maybe that's forgiveness, I'm not sure.
 
Lots of people I will never forgive. Both my parents are dead and I never forgave them for things they did. I sometimes think I should have told them just how much they screwed up, but I didn't. Other people, well if I heard that they had been attacked and died in agony, I'd have a party to celebrate.
 
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