It Takes Effort To Be Social Living Alone

maybenot

Member
Location
South Australia
Before my OH died, we did everything together, there were couples that we'd catch up with at weekends but neither of us went anywhere without the other, it seemed normal to me at the time

Anyway, now I find that most of our former acquaintances have either passed too, or moved away and I've only one friend who I see once a week for a couple of drinks at the local pub, I pick her up and her hubby comes and takes her home.
She recovering from chemo after having a mastectomy and doesn't go anywhere either

Apart from the checkout staff at the shops etc, she's the only person I speak to ...OH yes and the guy who keeps my postage stamp patch of grass tidy, he'll ring me once a month to arrange times

I'm okay once I get to know folk, it's just finding somewhere to go alone that's difficult, I keep myself amused with online sudoku,? trivia quiz etc and I read a lot, plus do my steps but sometimes I get very bored

I'm not desperate for company all the time but now and again it would be nice to have a real chat with someone/anyone!
My cat doesn't understand me and only communicates when she wants food
 

katlupe

Senior Member
Location
NY
I don't seek anyone out but when someone comes knocking on my door and comes in I do enjoy their company. I hardly ever go to someone's door unless for a specific reason.

I had some very close friends in the past when I was married to my first husband and we went everywhere together. He divorced me and they stayed his friends not mine. So I learned a long time ago to not be dependent on anyone else for my happiness. And twice, I had to leave my marriages due to that reason. Happiness is important as we get older. Even if we have to push ourselves to do things alone. I find that people talk to me and I may not be friends with them, but I have interactions with others.
 

Junebug63

New Member
Location
Atlanta, GA
This was the reason why I moved out of the complex I used to live in. It was all too communal and you were expected to join in with everything. I actually took to creeping out the back entrance, so that I didn't have to face the questions as to where I was going.
Now I'm in a much smaller unit and we all keep to ourselves.
Hi Rosemarie....do you care to chat sometime. I know exactly what it means living alone. I live in GA
 

katlupe

Senior Member
Location
NY
I think to chat you click on the person's name and it takes you to their profile where you can start a private chat with them.
 


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